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I have a wonderful boyfriend.

However, he’s been very busy trying to prepare for MedSchool. He’s studying extra hard for his MCATS, doing all of his applications, and still taking classes. I support him 100% in all of this. And although there are selfish thoughts at times, I keep them to myself so as to not cause any more stress in his life. I love him very much and I want him to succeed. We had set a date for tomorrow, since I will have completed my finals, he was going to take a break from his studying to spend the day with me.

We’ve both been very excited about this. However, today he tells me that tomorrow he has to go to his sister’s graduation from 2-5, but that we will hang out after. His sister is how we met in the first place, and is a close friend of mine. I had invited him to my brother’s graduation that will be taking place next weekend, yet he didn’t invite me to his sister’s?

So not only does he cut our date in half, but also doesn’t include me in what seems like the sort of event you’d invite your girlfriend to, especially if she is friends with your sister.

We’ve been dating for over a year and a half. His mom and my mom are very close, and I’ve known his entire family since I was 10 years old. I’m 20 right now. I’m starting to feel very hurt.

I’ve invited him to some of the most embarrassing family outings, and I always ask to bring him along. I love him very much, but I’m confused as to why he would not include me?And I feel hurt.

I don’t know if I should tell him how I feel, or if this is just another one of those selfish thoughts I need to keep to myself.
Any help is appreciated.
Thank you.

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humblylost offline Verified User (6 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 5 months, 3 weeks ago (2 minutes after post)

you should definitely tell him how you feel. He may be under a lot of stress right now, and it seems you are doing your best to support him however he needs you to… But he needs to meet your needs in this relationships too. It goes both ways! And maybe he has no idea you feel hurt. Try bringing it up in a non-defensive way, and ask if there’s a time you could talk about this. maybe you could even write a note to him, if that seems easier at the time being.

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R.A.M offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months, 3 weeks ago (5 minutes after post)

Well!
Did you try telling him that you would love to attend his sis’s graduation as well?
Or are the number of seats limited?
thats may be why he didnt invite you as there werent any spare seats…

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metropolyric offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 5 months, 3 weeks ago (15 minutes after post)

True all of the above said; however, you have to realize that guys this ambitious and dedicated to achieving their goal will not let anything stand in their way. It’s not that he doesn’t care about you, he just has a long term goal he ultimately wants to accomplish. Sure, it may also be a bit of time that you’re asking from him, such as attending his sister’s graduation, but there could be many reasons why he is acting like this: maybe he feels his sister and family deserve his full attention…or maybe he’s so busy he forgot? To be honest, you’ll have to clarify this with him.

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