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Just try and explain things to them

i have tryed 2 explain things 2 them they just say im stupid nd i changed but i havent changed ok i might be stupid 4 doing this 2 my self but i just want them 2 understand im still me

god, that is one problem I don’t know.
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hi my name is Tonya i am 29 and have experience with deppression i say deppression because this is really the root of your problem you have to first ask yourself why events in your life that are stressfull make you have these urges to harm yourself its really no diffrent cutting yourself and being a drug addict or alcholic. these things happen to people when stress comes our way now this doesnt mean it is ok or the right way to deal with the problem but the first step is for you to say to yourself that this is a problem and that there are reasond for it if you feel like mo one in your family understands its very important to ralk with someone you trust and feel comfortable talking with then you need to decide if this is how you want to go on for the rest of your life and know that is you choose yes that you may die somday and the hope of ever being happy will be gone for me it is easyier to to just do one day at a time and dont worry about tommarow. try to figure out what triggers these feelings that are making you cutt yourself then try to take those feelings and put them in a difrent direction but a safe and non threatning manner i hope this will help you and i will pray that you will beat this

For the record ive also been depressed but im getting better and my situation is getting better

When i told my parents i was depressed they looked at me like i was somebody else. They didn’t talk to me the same and it was very weird and made so angry. I might be like this but I’m still the person you’ve known for the past 16 years. Can I ask when this happened.

you are you, if they dont see that and only see a self-harmer they obviously didnt know you in the first place. show them wrong, act exactly how you normally do, coz you havent changed, and just ignore them when they talk about you changing, since you know you havent. but please do me a favor and dont harm a healthy body, coz i get angry when i see healthy people put themselves in pain, and ii dont mean it in a bad way, i just think there is a better way to get your feelings out than having to hurt yourself

they found out i cut nd all that like 4 days ago but ever since then they hardly even spoke 2 me the only things they say 2 me r like ur stupid 4 doing that nd ur not the daughter i thought u were but them being like that with me is making me cut more i havent changed but they just dont see that they just c the cuts now not me not what there makein me feel like

231me231 if i cud stop hurting my self i wud but i cant nd im soz if u get angry wen people put them self in pain but its the only way i know how 2 deal with stuff

it may seem hard, but what happens if the next time you cut you die? i kno your family is acting weird now, it may only be b.c they dont know how to deal with your cutting, but if next time you cut and die, what would your family feel? they would be really upset. its hard, maybe tell them you want help, if its the only way you know how to deal with things, maybe you need to be taught how, there are groups for that kind of stuff.

Hi there. I really feel your pain. I’m very, very sad and sorry that it has come to this point. You don’t deserve to feel as miserable as you do right now - no one does. Yet, so many of us do. Especially during the years when those older than you can see you as no more than “a stupid little kid,” feeling like you do can be even more difficult and infuriating to get through. You have all of these really intense, gloomy emotions inside you about everything - about life, about yourself, about your relationships with the people close to you. Seeing no other way to vent your frustrations, you see one temporary way out: through cutting your body.

As a person recovering from depression and self-destructive tendencies similar to yours, I’m well aware of the emotions that arise in a person that compels them to hurt themselves. You feel trapped in your own life - suffocating, and dying silently, alone. The negative emotions are persistent and damaging. They may last several years before you understand the cause of them and decide enough is enough. The good news is that, if you’re motivated, you can start feeling better. You’ll need the support of those close to you whose opinions and feelings matter. Find someone you trust, be brave, and tell them what you’re feeling. Chances are, a trustworthy person would be glad to help you. Is there anyone in your life like this to help you?

If no, I’m here to help. Feel welcome to talk with me. I wish you the very best.

So just ignore them you dont have to listen to people that dont understand.

231me231 if i died the next time i cut i wud prob be better of nd my family wudnt feel anythink they just think im a waste of space anyway so it wud b no big lose

oddwomani theres no one in my life that wud help me no one wants anuthink 2 do with me sence they found out that i cut

sum i wish it was that easy

You cant seriously believe that. The reason they’re acting so weirdly is because they care about you so much. what was your relationship like beforehand?

your wrong, i actually have quite a hard life too, and i have died 4 times, and im only 14, and no matter how much my mother ignores me, hates me, neglects me, each time i have died, she was the first person who i saw when i woke up.she may not have been crying, she may not have cared i died, but she was with me for some unknown reason, that reason was b,c i am her daughter, she is my mother, we all have family instincts it just takes a knock on the head to notice it, you family is acting the way they are b,c they are still feeling the affect of that knock on the head, let it die down a little. then maybe they will start to be helpful

my relationship with them has never been that good its not been the worst or the best t they wudnt care if i did die cuz thats what they want i hear from them every day that they hate me that they wish i was never born ive hured that every day 4 years so y wud they care they wudnt they never do i just want them 2 understand that im stilll me that they dont need 2 keep thing i changed wen i ent

Your family is telling you that it was stupid to cut your self and might seem to be angry at you caused you scared the hell out of them. The daughter they love is so unhappy that she cut herself and ended up in hospital is a lot to take in. Give them some time. have you talked to them about this?

yh i have tryed talking 2 them bout it

What did they say?

they said im a stupid little kid who always messes everythink up that i sud just b happy with my life nd stop messing everythink up

Have you explained that it is this that is making you so unhappy.

yh i have they just say i got a good life that i got nothing 2 b unhappy bout that i sud stop being so selfish

You should go see a therapist or something.

Heres some other things you can do.
*Exercise and eat healthier
*get out with some friends
*get out in the sun some
*watch a lot of comedies
*listen to lots of music
*try to only stay positive, even if you have to say things you dont believe, just say them to yourself over and over.
*talk about your problems
*find some more new friends
*try and educate your family about things
*if you feel like cutting go take a really cold shower or something instead
*dont feel bad about what ignorant misinformed people think
*dont give up

I would just say that you hate feeling this way and you understand what they’re saying, you’re trying to fight it but you can’t and you really need them because things are too hard and overwhelming for you to deal with alone. Ask them for help and apologize for the pain you may be causing them and that hurting them is hurting you too. You have no where else to turn and you really need them. I’m not saying it is true but at least they should understand and if you are feeling like this you really need your parents to be there for you. They do love you and care for you. Even if you do not believe please just try to connect with them; what harm can it do?

i dont want them 2 help me stop i dont think i need 2 stop cutting i just want them 2 treat me like they did b4 they new i did it i just want them 2 treat me like me not just someone who cuts them self

But how can you expect them to. They’re daughter is unhappy she self harms. Sympathize with them. They may be wrong in the way they are dealing with it but I have no doubt that they are really hurt. They need to understand that you are still the daughter that have known but how ever long, but they are never got to get past the way you feel. They thought you were happy, so to find out that you tried to kill yourself must make you seem like a different person. The best thing to do to return to some kind of normality is to connect with them and make them understand. Please just try.

i didnt try 2 kill my self i just cut 2 deep i do understand what ur saying nd i will try 2 connect with them nd try make them understand a bit

Anonymous wrote:
i dont want them 2 help me stop i dont think i need 2 stop cutting i just want them 2 treat me like they did b4 they new i did it i just want them 2 treat me like me not just someone who cuts them self

Then stop cutting yourself. Now youve turned it into an attention thing. You dont need that.

your family needs professional help like family conculing…do you have a medical Dr. that you trust that you can tell your situation to? He/she might be able to talk to your parents on your behalf and recamend something