Life without friends is impossible. - Help.com

No, this is not a joke. How should I go about seeking a counselor that can show me how to make friends? What type of therapist do I need to seek?

My story: I’ll try to make this as short as possible.

I’m a 34 year old male. I have never had a girlfriend, nor have I even experienced my first kiss. I literally have no friends at the moment. What I mean by a friend is someone whom I can call to express my feelings, not text or email, someone whom I can share my interests with, and someone whom I can hang out with. It seems like every weekend that passes by and the more I see that my phone reads zero calls, I seem to be sinking into more of a major depression even to thinking of suicide due to the extreme pain of lonelyness. I’m a torn between pursing my dream of flying and seeking help, I know I need help because in 30 years of fighting this battle to fit in, I’m definitely not doing something right. Maybe I look ugly and need a make over, maybe I don’t know how to pick up on social cues, or just maybe, I look at people the wrong way and not realize it. The problem is if I seek counseling, I’ve read that I will never be able to become a pilot. Is that true? What kind of counseling can show me how to make friends from scratch? I am willing to learn how to communicate from scratch, as avasive as that seems this is what I feel a desperate situation and I am willing to take evasive action such as learning to talk from scratch as if I was retarded. I have been told that I may suffer from Body Dysmorphic Disorder, but if that were the case then I’m assuming that I would have allready had a girlfriend and that making friends would have been easy, but I feel that my looks may be what have been keeping me from happiness. A brief discription: I do have a bigger than average nose with a lump in the middle of it. My teeth are crooked, and I do have an overbite, and my jaw is non robust (does not protrude like the average jaw). People have called me ratboy, Ponochio, and big bird all my life. What should I do in the mean time to curve my lonelyness and depression in the meantime until I finally get my facial surgeries? People tell me that God made us the way we are and that we should be happy. How can I be happy if people reject me and I feel and know deep within that my looks have been a major root to my problems?

Life without friends is impossible. Now, I know why because my 30 plus year battle to feel like I belong is beginning to eat away at me and I feel like I’m getting desperate and I’m losing hope and even getting suicidal (when I mean by suicidal, I mean I will take flagrant risks while skiing, downhill inline skating, cycling, skydiving, etc because I feel I have nothing to lose and all to gain and that if I were to die no one would care). How should I go about seeking a counselor that can show me how to make friends? What type of therapist do I need to seek?


My story: I’ll try to make this as short as possible.

I’m a 34 year old male. I have never had a girlfriend, nor have I even experienced my first kiss. I literally have no friends at the moment. What I mean by a friend is someone whom I can call to express my feelings, not text or email, someone whom I can share my interests with, and someone whom I can hang out with. It seems like every weekend that passes by and the more I see that my phone reads zero calls, I seem to be sinking into more of a major depression even to thinking of suicide due to the extreme pain of lonelyness. I’m a torn between pursing my dream of flying and seeking help, I know I need help because in 30 years of fighting this battle to fit in, I’m definitely not doing something right. Maybe I look ugly and need a make over, maybe I don’t know how to pick up on social cues, or just maybe, I look at people the wrong way and not realize it. The problem is if I seek counseling, I’ve read that I will never be able to become a pilot. Is that true? What kind of counseling can show me how to make friends from scratch? I am willing to learn how to communicate from scratch, as avasive as that seems this is what I feel a desperate situation and I am willing to take evasive action such as learning to talk from scratch as if I was retarded. I have been told that I may suffer from Body Dysmorphic Disorder, but if that were the case then I’m assuming that I would have allready had a girlfriend and that making friends would have been easy, but I feel that my looks may be what have been keeping me from happiness. A brief discription: I do have a bigger than average nose with a lump in the middle of it. My teeth are crooked, and I do have an overbite, and my jaw is non robust (does not protrude like the average jaw). People have called me ratboy, Ponochio, and big bird all my life. What should I do in the mean time to curve my lonelyness and depression in the meantime until I finally get my facial surgeries? People tell me that God made us the way we are and that we should be happy. How can I be happy if people reject me and I feel and know deep within that my looks have been a major root to my problems?