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If you’re willing to throw your life away over that, it must not mean very much to you.
Xeno Dragon wrote:
If you’re willing to throw your life away over that, it must not mean very much to you.
trust me its a lot more and it all adds up =/
Just because you don’t think the same way as other people is no reason to give up on life and love. Seriously though, it sounds like you really need to find different people to hang with because that one is really not the friend type.
You will have people all through out life that won’t like you. To me it’s not a big deal. I like myself and that’s enough for me. Quit worrying so much over what other people think and you will feel much better before you know it.
Well its just some person online. But its dumb she doesnt like me, i was nice to her when she told me she was raped. i was nice to her when she told me she was pregnant some other time(shes young). Still im hated =/
The point is I cant stand not being liked and i get really depressed if i care about that person at all.
You really have to learn to like yourself before you can expect others to like you. Find something that you can do and study up on it and practice it. It will do your self esteem a lot to be able to do something you enjoy.
People on the internet often really dont care about other people. They want it to be all about them and it sounds like she is one of them. You have to be careful with any online relationship, no matter what kind of relationship it is.
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Xeno Dragon wrote:
If you’re willing to throw your life away over that, it must not mean very much to you.
trust me its a lot more and it all adds up =/
Doesn’t matter. I’ve been through times when it looked like I didn’t have any way out. I was starving, betrayed by my only friends within 9000 miles, on the opposite side of the country from anyone I knew, I had bedbugs infesting my entire apartment, I’d lost two girlfriends in a relatively short amount of time, my computer was broken, I didn’t have a job, and there were crackheads and meth addicts roaming the streets outside my window every night. I’ve been mugged, I’ve been bullied and beaten, I’ve lost friends in this pointless war, I’ve watched family members die, and I’ve been stalked to the point of almost losing my sanity.
But I’ve always kept a sense of humor about it. I’ve never gone all emo and wanted to cut myself. There is ALWAYS a way out. If you can breathe, you can keep going. If you can think the thoughts that lead you to consider suicide, you can keep going. And if you have any respect for yourself, and your existence, you can keep going.
I dont see a point if i am dead inside i mean. Im very dead inside sometimes and being hated just makes this world less worth living in =/
What other people think of you isn’t enough to maim your body until it stops working.
Jules22871 wrote:
You really have to learn to like yourself before you can expect others to like you. Find something that you can do and study up on it and practice it. It will do your self esteem a lot to be able to do something you enjoy.
People on the internet often really dont care about other people. They want it to be all about them and it sounds like she is one of them. You have to be careful with any online relationship, no matter what kind of relationship it is.
Thats just selfish dont you think? liking someone just because they dont need it and not likeing them when they do need to be loved?
it was coming from someone who was engaged to someone over the internet though!… but that didnt work out for her. It wasnt a relationship…. but i do have another thing going on that is kind of like taht but not really, just strange =/
Xeno Dragon wrote:
What other people think of you isn’t enough to maim your body until it stops working.
Who gives a ****… i dont want to be a vegetable
sum wrote:
Jules22871 wrote:
You really have to learn to like yourself before you can expect others to like you. Find something that you can do and study up on it and practice it. It will do your self esteem a lot to be able to do something you enjoy.
People on the internet often really dont care about other people. They want it to be all about them and it sounds like she is one of them. You have to be careful with any online relationship, no matter what kind of relationship it is.
Thats just selfish dont you think? liking someone just because they dont need it and not likeing them when they do need to be loved?
it was coming from someone who was engaged to someone over the internet though!… but that didnt work out for her. It wasnt a relationship…. but i do have another thing going on that is kind of like taht but not really, just strange =/
Yeah, it is very selfish. But sadly it happens that way all the time.
I am going to use your own words against you for a few lines here
“HOW TO END YOUR LIFE
Die of old age. It never fails to work. Its so awesome, all you have to do is sit back and relax and have fun in the meantime. Amazing isnt it? Good luck and choose no other option of death than this, all others fail and leave you misserable.”
Those are some pretty good words you came up with. Now you just need to see the meaning in them and find a way to apply them to yourself.
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Xeno Dragon wrote:
What other people think of you isn’t enough to maim your body until it stops working.
Who gives a ****… i dont want to be a vegetable
Then don’t be one, silly. No one says you have to sit there and suffer when you don’t like the way things are. It’s your life, who better to change it than you?
Jules22871 wrote:
Yeah, it is very selfish. But sadly it happens that way all the time.
I am going to use your own words against you for a few lines here
“HOW TO END YOUR LIFE
Die of old age. It never fails to work. Its so awesome, all you have to do is sit back and relax and have fun in the meantime. Amazing isnt it? Good luck and choose no other option of death than this, all others fail and leave you misserable.”
Those are some pretty good words you came up with. Now you just need to see the meaning in them and find a way to apply them to yourself.
That selfishness just shows life is a disease itself for me and can only be cured with death =(
No point in living if im not happy and not accepted and not loved no matter how hard i try. I care for people but they dont care for me so that makes me feel like a nothing.
Xeno Dragon wrote:
Then don’t be one, silly. No one says you have to sit there and suffer when you don’t like the way things are. It’s your life, who better to change it than you?
I am trying and lots… but i cant change peoples minds. Thier opinions matter and if i didnt care what people say i would just be a loner and i hate loners =/ I am mostly concerned about this girl i love who doesnt love me and im not really liked by her either. I try so ******* hard and even am nice naturally but im hated still by people. I cant take it anymore. I need love, ive been isolated years and years and years, im completly neglected and losing sanity. =(
You can always find a reason to live. Sometimes it is really hidden and you have to look really hard. I’m not going to lie to you, I’ve thought about it and been **** close to doing it myself. Being on your way to Florida for vacation and then wake up not being able to walk again will do that to you. Been thru 13 surgeries to just try and keep my leg attatched to my body and still not be sure it’s going to stay there will drive you insane. I went from being an active newly married woman to a disabled lard butt in the blink of an eye. I am pretty much a recluse. I only go out when I just absolutely have to. I was going down fast. I found Help.com and just being on here and trying to help people has been better than other medicine they have given me. Maybe I was meant to be here to do just this, I don’t know. But there is a reason you are here. Now you just have to figure out what that reason is and make the most of it.
Opinions are like a**holes; everybody has one. They don’t mean sh*t, either.
Look, I know you feel bad, like I said, I’ve been there. But look at this. I’m a stranger, I don’t even know you, and I care enough to want you to live. I know that in thirty years, you’ll be glad you’re still alive. Yes, some of the people in your life may be complete di*ks to you, but why give them the satisfaction of knowing they were able to kill you and get away with it? Why let them know they got to you at all? If opinions matter so much to you, them show them you’re stronger than they are by not giving into their sh*t.
Xeno Dragon wrote:
Opinions are like a**holes; everybody has one. They don’t mean sh*t, either.
Look, I know you feel bad, like I said, I’ve been there. But look at this. I’m a stranger, I don’t even know you, and I care enough to want you to live. I know that in thirty years, you’ll be glad you’re still alive. Yes, some of the people in your life may be complete di*ks to you, but why give them the satisfaction of knowing they were able to kill you and get away with it? Why let them know they got to you at all? If opinions matter so much to you, them show them you’re stronger than they are by not giving into their sh*t.
Very well put!
Suicide is disgraceful. Use your painful experiences to make yourself stronger. Push this killing yourself nonsense out of your head and find a positive outlet to release your pain/anger/rage/shame/ etc. Whatever outlet that may be is up to you, but you have to at least try it before giving up.
avalanche_ale wrote:
Suicide is disgraceful. Use your painful experiences to make yourself stronger. Push this killing yourself nonsense out of your head and find a positive outlet to release your pain/anger/rage/shame/ etc. Whatever outlet that may be is up to you, but you have to at least try it before giving up.
Hell, break something if it makes you feel better. If you feel like destroying something will make things better, make it anything but yourself. You didn’t do anything wrong, why hurt yourself?
Jules22871 wrote:
You can always find a reason to live. Sometimes it is really hidden and you have to look really hard. I’m not going to lie to you, I’ve thought about it and been **** close to doing it myself. Being on your way to Florida for vacation and then wake up not being able to walk again will do that to you. Been thru 13 surgeries to just try and keep my leg attatched to my body and still not be sure it’s going to stay there will drive you insane. I went from being an active newly married woman to a disabled lard butt in the blink of an eye. I am pretty much a recluse. I only go out when I just absolutely have to. I was going down fast. I found Help.com and just being on here and trying to help people has been better than other medicine they have given me. Maybe I was meant to be here to do just this, I don’t know. But there is a reason you are here. Now you just have to figure out what that reason is and make the most of it.
Only thing i have to live for is this girl i love and she doesnt love me right now and im trying to find a way t change so she could…. but people keep telling me to give up just because were far apart, i havent had a girlfriend before and shes young and im a loser. =( for an explanation as to why. I care about people and i cant take care of everyone and dont get satisfied enough with everyone because theres always more people messed up. With her i love i could just take care of her and keep her happy then i would feel much better and would really like living all the time.
Im sorry for things that happened to you.
Actually im very isolated myself too =/
Xeno Dragon wrote:
Opinions are like a**holes; everybody has one. They don’t mean sh*t, either.
Look, I know you feel bad, like I said, I’ve been there. But look at this. I’m a stranger, I don’t even know you, and I care enough to want you to live. I know that in thirty years, you’ll be glad you’re still alive. Yes, some of the people in your life may be complete di*ks to you, but why give them the satisfaction of knowing they were able to kill you and get away with it? Why let them know they got to you at all? If opinions matter so much to you, them show them you’re stronger than they are by not giving into their sh*t.
Its because i dont want to be alone =’(
avalanche_ale wrote:
Suicide is disgraceful. Use your painful experiences to make yourself stronger. Push this killing yourself nonsense out of your head and find a positive outlet to release your pain/anger/rage/shame/ etc. Whatever outlet that may be is up to you, but you have to at least try it before giving up.
i dont see damaged and becoming an *******(which i feel like it could happen if it keeps up to me) coulds as stronger =/
I feel like just taking it out on myself… for brief moments i think of taking it out on others theni hate myself for thinking that and go back to wanting to take it out on myself again.
Xeno Dragon wrote:
Hell, break something if it makes you feel better. If you feel like destroying something will make things better, make it anything but yourself. You didn’t do anything wrong, why hurt yourself?
it seems superficial to destroy considering it doesnt make things better and i dont have anything i can. I dont want to hurt people and it feels like the me thats so hated is worth hurting.
Frustration I guess from how im not good enough and how people cant understand =/
My heads been pounding all day. I cried several times and i felt sick from the moment i woke up.
You don’t want to be alone. You’re not. We’re here. Once you gain confidence here, go out and find real-life people. But know that right now, you do have friends here.
If destroying things is superficial and doesn’t make things better, then why destroy your life? You said, “I dont want to hurt people and it feels like the me thats so hated is worth hurting.”
1. Aren’t YOU a person? If you don’t want to hurt anyone, think about that. Think about the people who would find your body. I think you’d be hurting them.
2. So you think that the people who hate you are being hurt by you? I think you’re going to have to explain the logic on this one to me.
And I think you’re underestimating exactly how much I DO understand. I’ve been there, I’ve been through worse. I’m nothing special, I’m just a regular person. If I can make it through, you can.
But, I can’t make you listen to me. If you don’t want to listen, then I won’t waste your time. However, if you don’t feel like talking is helping, then I urge you to seek help for medical depression, and take a pill instead of slashing a vein, or breaking your own neck.
If you want to keep talking, tell me, and I’ll stay.
If not, then tell me, and I will go away.
Its not always about me being alone. Theres this girl i dont want to be alone either and i dont want anyone to ever hurt her and i want to be with her so i can make sure =S
I actually talk a lot about things to people but thers always someone else who bring me back down again.
im mostly tired right now, its hard to type and think. Go if you want, im about to pass out anyways from feeling sick most the day and tired.
just ******* great =/
got an even worse responce being told im unlike by people now and feel worse =/
everyones so selfish =(
Yes, Everyone is. That’s no reason to die. Gandhi once said, “Be the change you would like to see.”
Nothing gets better if all you do is off yourself whenever things aren’t going your way. If everyone did that, there’d be none of us left.
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