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People dont ‘hang out’ with me outside of school.

I am a suprisingly popular person. I am student council president and have alot, ALOT of friends at school and friends i even talk to on the phone but i feel like i never get invited anywhere with them. I never get invited to hang out after school or do anything on the weekend unless i initiate it. My friends dont invite me to hang out or go to parties unless i make the plans. Why do people not want to hang out with me? Is their perception scewd? What am i doing wrong? How do i fix this?

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3 years, 12 months ago (4 minutes after post)

im the exact same

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josephtheman offline Verified User (3 years, 12 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 3 years, 12 months ago (7 minutes after post)

When you say you have alot of friends, ALOT of friends at school, it makes me think that you are friends with too many people. It can be possible! Take some time to show a one or two people they’re your best buds and they’ll be dropping by your house on the weekend to go to some hangout spot - For me, it’s our old elementary school, but it could be a pizza place or a skate park. Showing people that you’re extremely fond of them and just them and that you like them more than your other friends, will definetely make them want to see more of you.

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TheWarmth offline Verified User (4 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 years, 12 months ago (18 minutes after post)

Same situation for me (except i’m not that popular i suggest like the other poster has stated show your best friends that you are there best friends and take it from there.

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Neutra offline Verified User (4 years, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 years, 12 months ago (44 minutes after post)

No there’s nothing wrong. People are people. They are all different and have different taste. It could be that the people just aren’t interested in the same class of people as you is all. That dosen’t mean that everyone is like that and that there is no one out there who you can relate to. The world can be just like that at times. Kinda like a really smart kid being born into a poor family in the middle of nowhere. The kid would had done alot if he would had got the chance. The right people are out there they could just be in a diffferent location.

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missin her bestfrien offline Verified User (4 years, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 3 years, 12 months ago (1 hour, 13 minutes after post)

screw them, jus make your own plans and maybe soon they’ll start to invite you to more things

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billybo offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 3 years, 11 months ago (2 weeks, 4 days after post)

Start doing dope.

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k.sullivan3 offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 3 years, 10 months ago (1 month after post)

The same thing is going on with me, except I dont have ALOT of friends at school, I have a good amount though and I can tell Im really close to them. I used to hang out with everyone alot but I almost always had to ask, now I almost never go out and im at a loss. Everyone told me that “o i have to ask them and eventually they will start asking you to go out” well that never happened for me, but it might work for you. Put yourself out there as someone who is into hanging out with their friends. Just because it didnt work for me doesn’t mean it won’t work for you. Never jump to the conclusion that they dont like you, or that everyone hates you because thats is almost definately not the case. :)good luck

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josh_kuhlma offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 3 years ago (11 months after post)

I know how you feel except i think my situation is worse….
My friend since kindergarden is using me to copy my homework answers, quiz answers, and test answers take today for instance, i helped him study for trusses for the 3 days of the week. I even let him copy answers for the whole month for the friqqen trusses! THen he begs me to copy the quiz answers and stuff! The quiz was today, I helped him and now he is hanging out with our friends and one of the girls i have a major, major crush on and I’ve told him…. We’re all being ******* used…

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GriffithMa offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 5 months ago (1 year, 6 months after post)

People want to hang with very good looking people who are doing cool things, like skiing, ball games, going to the really hot club etc. Having money is important, no one likes a poor person. And having a great looking, successful significant other is very important too. Also, have a cool job, not waitressing (or horrors Cosmotology).

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mylesbwo offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 4 months ago (1 year, 7 months after post)

i had the exact problem except i solved it i always hanged out with the so called popular on a daily basis or occasionaly some other people and there tends to be a certain center of that group that may always go out with eachother such as go to houses and shops and stuff similar to that but it occurs that new people that come into our group which immediately get invited out become really close friends with a certain popular kid in their class/form eventually the popular kid recommends them to the other ones that go out every weekend and before you know it they are in that main center group. There have been two scenario’s when this has happened so i suggest this method…

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