I’ve been feeling empty lately. - Help.com

you should first be confident in yourself, try to make more friend with which u can share alot of prob, it is also good to meet people trough website like facebook, myspace,tagged.com, this will help u because u’ll meet alot of new people ,who think different ways and may also been facing the same prob as your, but how did u solv this same probleme years ago, if possible use that same way to solve this too, and it great to like spending time with friend than alone, cause as more u’re alone u may react bad but with friend something stop u to talks to object or anything else

Ive spent much of my schooling alone, ive had af ew friends here and there, but sometimes people who are a little different just dont get along with the crowd and thats fine. I’m sure someday and perhaps even someday soon you will find some people that you can relate too better sitnalta. What helped me was realizing that I didnt have to find people who were like me, I just had to find a little common ground and open myself up to new things…after doing that I actually got a few friends and before that trust me, I was one of the biggest loners in the entire school. Perhaps you can also try and join some clubs?

It sounds like someones trying to transfer their pain to you maybe. They may even be jealous and taking advantage of your good nature. It’s like they are breaking your heart a bit. Everything else ok?

Awe Alpha, I….I really am at a lost for what to say. And I truly don’t know what to tell you that could be helpful. High school is not the best place to make friends if you aren’t what some Valley-Girl-wannabe, lip-gloss-applying, hair-primping girl wants you to be. I didn’t know you when you were last depressed, I wish I was because I’ve learned that even though you don’t want to be near anyone while being depressed, it actually is one of the best thing to help you get over it. You’ve got a lot of friends on Help.com and we’ll ALWAYS be here for you. You know that if you want to talk to someone all you have to do is shout someone. And for your good friends you can take it outside of Help.com and email and text. And as much as I stress that we are here for you until the end, you’ll need some “real” friends too. Some friends that you can go places with and if you trust them, tell them what’s been bugging you because chances are they will help you.
Love you Alpha,
Tulips

you can get over it. thats what i did. thats what so many people do every day. accentuate the positives.

I’ve read this post for many times now, and I still don’t really know what to say. I never know the right thing to say, but I really hope that I can help you even for a little bit.

What helped you through your last depression? How did you overcome that?

As you said, your finals are next week. You should really be focusing on the finals.

Maybe you can talk to someone that you are kinda close too. Tell them about how you feel. Don’t tell yourself that you have no friends, it seems like you’re building a wall around you. Don’t keep people away when you don’t like solitude, reach out for your friends.

I spend most of my life alone not really having a core group of people, outside of my family, that I spend time with. I do a lot on my own, for example I wander around the city bunches of times by myself and then start conversations with random people if I feel lonely.I do a lot of talking to myself too. I’ve been part of a bunch of groups of friends but I never feel like I fit in anywhere so I just move on from one group to another. Yes, I feel lonely and I do wish I had amazing connections with people but people are unreliable and hold you back. I’d rather be independent but that’s just me. I also do lots of spacing only I see it as my way of escape, when I space out I don’t feel anything. It’s like a dreamless sleep. Anyways, I guess the whole purpose of this message is to tell you that you’re definitely not alone.

Why would you feel like you can’t tell them anymore?

It’s hard to try to convince that it’s not their fault. I would think that when you’re gone, the people that are close to you would probably blame themselves, it’s only natural.

I suppose, you could try to explain it. Just write what you think. Write the reasons why you’d be gone, and why it is not her fault. It shouldn’t be hard.

Don’t give up.

Hmm. Can you try not to tell them too much stuff, just a little bit of information so they would kinda understand the situation and can attempt to help?

I’m sure someone won’t mind a serious relationship as a friend.
As antisocial as I am, I think I’ve found one.

You should bring her up though, just to make sure that she won’t feel guilty…

Is there no reason for you to live anymore, Alpha?

From my perspective, you’re one of the greatest helper one here.
You impressed me when you convinced someone to continue living.
You talked people out of committing suicide. What happened to that?

Hold on the hope. That sounds interesting. Something that I can see myself trying to do, seeing as I love anime and manga so much.
Learning languages are frickin’ hard, I can only speak 2 languages right now, because I can’t speak latin…
You should try it. It would be something that you choose to do, not like the foreign language that you’re required to take in high school.
You’ll probably be good because you actually want to do it.

I understand. I translate latin almost daily…
I love learning, but I really don’t like the homework.
So learning Japanese will probably be awesome. You’ll eventually be able to watch anime without the subtitles :] or you might be able to read manga in Japanese.
That would be awesome.

I want to be able to do that so badly.
You should really do it, and tell me when you finally accomplished.

You’re welcome. :]
I’m glad that it helped.

Lol, I know this is alittle later, excuse it.

All you have to do when you are focused on doing something is to take it alittle until it feels natural again. I know you may not want to hear this but cherrish the free time you have. I know you would like someone by yourside who understands how you feel and can speak with physically, but the time you have is valuable as you can freely choose to do what you would like to do and not have to worry about having someone there to take it up away from you.

Well, there really isn’t a define way of saying normal, as everyone is different as does things differently. If you see someone who appears normal walking on the street, just see what they are like behind close doors and you’ll see what I mean. And you don’t need anything special to be special. Like I said, everyone is unique in their own way and do things tha suits them. There’s nothing wrong in how you feel or what you want, this is your own way and just turn if anyone says otherwise.

You know, ugly all that really is is just a lable that people put on things to make their own description on, nothing more. What may seem wrong in one person’s eyes is what is right for the world in another’s. Don’t stress too much over your spanish test, as worring about it will only make you mess up. You have to be calm of these things. Even if things don’t work out it dosen’t mean the end, it just means that you can still accomplish what you want but in a differenet way is all.

You like it though don’t you, all of that cannot be completely true as im sure someone has told you that they did not like something about you that you once liked. When it get’s down to it the only real opinion that matters is how you feel. If you liked something then don’t let just one or two people take the good feeling away from you. I know this personally, if I would listen to every time someone told me to stop what I liked then I would had fallen into depression and got rid of myself awhile ago. It’s especially tough when your surrounded by people who dislike either something about you or somethign you love. You gotta support yourself, don’t give in to them. Don’t let them take your happiness away now, prove that your stronger and keep it in you and don’t loose it.

First step in having a positive outcome, you have to love yourself and accept yourself for who you are. See that you are an individual and unique from everyone else. But you know that’s alittle of everyone, we all would like to change something about ourselves whether it’s our hair, skin tone or eye color. We all do have to be happy for us, if no one else. If you want to change but can’t, maybe right now at this moment just isn’t the right time yet. Stay positive, that’s the second thing that matters. It won’t all change in one day but some day it will all come together.

Hmm, maybe, well more then likely it probably is. The way I see you still have lots still to do here.

SITNALTA wrote:

Max wrote:
It sounds like someones trying to transfer their pain to you maybe. They may even be jealous and taking advantage of your good nature. It’s like they are breaking your heart a bit. Everything else ok?

How did you get that from my post?
Just asking

An educated guess maybe or gut feeling:) People are mainly the same. We all may be different, but the basic feeling are the same. Collin nailed it:) Very active, self confident people handle stress better.