we threw eggs and toilet papered a teachers house
Ahahaha, but tbh that is a bit stupid, you should have thought it through, you were GOING to get caught.
But it could have been worse.
Why do they hate YOU for it? Was it all your idea?
it wasnt all my idea and yes i know that it was stupid ive heard that about a billion time over the past 2 days. idk why they hate me? maybe cause im older then them maybe cause they think its my fault we got caught maybe they just want someone to blame. idk and idk what i should do
Are they mad at each other as well?
Try to be the most mature and if they arent talking to you, dont get upset, dont keep trying, just let them cool down
no they are still friends with each other and are still talking. i just feel like i have nobody else to talk to now that they wont talk to me. i feel so alone without them but i guess i should just give them space for now and try again later?
Yeah, that sounds like a good idea, but if you dont feel like waiting, then you could always try asking them straight out why they arnt talking to you, say that you got into trouble because of them aswell. You should stick together. Although are you sure that they arnt dragging you down?
would you have done this if it wasnt for them?
i think i dragged them down with me…. it all started a while ago i was having trouble with drinking and stuff and they told me they would be there for me and i could hang out with them instead of all my other “friends” they told me that those werent my true friends but that they were. They told me they would help keep me straight and make good decisions. and when ive suggested things to them before that was a bad idea they would say no no thats a bad idea, but for some reason this time they agreed to go along with the idea to do the house, now they wont speak to me cause we got in trouble and ive tried so many times to apologize
You could maybe write them letters, promise to change? Remind them why you guys are friends but really you need to sort out how you act a bit. Trry really hard not to get caught up in the moment, think about it more before you act. If you need help you should try to get a counceller, they can make it so much easier
ive had a coucler but she didnt help me at all. she always just told me “well it seems you know what you need to do” and wouldnt really even try to see what was wrong…it seemed like she just pretended to care just for the money. i wrote a letter to one of my friends… should i hand it to her or mail it?
*sigh* you can get really bad councellors, i had a terrible one once. Its a shame :(
Erm…. Maybe try to hand it to her?
thanks for all the help sandstar…im afraid she wont want to take it though. i went to her house yesterday to say im sorry and i rang the doorbell and they wouldnt answer because they knew it was me :( i feel like im fighting for a lost cause. maybe its already to late and ive lost them forever
I doubt that you’ve lost them forever. Although maybe they arnt really your friends?
Im not sure
How old are you and how old are they?
And you’re welcome, im just sorry i cant help more :(
im a junior in hs 17 and they are freshman 15 or 16 i think…. maybe they just befriended me to try to do something good maybe they never even were really my friends
I dont know. It may also be that they have over protective parents who are now giving them grief saying that they cant see you. It would be easier for them to blame you than to admit they might have failed as a parent.
So maybe its not your friends faults?
Maybe they’re not ALLOWED to speak to you
:/ i dont know
yesterday i went to one of the girls houses after i went to the other house (the one who didnt open the door) and her parents told me that i couldnt talk to their daughter for a long time and she told me to leave there house and to just give them space… but im afraid if i dont try to get them to forgive me they will think i dont care about them and just forget about me all together
Then let them know you care, a simple letter (post it) and then back off, make it clear you still want to be friends but you are giving them space
okay… thank you so much for all your help. i dont even know you but you helped me more than anybody else has at this point in my life. thank you so much god bless
3 Awww thank you, come back any time, seriously. Here to help :)
are you sure they are ignoring you or is it that they are grounded and cant talk to anyone? i know that when i was grounded.. i couldnt talk to any of my friends.. some parents use different groundings from other parents.. have you considered this?
yeah i have, the thing is 2 of the people i did it with still hang out with each other and go to the pool together and stuff, send facebook messages etc. but when i try to talk to them i just get ignored. i just hope when some time passes they will see that i need them and that they can forgive me…. idk what else to do anymore but leave them alone and give them space
frozenpenguin3 wrote:
i just hope when some time passes they will see that i need them
sit back and ask yourself.. why you wrote this… why do you NEED someone to complete YOU..
i understand that they are your friends and that its nice to have friends to hang out with and have fun with.. but why do you NEED anyone to complete YOU?
youre a good person right? you help others right? you can make others smile right? so why do you NEED anyone to complete YOU?
sure, its nice to have them as friends.. and i hope that they understand that you WANT their friendship back… but you never NEED someone to complete you..
WANTING and NEEDING are two different things.. right?
maybe writing to them on their facebook or leaving a funny comment will get them to respond back to you like nothing happened.. maybe they too think that you are mad at them.. and they are thinking the same thing that you are thinking right this very second..
hope that helps a little.. hugs.
wow. i never thought of it that way…. now that i think about it, a year from now ill hopefully be going to college and they will still be in high school so if i do need them to complete me i will be going to college a part of myself, but your right i dont NEED them i just WANT them to be my friend again. i WANT them to forgive me, i dont NEED them to forgive me. i guess if they never forgave me it would hurt me, but then again i would find a way to move on find someone else to talk to and be friends with…. thanks so much shie
you are very welcome!!!!
many many hugs to you!!!
i just have to giggle.. because i wish i was this wise when i was growing up… lol.. because i remember being in so many people’s shoes that i write too on this site… lol.. and so many people are like, thank you.. and i just want to kick myself.. because i have lived it and never could tell myself when i was living it.. lol..
well im glad you are here now helping people, so we arent kicking ourselves later too :) thank you so much and god bless you
frozenpenguin3 wrote:
well im glad you are here now helping people, so we arent kicking ourselves later too :) thank you so much and god bless you
awwwwwwww, thank you… and yes… that is why i love coming here… lol.. because of my past life experiences.. i feel that my past can show people that there is life beyond the present now.. i have made it and so can you..
i have been here for 2 years now, just havent been around as of late due to health issues.. but im back now.. woot woot.. :)
many hugs.. ill add you as a friend… be sure to call upon me if you need me… hugs.
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~Shie~