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then why post this if its a ’so what’ situation? the longest someone can go without food is a month (4 weeks) u need to eat, find a nutritionist, they can help

find help, please if u dont get the right amount of nutrition it can be really bad. what has made you not want to eat??

This is an eating disorder. Perhaps anorexia. It is a psychological problem and you don’t have to think your fat to acquire it.

Not eating a lot and not eating at all is a completely different thing

Again - this is a psychological disorder that you must attend to.

What does that even mean? This is not “shiit”. Its a serious problem kid - you have to take care of yourself. Why did you post here if not to find a way to help yourself?

one step at time.

Food and a safe place to sleep.

If you are stressed, it can be hard to digest food. Get somewhere you feel safe and can relax, and get some food into you.

any idea’s where that safe place for you is?

Talk to a school counceler.

what city you in? I can give you a few numbers to call of places that you can feel safe in.

http://www.google.com.au/search?hl=en…

do any of them look useful?

if you are still bleeding, then you want to get to the hospital right?

whats stopping you?

sorry, I’m not l33t…

you are terrified of your family, and you have been to hospital many times before and you find them scary?

If you have been there before, and they didn’t help, I can see why you mightant want to go back.

But there are other options, but its hard to see them right now as you are tired and scared and in pain.

hang in there meg :-)

well, you have a lot going on, so maybe facing the pain of the past is too much to add to that. At your age, it would be nice if you just had to worry about what coloured shoes match your dress, but life isn’t always fair or easy. Hang in there.

http://www.metroymca.org/
http://www.heartlandfamilyservice.org/

how do they look. they have people who can at least tell you about the help you can get in your area. I understand that in the past adults haven’t helped much, but there are some that are more useful and caring than others.

all the best.

so you know the basic stuff, but feeling stuck about what you can do next to get out of the jam you are in?

Sound like you are mostly just scared and angry about your mum being a jerk, and the earlier and further you can get away from her the better. In time, you can heal the rift between you, but first you need to feel safe. But its complicated right, you have your little bro to look after.

Don’t think there is an easy or simple way through this, or you would have found it already, but having people here online might help a bit, help get your thoughts straight, help you get some perspective, let you know your not completely alone.

meg_ryan wrote:
yea, i guess. yea, maybe

haha, you can say “nope” if you want, I can handle it.

I’m not so great with the empathy stuff, I’m more analytical, but I do care. So if I see a way I can help, I’ll try, but if I’m talking **** feel free to tell me.

meg_ryan wrote:
scared of my mom and dad…and my step dad.. dad thinks im the devil and i should be dead. step dad thinks im a screw up, step mom says im crazy. and well mom.. and mom and dad do a lot of crap. :(

wow, and your still sane enough to type, come offer me advice some time.

Ok, so why you still there? Not suggesting running away or anything like that, just that if they are your primary care givers, I think you can do better.

meg_ryan wrote:
its not that…i was.. i guess confused. sorry, and someone was talking to me..at my house..so i was nervise. sorry

all good. Don’t have to say sorry to me, but I get that its a habit. Is the local person trying to help? they might be better than I can be online.

meg_ryan wrote:
my mom and step dad are my primary care givers…and i had thought of running away..but that ment getting into truble with the law,

and im not sane most of the time..

ok, but there is a middle option. If you could get away from them for a while AND not be in trouble with the law AND get looked after food shelter education wise,
would that be interesting?

you have brains - thats clear from your vocab and articulation.
you have guts - your still around
you care about people - your little bro

Thats a lot in this world. If you can get clear and feel safe for long enough to get relaxed and sorted, you’ll have a sweet *** life.

http://www.heartlandfamilyservice.org…

is this near you? you could write them an email if you want, that way its safe and anon, or you could call them.

If you wanted someone to email them for you, just ask.

understood. how about…

Dear heartland family service,

I’m looking for services available to someone in the following situation, I’d really appreciate you help.

“scared of my mom and dad…and my step dad.. dad thinks im the devil and i should be dead. step dad thinks im a screw up, step mom says im crazy. and well mom.. and mom and dad do a lot of crap. :(”

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i cant keep anything down. i try to eat then i just get sick, or im not hungry so i dont eat…i sometimes go 2 weeks without eating..but i dont realize that i havent. and when i do eat..its not a lot…so yea…and i dont think im that fat..but hay so what.”

List your area, age, and that you are not feeling safe at home, and that you are trying to end a cutting addiction.

If you are scared, you don’t need to attach your name. I can email them for you if you want, but I’m not the best writer.

How do you feel about this angle on things? I’d guess it was uncomfortable, but is there a slight positive feeling as well?

Understood about the fear, makes sense, but its an option if you ever feel you want to take it. Or just ask someone here.

Panic attack or are you cold? Sleep might be the best option?

fear give you adrenaline, so you can act. If you can’t or won’t do anything, eventually your body needs to come down off the adrenaline high and you start to shake. Normal, so don’t worry to much about it.

But if you can use that fear to somehow improve your situation, then WIN!

ok, yeah you got me, I have a sore ego about it too. I’m far from perfect, but I’m here :-)

I emailed them just asking about services in your area, not giving them any details about you. If they write back, I’ll drop in here and you can do with it what you want.

gtg soon, but all the best with it all.

meg_ryan wrote:
thanks…i wish i new that like 10 seconds ago..i finally got through with the email..but it sounds stupid..so yea.
:( :( :(

Its ok to sound stupid around decent people. They are there to help, not judge you. Bet they wouldn’t sound so smart if they had to handle everything you are.

btw,

HOORAY!!!!!!!! for you. Kick ***. Looking after yourself. total win.

*high five* *fist bump*

don’t leave me hanging…

thanks, no I feel good.

( to be honest, this helps me a bunch too. You aren’t the only one afraid to ask for help. I don’t want make my next appointment with my councillor, as he’ll poke me and make sense and I’ll feel uncomfortable. But giving advice to you helps me see that I really want to get out of the place I’m in, and that I don’t want to avoid it for another week)

*now I feel good

ok, time to head. all the best meg

Im not sure if your ill and unwilling to eat or if your depressed or if its an eating disorder. Most likely the first two since you dont think your fat

oops that was a run on sentence lol

You say your not fat in your mind so i dont think its an eating disorder, if you had an eating disorder you would know. Are you depressed? Because depression decreases appetite. Or its none of those then its a medical problem and you need to see a doctor.

sum wrote:
oops that was a run on sentence lol

You say your not fat in your mind so i dont think its an eating disorder, if you had an eating disorder you would know. Are you depressed? Because depression decreases appetite. Or its none of those then its a medical problem and you need to see a doctor.

However that is bulimia, a person suffering from anerexia doesn’t necessarily think they are fat they may just do it to feel in control, which I think is what is happening here, you see your parents arguing but you feel powerless to stop it so you begin looking for some control over everything, and so now you have stopped eating to make you feel power. You are taking the right steps and we are here for you.

You keep doing that and you’re really going to make yourself sick. Anemia can really overtake if you keep on doing that.

that is probably what is happening with the blood.

I think you are doing that to yourself because you want your parents to quit fighting and arguing about you. As long as they keep on doing that, you will go on without eating for long periods of time. If they don’t see that, then they are as blind as a bat and they need to quit being so selfish and concentrating on their fights and worry about how they can help you.

Do you know what Anemia is?

Definition

Your body needs vitamins — nutrients found in most foods — for many reasons, including producing healthy red blood cells. If your body is deficient in certain key vitamins, you can develop a type of anemia called vitamin deficiency anemia.

In vitamin deficiency anemia, the body doesn’t make enough red blood cells. Red blood cells carry oxygen from your lungs to all parts of your body. Because vitamin deficiency anemia reduces the number of healthy red blood cells, your body can’t get all the oxygen it needs to feel energized. Vitamin deficiency anemia can also lead to other health problems, such as memory difficulties and tingling in your hands and feet.

You can usually correct vitamin deficiency anemia with supplements and changes in diet.

Vitamin deficiency anemias can result in:

* Fatigue
* Pale or yellowish skin
* Sore mouth and tongue
* Weight loss
* Diarrhea
* Numbness or tingling in your hands and feet
* Muscle weakness
* Irritability
* Unsteady movements
* Mental confusion or forgetfulness

Vitamin deficiencies usually develop slowly, over several months to years. Vitamin deficiency symptoms may be subtle at first, but they increase as the deficiency worsens.

You need to take care of yourself. You just became my friend and I want you around for a long, long time! :)

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umm go to the doctor maybe….

The_Hooded_Wonder9 says:
k… wel… if u dun.. wnna…. et.. it… s k.i meen… lke… omg….
The_Hooded_Wonder9 says once more:
EAT……. OR YOU DIE… YOUR CHOICE. :]

Maybe you have a tumor or something blocking your path?? Id see a doc. Just get checked.

you have lots of good advice coming from people, but you don’t need to always agree with them or act to make them happy.

We aren’t professionals, and we often jump into a story half way through and might miss the big picture.

It is very important to eat, but as you’ve said, you can’t keep anything down - so there is no point in just saying “you must eat”. It could be just massive stress, or it could be medical, or something else no one here knows, which is why doctor is important.

You are not comfortable with doctors, so it gets complicated.

People here care about you, but ultimately, it’s you that is going to help yourself.

How you feeling? Have you managed to eat something yet? Did the family services place respond yet?

Hey meg, Ive just read the advice Chunkymoneys giving you, and he’s spot on.

Listen to him I think he understands best where you are coming from.

Your problems may be problems of the heart and mind and thats where you should start to resolve them.

The best thing to do is talk, as you are doing here, and the best self help threapy is helping other people, again which you are doing here. (It says at the top haha).

Keep your chin up, and when you feel a little low find people you can talk to, they
may not always be home (or school or friends), thats the **** thing. Sometime you need to have the drive to feel better or to better yourself to get places.

Again, this is what your doing here. When things get to much just remember you have it in you to find the right people, email centers, get on the street etc etc.

Only word of warning: When your weak beware of people who dont care and gain pleasure from your misery. You will also find those people online but they are much easier to ignore/walk away from here than they are in the street.

I think here and any help centers you approach are the best bet. If you dont agree with the advice given its probably wrong for you at this time. Any carer who takes pride in their job will understand if they have the right advice they will have to communicate it to you in a way you understand if its to have teh desired effect.

TAKE CARE HUN!!!

meg_ryan wrote:
chunkymove i no i dont got to agree with everyone…but i guess im just used to it…its usally agree..or somethin bad happens..

I soooo understand that, you figured that out many years younger than I did, your pretty smart yourself. And about the sorry to.

I know you’ve got a lot going on, but if you ever feel like it, I wrote a short post about having to agree and apologise http://help.com/post/278213-anger-man…

Firstly I think you need to be safe - first aid and with some food in your belly. But then need to feel safe before all the best advice can be acted on. Pity about them not responding, didn’t respond to me either, and I wrote a profesional sounding email.

Is there another way for you to feel safe?

Can you call them? Friends, other family, avoid parents for a bit, other councillors? Did the hospital have any brouchers about extra services around?

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In other news, how you doing today Meg? My sister just had a baby girl, and as so I get another uncle up another princess :-)
How’s you world going?

http://www.heartlandfamilyservice.org…
got some phone number on there. Is this the right city for you?

Yeah, sometimes the world is evil :-(

Sorry to hear about your headache, you got anything to take for that? Maybe just get some food and sleep, or even a big glass of water. Hmm, should take my own advice…

http://www.heartlandfamilyservice.org…
how about that sort of thing?

I understand that you feel you need to agree and stuff, but if you can think of a way we can help more productively, let us know. Happy to just listen if you want, listen without all the judging and trying to solve everything straight away…

*hugs you* So you know ive actually gone kind of anarexic almost a few times in the past but it usually only lasted a week for me at a time =P