friends help: one of my best friends is mad at me for hanging out with someone else

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one of my best friends is mad at me for hanging out with someone else

Okay so tonight one of my friends stayed the night. And there is this other chick who is also my best friend. Well my 2 friends dont get along very well which i hate, but the other chick will act perfectly normal around my friend. Tonight the other chick is mad at me for wanting to hang out with my friend who is staying the night. I only wanted to hang with her and no one else. now my other friend is mad even though I hang out with her every single day all day long.I pretty much fall to her feet, do everything she wants me to do. But one night of me just wanting to be with my other friend and she gets made. I dont know what to do because for the first time in my life i have never felt so takin for granted. Because I do everything for that other chick, I usually ditch all my other friends just for her but one night when i ditch her for someone else she gets mad at me. and I didnt even ditch her i just said i didnt wanna hang out. I am confused and tired of feeling like i am being takin for granted. I am soo tired of falling to her feet and doing every little thing and yet I cannot stand up to her. sorry for such a long post but I feel so hurt right now.

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Xeno Dragon 72 #
An Undisclosed Location | 6 months, 1 week ago (11 minutes after post)

I’m not gonna lie to you. I say this with no disrespect. I recognize that you’re very upset over this.
But I think you need to get over it.

This will pass, and a week from now, no one will care. Besides, if you don’t like the way people act, don’t hang around them.

Or, you could just tell the one girl that you have the right to hang out with anyone you want, and if she has a problem with that, it’s her problem.

Up to you, really.

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An Undisclosed Location | 6 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 53 minutes after post)

Sounds like your other friend needs a reality check. There is no law that says you can have only one friend. Glad you are standing up to her. Just keep doing it and she will stop taking your friendship for granted.

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An Unknown Location | 6 months, 1 week ago (3 hours, 52 minutes after post)

sound like your friend is very manipulative. i hate ppl like her. at the end of the day it’s jut very tiring. tell her how u feel. if you don’t feel like u can do that, there is something wrong with the friendship. stand up to her, don’t give into her games. u hve to lay down the law. you have to set the rules. if you think you deserve to be able to have a friend over without asking this girls permission, you need to have a friend over without this girls permission. don’t ask permission from her. she is not your mother. you have to stand up to her. it’s the only way she will learn. it’ the only way the friendship has a chance of surviving. because if it continues to be a friendship where u do everything for her, then it will eventually fall apart anyway.

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An Unknown Location | 6 months ago (2 days, 11 hours after post)

Girl im going through the samething but my friend is gay and I was going to hang out with the guy he’s crushing on but I don’t even like guys I like girls and he won’t even talk to me and its pissing
Me off right now im just tryn to be nice to him but he’s such a *****! If you have any info on what I should do please tell me waitn to hear from u…

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An Unknown Location | 6 months ago (5 days, 13 hours after post)

well we made up…i let it go. but I don’t know I’m still kind of hurt by it. but It doesn’t really matter because I am leaving tomorrow for new orleans and I wont have to fall to her feet for a couple of months. I love my friend she is awesome and superfun to be around. But Like she always tells me that I need to let her know when I don’t wanna hang out and when I do she throws it in my face. But I’m kind of over it, everysince our arguement n stuff we havent really been exactly the same. I think she sees what I was tryin to tell her. Thanks for the help guys…It did help me alot. If somethin like this happens again or I don’t like somethin that she has a problem with then Imma say somethin. Thanks everyone.

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An Unknown Location | 3 months, 3 weeks ago (2 months, 1 week after post)

I feel terrible for you. You need to set her straight girlfriend. We all normal girl wich is not her. She needs to learn to respect her friends and if she doesnt then you need to tell her. Let her know that you got a say in things as much as she does.
If this continues then find a new friend because that one is just raw.

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