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My story, what do I do?

So my boyfriend and I have been going out for 1 year and 2 months tomorrow. When we first started going out and for like 6 months after that, we were great we hardly ever fought and were always happy and did so many sweet and romantic things together. He used to leave me sweet comments on myspace all the time, he would leave me notes in my locker at school, he brought me outside when the stars were out at night and would tell me how much I mean to him and tel a silly little story about the stars. We felt like more comfortable with each other then. After that, we started fighting about the most stupid things ever. He would come up with these things and say that it means something to him and it doesnt seem like I care about him and I dont love him and all this stuff that was completely untrue just because I like didnt call him or just stupid little things so then I would get mad and talk about things that he did that I didnt like and all this stuff and we would just go back and forth and this went on for a long time, I became majorly depressed and even started doing something I never knew I would do (guess) because he made me feel like **** because he started acting like he didnt give a **** about me and it started getting to me and I would cry everyday. We’ve taken two short breaks in all of our time together. The last one we took, he told his friend to take the break with me for him. He wanted a break because the week before I was very sad and self conscious for some reason and I asked him a few times if he was looking at other girls and I accused him a couple of times for like staring at other girls, normally it wouldnt have phased me as much but for some reason that week I was feeling very bad about my looks and felt like he didnt find me as attractive as he used to and I feel bad that I didnt believe him because now that I think about it he prob wasnt even looking at the girls just in that area and hes a guy anyway and everytime I tell him its ok to look at other girls because hes a guy, he says hes not that kinda guy and tells me Im the only one he would ever want to look at. So after being sad all that week, I guess it got to him and I understood why he wanted the break. During that break we were both perfectly calm and fine with it until about the third day then he called me and said he missed me, but after that day of the break I think that was when we lost our “spark”. I never knew that day would ever come and its been getting to me. Now I’ve been thinking about our relationship and most of the time we hardly have like a normal conversation on the phone or in person its always just hi, i love you, i miss you and thats it everytime I try to start a convo, he gives me like one word answers and its just boring and whenever im out with my friends or something, he’ll just be like “how come you didnt call me” or something stupid after Im all happy and wanted to go on the phone with him in a good mood, hes never happy for me, I always know that when I get on the phone im gonna get into a bad mood so i have to like prepare myself for it, Ive decided that I want to change the way I think, I havent cried since before the break and Ive been ok but im afraid that its all gonna come back to me and ill be sad at the way he is. My family gave me a talk and said hes really not a good boyfriend if he never wants me to be happy and hes always trying to bring me down and we dont even have conversations together because technically hes supposed to not only be my boyfriend but my best friend. For a few days now we’ve been a little better and a little more playful and stuff but now today he was at his friends house and said maybe we shoulnt talk on the phone as much anymore because we will miss each other more. Now the only problem with that is, I told him the same thing like a month ago and he got mad at me saying that I just didnt want to talk to him(he says this almost everyday) so i just forgot about it, then he thinks he can make it like im the one nagging him to talk to him all the time even though just the other day he told me that i havent been calling him that much(I’m just one of those people that don’t like to talk on the phone) and he wanted me to call him because he felt like I didnt wanna talk to him anymore. So even after that I didnt because I knew he would get sick of me if I did so I didnt bother to. So jut becaue his friend tells him it would be better for us after going out for so long that we shouldnt talk on the phone anymore, he listens to him and tells me. Im perfectly fine with it and I believe it will help us but still i said that before idk why he randomly changes his mind from wanting me to call him more to we shouldnt talk as much as we do on the phone. W/e, but I dont know what I should do you guys, I really love him and never want to be without him but everyone says i should break up with him but they dont see the good in him and how sweet he can be. But I dont think we’re the same anymore, is there something Im missing?? Should I be doing something to make us closer or something, what does his behavior mean?? Does it mean hes getting sick of me?? What do I do???

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