My friend stopped talking to me for no reason.
It’s crazy but I don’t have the slightest ideas as to why she would stop talking to me. Everything was fine and then i started noticing her pushing me away. I would log into my pc and simultaneously I receive the IM message that she has logged off. At work she started putting her status as busy or away, when I know for sure she can’t be away from her desk all day long. I know that I didn’t do anything wrong. I refuse to approach her about it because I think its just childish, if I didn’t do anything wrong why should I even bother. Why would I want to be friends again when she can go around and do it all over again. So I took her off my myspace page, removed her from my instant messages and moved on. The bad thing is that we work for the same company, but luckily we work at different floors. This was a person that would IM me to go to our breaks, go to our lunches and even IM me at home. So weird. Was I wrong in removing all forms of connection with her after what she has done to me for no known reason?
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There’s a lot of things that could be the reason. Do you think it’s possible someone is talking about you to her?
No, I really was a good friend. I never talked bad about her or anything. My conscious is really clear when it concerns that. I know it can’t ba a he said she said situation because I never would bad mouth her. The only thing I can think of is that she has returned back to her husband and is probably ashamed of telling me. She had a bad relationship with her spouse and they have been going back and forth. The last time we spoke she said this was it, the end. But, I always told her that whatever she decided to do was her business and no one can really tell her what she should do. Because of this, I don’t see the reason why she would stop talking too me because I never judged her. I never told her you should do this or that. We were friends for a long time and it really hurts not knowing especially when in your mind you know that you didn’t do anything wrong. But my pride to confront her about it is too strong. I figure if its space that she wants, then that’s what she’ll get. I guess I’m also stubborn but I feel I have a right to be stubborn since I didn’t initiate this.
I really think you should talk to her about it on a mature level. It sounds to me, like she’s being a little immature. If it’s bothering you, you should get to the bottom of it. Especially if you’re both good friends.
I might do that, but I will never consider her my friend again. Unfortunately, it won’t be the same. You only do me wrong once. I may forgive, but I will never forget. Just the way it is.
Right. Plus if she’s acting this way, maybe it’s best. Friends don’t do that.
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No problem. :)
she may be going through something and want to be alone
it will probably pass
Believe it, or not…. I have had several friends stop talking to me for no reason. With every single one of them, it’s the same thing. They will not give me an explanation as to why they stopped talking to me. I did nothing to them at all. I didn’t judge them or say bad things about them or anything that could possibly be considered mean or rude. I am a very nice and sincere person. Keep in mind, all of these friends are women.
So basically, I have spent the past 7 years dealing with friends that have stopped talking to me for no reason. I know that you suggest that the solution should be to talk to them about it, but if they aren’t willing to talk to you then there is nothing you can do.
Wow I didn’t think I would actually find a post like this lol. Glad I did though. Ok here’s my story… I met a guy… Who I did have a thing for… But he clearly wasn’t into me and that’s fine but we became close friends so quickly… And had the best times
together or so I thought. We hung out almost every day… Well new years comes along and he invites me to his friends house to watch a movie etc… I get there and all is well and for some reason he thought it would be funny to say F* you to me… We both are very sarcastic but when he said this to me it felt different… Like he really meant it… Anyways 2-3 days go by and I’m avoiding him… He messages me online acting as if everything is fine. I tell him how I felt about what he said to me… He said he would never say something like that to me and mean it… We text a couple times after this convo… I think we talked for a moment on the phone about something random… I thought everything was cool… I text him on 1/25/10 day before our semester started… He never responded… I eventually deleted him from my facebook… After this I saw him a few times at his work… I just avoided him and enjoyed my time with my friends… He works at a diner… He seemed to try and get my attention when I was there but I just didn’t see the point… Anyways my friend saw him last night at a school play… She didn’t say anything to him… But here’s the strange part… I got an email from him on facebook… He was letting me
know that my favorite movie is playing at this outdoor theatre where they play classic films… And he ends the email with “Anyways, I hope all is well” … why the hell is he contacting me
now? And how am I supposed to respond…? I feel like I deserve an explination… Anyone have advice for my messed up ex friendship
ummmmmm hope u feel better
go on skype
I recenly had a friend who just stopped texting me after a while. She has done it before, giving some lame excuse as to why so I forgavve her, partly because she was a tad bizzare and I was scared what she would do to herself if I didn’t. Anyway, time passes and she emials me, i take it really slow at first, because it hurt before. Eventually, I trust her and let her back in. And things just aren’t the same, she made no time for me, treated me like crap and I still tried, if not for me then for her, so she would benifit from actually developing a sense of decency and care. I told her I was upset with her and that she was being unfair etc and she jjust stopped talking to me. I feel that she had a few issues that she hid from me and I was almost part of her game, I tried to find out the problem but she just ignored me so I guess there’s nothing I can do? My main thing is that I don’t get how people can treat other people like that, it’s an awful way to treat someone.
who knows. I believe females are really fickle and I have friends that just drop me like used toilet paper all the time. I eventually stopped trying and now really just my husband and I hang out all the time. I’m not saying that its healthy but I know I am not a bad friend as my “best” friends and I still talk and we have been friends for close to 20 years now. Some companies are more “toxic” to work for in the respect of friendships at work and how quickly they deteriorate. I am to the point that I have completely given up friendships within work now and keep it 100% business. You have to just roll with the punches and move on. Its healthier for you
Iv had the same problem… One night I received a text from my friend saying that she was upset and wanted to cry! So I asked her what was wrong as everyone else would do. She texted back saying if your an friend then you’ll wait for lento text you the next morning! So the next day in didn’t get any texts, then i texted several times asking why she ain’t me’ yet! But I haven’t received a reply since! :-( it’s quite sad cuz u did love her loads but I guess she couldn’t realize it! :-(
Just new to this site and whatnot, but I’m actually going through the same thing, only slightly different circumstances.
I know how you feel about being too stubborn sometimes and also, your pride. I am a very prideful person, but I would try talking with her about it. It could be for any number of reasons. I have had many failed friendships for very out of the blue reasons. I don’t think it sounds like you two actually had any sort of falling out, if you will. From the sound of it, maybe she is feeling ashamed of herself for reasons unknown to you? It sounds like there’s a lot you may not know about or have known about before, if she’s to randomly act this way.
ya pretty in portland my friends not talking to me im sad ###
my best-friend just removed me as a friend on face-book, when found out i tried calling her but she wouldn’t answer. So I mailed her 5 times but she didn’t reply… I didn’t do anything to her..
What do you think I should do now??
Confront her. Tell her she’s not getting past you until she gives you a reason. If it’s a good reason then you should take some time to figure out where you went wrong. If it’s a bad reason, she doesn’t deserve to have you as a friend.
my best friend had left me in year 7 ( currently i am in year 8 ) .
we were the best of friends we had played soccer (which is were we actually met for the first time) together and she would sleep over my house and we would have so much fun .
at the start of high school i had depression though i would put a smile on my face and though i wasn’t really happy .
when i was younger (like around 5-9) , i didn’t know how to make friends and all , the so called “friends” just random people i would talk to once .
i didn’t have a “true” friend who would come over and play tips or sleep over or we could play dollies or something else .
so all was good and we had the time of our lives , then 2/4 into the year here boyfriend died and she was depressed but she got over it quickly , though i knew she was still said inside .
then she had met someone over the internet .
he had long hair and was the same age of her past boyfriend ,he was american and they had planned to see each other at the end (or start i can not remember…) of christmas , she also said she was moving into the country .
then one day i came to school texted her i was in the music room and she came she seemed sad .
then one weekend i went swimming with her then she had said she wanted to come to my dads house .
she asked her mom and dad if was ok they said “ok”
all was well untill she had said she had a appointment the appointment costed alot
after that on monday i came to school i did feel well after 3p i wanted to go home i saw her and she wanted to know where i was going i said home .
she wasnt happy i grabed her bag and she pulled it and gave me a disgusted look .
after that i text her like a million times and she did reply
then i found out she was angry about the appointment i dont know how that was my fault apparently i said “so what “
now all my friends treat me really differently .
was really said when i saw her come back on the first day .
she doesnt talk to me she doesnt look at me ..
i dont know why i am writing this i think i just need someone to talk to about this not a school consular or a teacher i need someone i dont know to give me some advice .
i know high school is all about focusing on school work but what about how i am going to survive it .
we can dream about how our lives are going to be in the future but now it is hell for me
PLEASE REPLY I NEED HELP
ps i think that you shouldnt talk to your friend
because i think your a smart person
smart people dont talk to dum people
(dum people meaning in dum choices please dont be offend)
Thank you for reading
this crappy story of my like :)
Everyone who is saying they did nothing to their friend to cause that friend to stop talking to them? Maybe your PERCEPTION is that you did nothing wrong, but your friend’s PERCEPTION may be different. Assumptions come in to play here and assumptions are no good. No one in this forum is going to have “the” answer because there is no one answer. The ONLY way to get to the bottom of the situation is to drop all assumptions and confront the friend about the situation. Get it straight from the horse’s mouth so to speak. Unfortunately, if the friend cuts you off and refuses to speak about it, there is nothing you can do but move on and stop wondering what YOU did because it is THEIR problem not yours. People react to situations in a way that reflects their inner self perception and you should never take their reactions personally (even though it is hard NOT to sometimes).
Other people are specifing that this occurs mostly with women. Not true. I am a female and one of my MALE friends just stopped talking/calling/texting for no reason. We are very close and it is very confusing. Very unusual for him not to at least respond with a brief “Sorry I have been busy. Will catch up when things calm down.” I have confirmed that he is alive and well, by the way. :) I can make assumptions and take advice from people with similar situations, but the only way I can truly find out what is going on is to confront him. I sent an email and am hoping for a response. I ended the email in a way that keeps future contact open (”If there is anything I can do for you or if you just want to talk, please feel free to call” or something to that effect). If I get no response there is nothing more I can do except move on. Wondering what went wrong will not fix the friendship and, even if it hurts at first, I don’t think I would want to be friends with someone who would just ice me out with no explanation whatsoever. Friendships (even good ones) sometimes come to an end. Sad but true. The only thing we can do is move forward and find new friends - and hopefully one of them will be a true blue friend (I have a bestie - she is AWESOME!)
My best friend who I love like a brother stopped talking 2 me 2 4 no freaking reason…we were studying in d same collage but he had 2 move away, I was sad bcuz of it but I though “its for the best…”. But anyway after he left he sent me a txt saying “dude am sorry I had 2 leave I had some problems…” I was really sad and still am. This was 2 months ago, I still have not heard from him. I talked 2 his sis, his mom, and his dad about ohter things, but I haven’t asked if he is ok or not. Ha has ignored all my calls, txt messages and a friend request over Facebook… I can’t bring myself 2 get away unless I know what happend!!!! :C he is my best friend after all… I just hepo that everything goes great 4 him @ whatever he does…
Wow I am amazed that I am not the only one… I had the same situation, my friend stop talking to me for a while without any explanation… today I received an email on facebook asking if we could be friends again. I am not sure what to say or do so I decided to ask Mr. Google and here I am ha ha ha amazing.
Anyway after reading all your contributions I feel much confident and I now know what to do.
Hi only just managed to get my friend to tell me why she stopped spending time with me. Its taking me over six months but now I know I can walk away with a clear conscious as I have realised, “some people are just weird” And its not meant to be. But I can understand how you all must feel when you don’t know the reason. My only advise is, if they can’t tell you after asking them numerous times then time to move on, life is too short. The other advise is try not to discuss how resentful you feel as other people pick up on this as a negative. Head up high and enjoy your new friendships.
Punch them in the f****** face! Or not lol… Life’s short, move on! You will find another friend, one that wont ignore you for no reason.
This has happened to me with the same person around 10 times or more in the last five and a half years I’ve known her. Its a form of emotional abuse, She uses this punishment usually if myself or my other half refuse her something like allow her to organize a party in ‘our home’ last christmas…she blanks us in the street, does not answer my texts, Ignores our children when they are out playing. The latest reason for blanking us is ‘we were not able to go to her wedding’ due to health problems.. This is a very immature way of behaving and anyone who is not able to accept that life happens for other people and we cannot make other people do what we want them to do are not worth worrying about. With ‘friends’ like that,who needs enemies.My partner and I have been so good to her and hers as indeed we are to anybody who needs help.We have no time for this childish behavour so its time for us to move on.I light a candle for her to help her deal with whatever she is going through. but for my own sanity I need to keep a healthy distance from her.
Lots of love and light to everyone going through difficulties in their life..
This has now happened a 2nd time to me. 1st time I ever had someone drop me as a friend was 1-2 summers ago. altough this person gave me a long winded explination but the person is obviously a paranoid Conspiracy theorist and I had done nothing more than asking a woman who was a body builder if I could feel her bicep and she was with tons of other bodybuilders male and femlae. his rationale was that I put myself and all of ust at danger of being beaten up. uh, yeah whatever. the person talks to me, just refuses to hang out and this was after 6-7 years of what I thoguth was a real friendship, and the perosn in question was in fact someone I considered to be very humanistic and so called forgiving and a “good christaian” and one to go to when people have issues. clearly I was wrong. oh well at least he had had the gall to lay it out no matter how insane the reasoning. I can appreciate that.
Now just recently. Someone I have known for 15 years abruptly stopped talkin gto me. blocked me on social media sites, blocked my email. we were on a phone call, he soundd upset about something, and it is true he is going throuhg a time in his life where htings are honestly and truly way more than stressing him out. but they wouldn’t let me talk and alll of a sudden he said “don’t call me anymore”
Now I don’t think I did anything wrong or terrible. I am the nicest guy in the world and can usually keep thigns. however, I think I made a very slight error, nothing on the order of causing someone not to ever speak to you again. the person called me the day before and said “if this person asks you anything, you don’t know anything” ok, but I was in the middle of something during the time he told me and the next day when the said person did call me, I turned out to have the most stressful day I had in over 2 years. the prson hardpressed me, woldn’t get off the phone, and I inadvertnely told them something I was toldas to why he stopped talking to them, this person only wanted to know what the hell was going on, wouldn’t tell them anthing at all. But I didn’t tell them any personal information whatsoever. This is pretty minor. afterall, the person sort of deserves to at least have a hint giventhey were together for almost 2 years on and off. so what? but this wasn’t really even explained to me.
I thik I may have slightly screwed up a litlte on a very minor thing. but 15 years down the tube without him really even telling me what it was. this is only my theory, but I have no clue.
I’ll see what happens in a month or 2.
we had good times together. for the past 3 months he is avoiding me without any valid reason. we are class mates 1st year engineering.
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