Love help: Can anyone explain to me in their own words what love actually is? - Help.com

for me, Love is willing to give up all my dreams and hopes just to be with them if only for a little while, its like puting your life on hold. wishing away every second you have with them. but love is not one sided, it must be shared. when your in a room will of people, nothing else matters, people will come and go, but to you, there is only that, the two of you. you would trade a world of hurt for nothing more then a smile from them. trade years of dismay for a few seconds of nothing but them. the bond becomes unbrakeable. you fill the voids of each others lives, and mend the broken hearts.

expirance, though thats why I added the bit about shared, mine was not.

Feels like warm apple pie.

Love feels like all the positive electric energy has consumed you and you are tremendously focused on the person who gave you that feeling.

Loving someojne means that you will stay by their side and be there for them NO MATTER WHAT!!!

I love you, it wasn’t random, It was from a movie and I tend to agree with it in a metaphorical sense. Love is like that comfort food when the world is peaceful and everything is pure and good.

yeah, I know, but I had to defend myself to those who haven’t seen it.

lol Interesting analogy there!! Can you actually have love without life? Ooooh!

*sigh* Particulars. lol

Now thats great!! I wonder if that will score me some points with the Mrs tonight!

Yeah, I think I’ll just use your earlier quote. Might not get me far, but it’s good to be honest…isn’t it? Besides, we’re gong out drinking, so it just makes since to equate love to cigarettes.

Love is when the fear of your own death pales in comparison to the idea of how you would react and live on in response to the death of the other person

Or when you could look and feel your worst ever…and still know that the other person is attracted to you …lol

Get down to earth, you lot. Most of the above is infatuation. You get the hots for the other person, you think they’re supercool and you will never be able to live without them…. Once you get together the warts start showing and the thrill of the chase subsides…. Now you can go a couple of ways.. You can drift into a routine and promise each other eternal love, but with the thrill gone you’re both at risk of looking for it elsewhere. OR You can become best friends and find all sorts of joys together. OR You can just be sex bunnies and live seaparate lives. OR ….

I think ultimately long term love is very much a decision (after the infatuation stage or even without it ever having been there)rather than something that just happens. It’s a mutual commitment and needs to be fed regularly, and in truth, I wonder if love is everything it is made out to be….. Remember Meatloaf’s cynical song: “Life is a Lemon and I want my money back!…What about Love? Love is defective! It’s always breaking in half!…”

Love is multifaceted, it comes in many different forms. Some love lasts a lifetime, others last 10 minutes. (And I’ll swear even now that it more like 15 minutes!) ;-)

Love is undefineable

Dear KevinK,
If I understand your question corretly then here is my answer. To be romantically in love is difficult to mistake for anything else. Here is how it feels for me. When you see the person you love, your heart suddenly skips a beat. When he/she touches you or you are close to each other, you feel a rush and a feeling almost like slipping into a fantastic hot bath. You feel ligh headed. Not hungry. Motivated. Everything is beautiful. When you see something beautiful you cant wait to share it with the person you love. You think of them all the time. You want to look the best and do the best for them all the time. You want to make the smile. You want to make them laugh. And the sound of their vioce and the sound of their laughter is the most beautiful thing you have ever heard. Sex does not matter. You just want to be close.

That is how I experience romantic love. For the first time in my life. I am 29.

Oops I did it again… I am the only gay Eskimo now…

I love your definition Eskimo, Thats what we refer to as the “honeymoon phase.” True love will take work and sacrifice to uphold. But the rewards are immense! (and I dont mean just the tax breaks! ;-)

I don’t think that I have ever experinced love. But I think that it would be like this:
You are always thinking about them
And when you do your heart is pounding
Your head is spinning you can’t think
of anything but them. Your chest is
blowing up like a balloon. Your dizzy.
you stomeache is in a pianful knot yet
it doesn’t hert.You feel like you are
floating. It’s magic that you thought
could only be in fairy tales

That is what I think Love is.
Real love not that fluffy lust junk.

I spelled stomache wrong it should be stomache.

Your right I also spelled these wrong
experinced=experienced
pianful=painful
hert=hurt
I really should pay more attention.

Hey LC, Im not the best when it comes to grammer, but I find it helps to proof read before I click “Send Reply.”

I read to fast and sometimes I miss my own mistakes animal.
You don’t have to be rude!

I was actually trying to be helpful, I dont understand how offering a suggestion to better your typing skills can be considered rude. I even said that Im not the best at it. Oh well….what was the name of this site again?

Sorry. It sounded like you were being rude.

No animal.

Animal, It may also help to type your reply in Microsoft Word so you can run a spell check. This will help prevent you from spelling grammar wrong. ok, now I’m just being stupid, sorry. Love ya man.

IT IS A FEELING THAT YOU HAVE WHEN ALL YOU WANT IS TO BE NEAR THE PERSON OF YOUR AFFECTION(sorry) udealy you woul think more about their needs than your own ” how can i make their lives better today” communication between the two of you is key. listen more than you speake look for comon interests, support each others hopes-dreams no matter wher that may take each of you. it is important that you work on becoming the best you you an be spend time with friends,family stay involved with your hobbies share each others go slow you have lots of time to get serious

sorry i wa so long i did not mean to yell at you my caps button was down and i did not know if you what a short version just read the cap line. rob:-)

Hi there, guy–you’ve asked an amazing question and one that has many definitions–like you said, not in the dictionary.

I’m guessing because you are young–you are ‘in love’ and also ‘love’ your girlfriend. Being ‘in love’, that crazy, wonderful, over-the hill feeling of elation, finding yourself beautiful, accepted and glorious in another person’s eyes–that ‘in love’ state lasts about eighteen months and will begin to fade away. It doesn’t disappear entirely, or shouldn’t, between a guy and gal, as they begin to know each other in a more mature, REAL way. Most of us fall in love with our ‘idea’ of who the other person is–that has little or nothing to do with the reality of who the person is in their inner self. When we are ‘in love’ we try to do everything possible to meet the needs of that other person and also to insure we keep feeling that wonderful high of being in love.

Loving a person fully requires time, patience, forgiveness and committment above all things.

Many people want to live in the ‘high’ of being IN LOVE even as adults in their fifties and sixties and never find the real thing. The real love commits to love and serve another person, to stand with them and work the hard stuff through. It’s hard, hard work but worth it in the long run. Because love never fails.

Unfortunately one needs to know love is not a feeling; one needs to seek love and work hard to own it. Real love is finding a balance of serving the other person and still maintaining a healthy amount of care for one-self.

I’m sorry this relationship hasn’t worked out for you; however; be encouraged–a broken heart will heal.

Please take time between this love and when you look for the next one who will surely come along. Your heart needs to heal and then you will be well ready to venture forth on your search for real love.

God bless you.

Our love started about seven years ago. We were totally oblivious to it.We worked together and had a mutual respect for each other in what we did. We became friends that were there for each other. We went on road trips, had dinner together, and had long talks, all while not being romantically involved. We talked many times of why we were so lonely. There must be someone out there for each of us! Never did either one of us think to look to each other for love. We went about our lives looking for the special someone.
About 3 years ago a mutual friend came to us individually and said” what the hell is wrong with you two, don’t you see that you are meant for each other?”. we haven’t looked back. We love our life together. We respect each other. We want the same things. Our wants and needs are is just that. Ours! Mutual everytning. No mine and yours. Ours! Touch? We won’t go very long without it. Our hands fall into each others as if magnetized. Laughter fills our day. We act as i we are little children.
We compiment each other. Where one of us are lacking, the other shines. When one of us is lacking for words, the other steps in. That works in most situations through out the day. WE make a whole. If you notice the word I, me, him, her, and you are rarely in our replies. It is because WE are trully WE. This is what love is about

its realy hard to explain. i guess love isnt just having a crush on someone, but you are willing to do anything for them.

look in your shout box, alalshaibi.

If you are not wanting to talk about love for friends or family or romantic you are wanting to talk about “Agape Love” which is Gods love that overflows to all mankind. It is not a feeling but an act or lots of acts that have the other persons best interests in mind. The bible best describes this in the book of 1 Corinthians chapter 13 verses 4-17. Obviously little people cannot contain the great love God has so it is seen in many people worldwide to show how vast and deep and through all ages. Individually we can be burdened by the great need around us but we are required only to do what is in front of us. Hope this answer is not too text book definition. All the best.

Oh, sorry I just reread the question. Romantic love is called eros love. It’s actually there for the purpose of procreation. I really must read a little better. :)

for me, love is when you’d be willing to die for that someone but would never want that someone to die for you.
that might sound easy and cheesy but that’s how I feel.

I think so too.
=)

Love, is patient. It takes alot of time and patientce to love somebody. Loving somebody means you want to spend every living second with that person. It is something you feel, not that you think you know about, but love is a wonderful feeling.

true love is when you are happy everytime you see the person, you cant even begin to imagine what you would do without them, you cant see how you survived without them before you met them, you look forward to seeing them all the time.
when they dont talk to you, even for just one day, you get worried.

love is when you learn something about the other person each day and you love them even more each day.

your heart, head, whole body hurts when you can’t be with them. you miss the person the moment you leave. you can just sit together, or on the phone to each other and not say anything for hours - just enjoy their company