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There’s two girls, one I really like and one I wish I’d never met, and they’re friends.

The reason I hate the second girl (who, for the sake of anonminity I shall call Girl B) is rather a long story:

- I’ve never had a proper girlfriend (dunno why, everyone says I’m decent looking and sweet etc..)
- Girl B starts full on acting like she fancies me (other people noticed too - not in my head :P)
- Suddenly (just before I had built up the courage to ask her out) she starts actively avoiding me
- I, naturally, think I have done something wrong - months of confusion and guilt
- Finally I couldn’t take it any more and ask her what was going on - she said she didn’t fancy me, fair enough. Then I asked why she acted like she did, ignoring me and so on. She said she was bored and wanted something to do. It’s really messed me up, I don’t feel like I can trust anyone as someone I really trusted had hurt me so much. She still hasn’t said sorry to my face, only a couple of “soz”’s by text.

I havn’t really known the other girl (Girl A) that long but in a few months she has become one of my closest and most trusted friends. I do fancy her, but I’ve decided its better to keep quiet and have her in my life as a friend rather than risk things being awkward. We hang out a lot and she is always really nice to me.

The problem is Girl A and Girl B are friends. And in a selfish stupid way it hurts me that Girl A, despite knowing what Girl B did to me, still talks and laughs with her as if she hadn’t done anything. Despite being the victim this makes me feel like I’m the bad guy, that if it weren’t for me everyone would be happy. Its a situation that I spend most of my time trying to figure out. I end up being really horrible to Girl A purely because I have to let my feelings out as anger or I’ll just break down and cry (and she’s so nice she forgives me for doing this)and I feel really guilty. I want to ask her to choose between Girl B and me, but that’s a really horrible thing to want to do. Please help..

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hannahx12 offline Verified User (10 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 6 months, 1 week ago (29 minutes after post)

first of all NEVVVVVVERRRRRRRR ever make someone choose between there friends, what will end up happening is “girl a” will eventually choose “girl b” over you.
(there friends)
and to “girl a” may come off as selfish and she’ll think of you as a jerk
(even though your not, your just going through things right now)

even if “gilr a” still is friends with “girl b” that shouldnt stop you from liking “girl a”, and “girl b” is like just a cloud blocking your sun.
(and yet the sun still shines)

yeah “girl b” might still be in the picture, but that wont be a problem unless you make it a problem. its clear that “girl b” hurt you, and hurt you bad. you shouldt even think of her all you should be focusing on is “girl a”, dont waste your time pondering over “girl b”, she’s not worth it to you.

one last thing i want to say is to be careful, you dont want you and “girl a’s” situation to end up like yours and “girl bs” situation.

i wish you luck!
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cardozastefa offline Verified User (7 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 68 #
An Unknown Location | 6 months, 1 week ago (53 minutes after post)

Tricky situation m8, maybe you shud let girl A how u feel about her and Girl B. But try not to get to emotional over girl B in your explaination.

Alternatively, you could wait for Girl A to out the woodwork if she chooses to.

Either way you need to be very careful as young girls have a common pride between to get lads to fall in love with them. Im sure you’ve heard of heartbreak before and it sounds like you’ve probably been thru. Priority number 1 should be to prevent the same thing happening twice. If you can work out the best way to protect your heart, this should attract Girl A even closer towards you. Girls love a challenge, but remember if a challenge is love then, once you give your heart it may be the challenge over.

I think overall you should protect yourself as hard as it may be and make sure you dont get involved with Girl A until you get to her properly. And I mean real properly. Then you never know, maybe it’ll work out? Who knows in love, its the biggest stubling block on the planet, if any1 of us could explain we’d be running the world, not the country.

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