Love help: I know my personality is lacking with new people I just dont know how to fix it.

Rarara

I know my personality is lacking with new people I just dont know how to fix it.

I’m 19 I’ve never really been in a relationship I use to be about 300 pounds (I am 6′2) but now im 200lbs and in really good shape which I always told myself once I accomplished getting in good shape everything would be better but while I know girls think I am attractive they never act on it and I dont either, recently I’ve been sinking deeper and deeper into depression. I know I am above average looks wise but it doesnt matter I am THE WORST at talking with people I dont know, and I really dont know any girls that are my age that I am at all interested in. I just feel so hopeless

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An Undisclosed Location | 3 years, 3 months ago (10 minutes after post)

You shouldnt. Be proud of yourself and dont change who you are. Take one step at a time. Be truthful in your conversation and dont critize yourself. As long as you mean what you say then there should be nothing to worry about. Be confident and start believing in yourself ma man.

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An Undisclosed Location | 3 years, 3 months ago (29 minutes after post)

Have you seen a psychologist?

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Rarara 0 #
An Unknown Location | 3 years, 3 months ago (41 minutes after post)

to diesel: I try to tell myself that stuff…but it seems like unattractive has been beaten so hard into my brain that I cant get it out.

to queen:
no….Ive always been the tough type of non emotional person I’ll “do what needs to be done” dont let stuff get to me etc..

Im just saying I’m 19 and dont think I can afford something like that and asking my parents would be reallllllly awkward..plus it would mean admitting to myself I’m not the tough guy I claim to be but then again I kind of have already by posting here.

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An Unknown Location | 3 years, 3 months ago (42 minutes after post)

I’m pretty sure no one I know has any idea I feel this way

afusco 3 #
Medford, NJ, US | 3 years, 3 months ago (46 minutes after post)

It sounds to me that your actions and attitudes are based on the lies that have been told to you. It is time to start acting on truth. How does God see you? List the things in his design of you that please him. What do you have to offer in a relationship? What do those who are close to you say about you? If you can’t believe what God and those people say about you, how can you expect others to believe it?

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Wilmington, NC, US | 3 years, 3 months ago (1 hour, 4 minutes after post)

I know it is always easier said than done, but try to focus on the positive. You have lost 100 lbs -that is awesome! do you really remember how badly you felt about yourself when you were 300 pounds? Your being shy will not keep love from landing on your doorstep; don’t be in such a hurry, be patient, good things are just around the corner, but if you are down in the dumps you might not see them when they show up. Buck-up baby, you are handsome, young, and healthy. THink of life more like an adventure, one where you never know what is around the corner, and stop trying to live your life according to someone elses standards.

If you pay attention on this site you will see many posts of people who are in relationships and are just as unhappy as you are. Choose to be happy the way you are and you will be, it is really that simple sometimes.

PS if you are really really good looking it might be intimidating for average looking girls to tell you they think you are hot -we are all human (meaning sometimes insecure). -just a thought

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Rarara 0 #
An Unknown Location | 3 years, 3 months ago (1 hour, 22 minutes after post)

I will try to be patient. I’m usually pretty happy, this just hit me all of a sudden. Hopefully it will pass and you will be right. thanks for the help it has made me feel somewhat better.

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