I do not discuss my life with others because I can not stand - Help.com

Bravau to you!!!

i applaud you for your aplomb and self-sacrifice.

and please come on here anytime to talk about your feelings.

this site has helped me so much in my time here.

and i empathize with you, being a woman, although i do not have children.

Bravau!!

but again, if there’s anything you want to discuss. this is definitely the place.
So please relax, kick up your heels and be free to say whatever is on your mind.

this is probably the only place i can come and let off steam to be completely honest. and i’ve even posted pics of my face on here because i felt secure in
the anonymity. welcome to Help.com, Friend.

thank you, I supose the main thing is I have worked so hard to overcome steroetypes that I will not allow myself to be seen as week, ive made a rod for my own back,

oh and my house is a mess at the moment, i know that sounds silly, but i feel like failure because i cant keep on top of it all, its the only ball i can afford to drop and I just want to live in a nice tidy home.

lol, but you sound tired?

i heard this interesting phrase once, “perfection is not attainable but the pursuit of it will attain us”. it’s ok to let things lie, sometimes.

yes, i can see your strength and youre anonymous, lol. You’re destined for great things. At the very least, you’ll impact the ppl around in, (esp. your son) in great ways. That’s quite an accomplishment.

i see so many strengths in the words u have written. i wonder if u could re-read and appreciate urself a little more.
i see myself a little, and i see those things as strengths to me. except i dont have children, but would like to one day. dont let things get on top of u, its ok to not b perfect all of the time. just b u :)

excellente.

:) *sigh* I just somtimes wish somone would take note and help out, maybe come over and help me tidy, but, as you can tell, I come accross as strong so people dont think I need help, if i crumpled a bit, I might get that, but there is somthing inside me which will not allow me to discuss how i feel with anyone, its v odd, in my mid teens I used to be an open person but now the thought of telling someone I stuggle terrifies me, I physically can not talk about myself to people who know me, Ive made myself ill with pride,
v strange

well then, sounds like u know what to do! let just one person in, someone who wont see at is ‘weakness’ (which in my eyes its really not!) try not to use the term crumble any more…. u will b merely accepting a helping hand. thats really all it is, martydom is not a happy state to b in. no one truly goes trhough life without any help, accept it graciously. u sound lovely to me i bet lots of people will b happy to lend an ear. and if u feel u really cant… well then theres always us on here :)

sigh. it’s just something that will have to be worked out.

i went through a period myself where i wouldn’t allow anyone to see cracks in my veneer. looking back now, it was because i felt uncertain, stressed and yes…weak. so i tried to put up a strong front, because it felt like armour. it felt like i was protecting myself.

when’s the last time you were engaged in an activity which truly enjoyed? this can help with the stress. and very importantly, let out your feelings. ?

i read a line in a song i thought beautiful… ‘its those who crack that the light shines through’ makes it sound like a good thing now doesnt it?!
i agree with u srinh, u need to find the joy in life again… heck me too!

cloudless, that is excellent advice.

yes, it’s not crumbling to ask for advice.

it’s similar to.. using your resources so that you can perform to your optimum potential. it doesn’t do any good to take on all the burden and wear yourself out, needlessly. :) do you have any family that will be willing to help?

thats a tough question, felt good earlier on, I was doing some ironing at work and it was v hot, i had the fan going and was singing along to abba :)
I think I was happy because I was being domestic, at work im v clean and tidy its just when i get in i look at my house and give up,
appart from that, im not sure really, I think it was a few months ago, and I went for a drink with two uni fiends, it was late and we were sitting on a harbour side drinking larger, sounds silly I know, but it was that feeling of being normal, I wasnt a mother, I was a peer, Im much happier when im out the house and in honestly when im away from my daughter, I love her to bits but im not maternal,

unfortunatly my family live a fair distance away atleast an hour and a half. im close to my mum, she wants me to move near her so she can help, But I cant move yet as I have little ones nursery, my job and uni here,

hi, my name is sue rin. it’s nice to meet you.

abba, i love that group. lol.

and about your mum, she sounds very supportive. that seems like a probable alternative in the future, perhaps when you finish your degree?

and some of us are more maternal then others, that’s natural. kid’s need so much, it’s natural to feel depleted sometimes.

because u want time away doesnt mean ur not maternal, u love her but everyone needs a break. must b hard to get without family around, however this sounds like a temporary thing if u r planning on moving closer to family after uni? dont let resentment get hold of u though, think of a way u could possibly have those good times i.e drinks with friends around ur daughter. couldnt she saty over with ur folks say once a month, that way it would b worth the journey band good for the grand parents and ur daughter spending time together. i have friends with children who have similar probs with baby sitters so we go somewhere ‘family friendly’ for dinner that way the can bring their children. dont forget to involve ur daughter in some of the good times too build on the bond and make u feel better about that.