image help: I am a 34 year old male and it seems like what ever I do will never be good enough to find love and make friends. - Help.com

Well, first, please don’t dis-arrange your entire face. You’re in the military, so let them help you with your dental problems - but do that for yourself, not for anyone else.

Second, you make yourself sound like a wimp - yet in my book, there’s no such thing in the military. No matter what function you perform in the Navy, you’re serving your country. That’s about as far from being a wimp as it can get.

It’s sad that you seem to be surrounded by shallow beach babes. But here’s the thing: do you really want to share your life - or any of your time, for that matter - with a shallow person? As a young woman I dated plenty of hunks - but I didn’t dare knock on their heads for fear of hearing a hollow sound. The man I ultimately chose to spend the rest of my life with had inner substance. Which, judging by the way you write, you also have.

As to your bullied past, well where are those bullies now? You’re living your life nobly by serving your country - can the same be said of any of them? I’ll just bet that a large majority of them aren’t.

Start looking in the mirror a different way. Rather than counting what you consider flaws, start seeing all of your interesting features. This world would be a darn boring place if everyone looked cosmetically gorgeous. What you’ve described as flaws, I read as an interesting persona. You need to start reading yourself that way.

Leave the shallow babes to go find themselves equally shallow dudes. Meanwhile, concentrate on liking yourself for who you are … and then see how much easier it will be for you to find someone to spend your valuable time with.

By the way, since you mentioned a movie star … you’re old enough to know who Spencer Tracy was. Did you know that initially he wasn’t considered good studio material by the Hollywood elite because he wasn’t “good looking” enough? Funny, that, because I see him in an old movie and see that wonderful face and say to myself, “what a guy!” And I’m not the only woman who has said that in the past or in the present. Kate Hepburn sure loved him.

your situation won’t be worse than mine. Check mine out, think about it, you are not at the bottom alone, we can be friends!

dude! i’m an australian, good grades, nice tall bild with a grate 6pack, and yet i’m having the same problems, gust try and try again, AND YOUR NOT A BORNE LOSER!you came here didn’t you.