Your not really over the doughnuts, when your over them. You can tell yourself you don’t want them and you mean it without feeling anything else.
If you are jogging, you can say your doing it for 20 mins, and not quit. It’s the same for not wanting something. You have to practice not doing it for a bit, and expand the time between doing it until you finally never slect it again.
so, i just have to tell meslef it dosn’t bother me over and over again? because this has nothing to do with chocolate doughnuts i was just giveing an example of how telling yourself something may not change the way you feel
It’s a lie, you won’t believe it, you have to be true to yourself.
ok so i should just accept that these things upset me?
What upsets you? The doughnuts?
it has nothing to do with doughnuts, what people say about me, mostly online, makes me relaly upset. i know it shouldn’t. and i care to much about what other people think. i want to know how to let things slide. to things roll off my back and not dwell on them.
The only thing you should be comtempleting is whether what they say is true. Because if you believe it is, you can accept it with a rebel attiude and fight it, or choose to be something different than what it is. Choice is yours my friend, you are not helpless in this matter.
At hospital I was taught a technique whereby I stored things away to worry about when I was in a better place mentally to deal with it. It has worked amazingly well for me. You can do this by either making a mental note or writing down a list. Most of the time when you return to the list, everything on it looks silly. There is a bit more to it than that, but that is the basics.
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6 months ago (1 day, 18 hours after post)
alilow wrote:
At hospital I was taught a technique whereby I stored things away to worry about when I was in a better place mentally to deal with it. It has worked amazingly well for me. You can do this by either making a mental note or writing down a list. Most of the time when you return to the list, everything on it looks silly. There is a bit more to it than that, but that is the basics.
really? can you tell me more? i really really really really reallyr eally reallyr eallyre alyylre alyrl,eyrley really need a system like that! so what do i do after i put everything on a list?
I am having a quick browse through stuff just now before work. I will get my notes down and put them on here later. Ali
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5 months, 3 weeks ago (1 week, 1 day after post)
http://www.anxietyculture.com/worry.htm
Sorry, I can’t find my notes!!!! Not that I am going to get stressed about it. This link is quite good, read all the way through it, it sounds simple but it is effective.
Good luck.
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5 months, 3 weeks ago (1 week, 3 days after post)
hey i was reading through your notes, I have the same problem… People at work always think im at fault when anything goes wrong, and im the only woman in the office (and with the lowest rank) so i go home sad and angryall the time trying to come up with how to prove my innocence. I completely understand your dognut analogy. I care about what these people believe because i dont want them to think of me that way… something that works for me… i take these pills my doctor gave me…. they give me a “no worries” attitude. For people like us that cant just tell ourselves not to care and then miraculously we just don’t care, there are other options. I still havent become okay with taking a pill everyday for it, but i have noticed that when i do take my pill, i dont care as much about how they percieve me.
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Hi ‘Anonymous’- just to say I feel exactly the same, to the extent of making me ill and I now have a permanent health condition caused by the stress of worrying, and I still can’t stop. Please be careful and try and get it under control. It really is a hard habit to break. 5 months on from these comments, have you learnt anything new? Have to managed to find a technique that helps?
J.
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