divorce help: Since my last post i;ve gotten served divorce papers. - Help.com

Sorry to hear that unless, it’s somthing you wanted to happen anyway. Be good to yourself. It’s not about you or her (I’m guessing you are Tim) but you+her. Someone else will be there for you in the future–don’t rush it. Relationships within the next 2 years are more likly to end also. First get a lawyer, ask around search online. Get a document that neither person can spend or move X dollars without notifying the other. Future credit card purchases have to be approved by the other or a mediator. It’s hard but be reasonable. Gather round your friends–you’ll need them. Be careful driving. Traffic accidents (and other accidents I expect) often occur when people are in the process of divorce–the distraction is overwhelming. Legally make sure everthing has a date on it and a consequence if not done on time–Like you will get (a paper, your stuff, a date to move, etc) by June 30 th or the other party will have to (give you money each day until,..) You get the idea, otherwise things tend to take way more time than they should and the only one making any money is the lawyers. Give youself, lets say an hour a day, that you will concentrate only on the divorce. Other than that try to go through your day as usual. Every time you want to obsess about the situation postpone it to that 1 hour. You might find that you can’t do the whole hour. Write things down at that time, then close that book. Don’t stop doing things that make you happy or content. It’s not the end–it’s the beginning of finding a new life–a better one than you have now.