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God hates me….no way this life is divine

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God hates me….no way this life is divine

Talk to him about it, ask him to prove you wrong.

To main question: You could die any moment, enjoy life while you can.

Ive been asking for the past 5 years everyday and still no answer, i seriously wish to die sometimes. I never thought my life would turn out so bad

But your still alive, you could change it any time. What’s wrong with your life?

Ive hit so many walls everytime i try to change my life. I dont take drugs or drink excessivly yet i suffer from debilitating depression. Been on the anti-depressents on and off for years. I’m 30 and still living at home and needless to say single. :( I have no qualifications to speak of as i’m not that smart and cannot afford to study so the best job i can get is work in a call centre.

Are you sure its the best job you can get? Are you looking for a better one? Theres always a way out, you’ve just gotta keep looking. Have you tried saving for a TAFE course or similar?

Yeah i’ve tried to even join the Army and Navy but my depression affected both roles and i had to leave before completing training. To be honest i just dont know what i would study if i could go to Tafe. I’ve never felt strongly about any career really.

I’m 29 and still live at home. I was home schooled and never in school. I went to church but my parents were so strict I couldn’t even talk to anyone so I had no friends. My younger sister ran away at 17 and my older sister ran in front of a car and was killed 3 years ago. My parents divorced after going bankrupt 9 years ago so I live with my VERY strict mother. I’m really sick. My health is bad because I get stressed out and am very lonely. I don’t have a car or the health to have a job so I sleep or sit in my room all day. My older sister had a job & car before she died so she let me use her car to work part time for a couple months. I got a boyfriend who cheated on me after 6 months because he said I was to depressed but it made me have trust issues with guys I met with the girl that he was with and she introduced me to my current boyfriend. We’ve accumulated $50,00. In debt he gets paid min wage & covers the minimums. He lives with his always fighting mom & step dad. We have our ups & downs. He’s doing school too so we don’t see eachother much. Lately I’ve been really depressed & have gone from 99Lbs to 120 .. I’m 5′3 so He’s not happy the weight gain. We feel doomed to live at our strict parents houses forever. I don’t have any energy to go running & lift weights anymore. I don’t have $ to buy bigger clothes either. I have nice skinny clothes
I want to wear!! I just want to go to the gym& makefriends & get a personal
trainer. I almost died 2 months ago from a thymus infection. When I catch a cold it takesmonths to get better. I think there’s something wrong with me but I don’t have health insurance so I can’t get medicine/help & it would be stressful just trying to get there without a car & my boyfriend is to busy. I don’t want to die. I want to be happy & enjoy life. I hate being sick. Everything I eat makes me sick. I’m in a lot of pain. My throat is always sore. I’m not happy. I turned into a shopaholic
ordering things onlne to make me feel better. But it’s made things worse. I had to
stop cuz my cards got maxed out. My boyfriend & I are thinking about going
bankrupt. The family thnks we should have money saved up! They have no idea.
They would just yell at us & make life more miserable. If we went bankrupt we
couldn’t get married cuz I’d have to do it so one of us could get loans. We want to get married though. Obviously no money to move forget pretty diamond rings. All his friends have $$ help so they can be married with fancy cars & houses. We’re on our own though. He drives his mom’s 16 year old car. I just feel like a tired sick kitten lost & confused. If anyone has advice I’ll listen. … Even though I’ve prob thought of it in the countless hours I have thinking. My mom turns off the Internet at no notice so online jobs/school won’t work. I have to pretend to agree with her to keep from fighting. Because I dont agree wuth her on much of anything. My boyfriend is my only friend & he’s to busy to drive me anywhere. To walk anywhere it’s atleast 7 miles on
windy roads that I’m scared of since my sister got hit by a car. I applied for medical assistance/disability but was denied because I couldnt get a Doctor to see me to sign papers for me. New patients have to wait atleast 4 months to get in & there arent many Doctor’s who accept medical assistance or if the do the are flooded with patience. I dont know what to do. I just want to ferl better and somehow need to motivate myself to atleadt exercise & only eat fruit or veggies so cuz that doesnt make me sick but, im still hungry. I hate being hungry so then I eat bread/cheese/junk food & then I’m full/bloated sick. Im always constipated. Have been since 1986 when I was 6 years old. My mkm didnt do anything but get me hooked on laxitives. I feel like I’m locked up. I pray to God every minute of everyday begging for mercy. If this was your life what would you do?

Jbirds7 - I am so sorry to hear about your situation. It almost makes me cry. This world we live in is trying to break us. It sounds like you have an idea of what you need to do, but not a good way to make it happen. Would it be possible for you to try doing some exercises at home, and maybe reach out to others that could use your help? Finding some way to give to others (remember the Golden Rule) is one of the best ways to help us out of our current situation. We never know what one thing will lead to, but we need to take a step in the right direction. I have been there a couple times myself, and when I try to reach out to give other people hope it always helps elevate my own mood. You might find some comfort by reading Psalms 23 and also thinking about how much Jesus Christ did for the people around him and the love he and his Father showed for each of us.

Akama- Thank-you for your encouragement. I love Psalms 23. I have it memorized by heart. I used to quote scriptures till I would fall asleep at night when I was younger. Helping others sounds like a good idea. I used to draw funny cards for my Great Uncle who greatly appreciated it but he got sick and died so I was sad and stopped doing it. It’s time to move on though. I need to dust myself off and stand back up. I should pray for God to show me if there’s someone else I could draw for… maybe a neighbor that I wouldn’t need to buy stamps for. I also really want a puppy, especially being home all the time I have lots of time but no money to get/buy food etc. for… I could see if a neighbor might like me to walk their dog if they need a break or something like that. Thank-you for your advice. I will definitely take into consideration what you’ve said and hope to better my life by taking action in helping others. …when you get overwhelmed with troubles it’s easy to forget things like that. Thanks again.

Jbirds7 - I’m really glad it helped. Been thinking about your situation since reading about it yesterday, and hope you can draw some comfort from what you read. Interestingly, I read an article this week that said being around a pet is actually better for you than some medications! The article said that being around a pet can reduce stress and lower blood pressure within 5 minutes - faster than medication can. You are on the right track - find a neighbor with a pet and volunteer to take them for a walk or even just spend some time playing with them. You will make 2 friends that way! We can receive God’s blessing when we reach out to help others - more happiness in giving than receiving - all it costs is a little time and love on our part. This morning I was able to spend a few minutes reading the Bible to an older person with Alzheimers - she always brightens up when she hears it - it gives me a good feeling inside, too. One of my favorite encouraging verses is Isaiah 48:17,18 and Philippians 4:4-9. Read and enjoy!
Best Regards.