Adoption help: Broken Heart/Broken Life? - Help.com

I sympathize with you soo much. Let the ex go, he is no good for you, your clearly suffering from post natal depression & you need to get that treated straight away, it gets so much worse if ignored & left untreated, do that now!
It is a completely normal sign of post natal depression to feel like you have not or can not bond with the twins, that is coz you dont feel good or strong in yourself, you dont need to suffer with this it is just a severe hormone imbalence brought on by pregnancy & added to coz of the stress of your ex, believe me he will make you worse if you let him.
Let the kids stay with ur family for a while but see them regularly, this will take the initial pressure off you whilst still letting you spend time with them so you can work on your bond without as much pressure.
Get to your doctor asap & be honest how you feel, they deal with this all the time & they can & will sort it out for you.

yeah get rid of him he sounds like a loser who feels bad about himself. u need to get rid of him..maybe put ur twins up for adoption cuz hes a dead beat father. move on with ur life and leave the hurt and everything behind u. it will pass..people who are damaged like that can mess the world up pretty badly.

krista_marlen wrote:
yeah get rid of him he sounds like a loser who feels bad about himself. u need to get rid of him..maybe put ur twins up for adoption cuz hes a dead beat father. move on with ur life and leave the hurt and everything behind u. it will pass..people who are damaged like that can mess the world up pretty badly.

You should NOT be looking into adoption unless there is no other resort!! You are not passed help your just hormonal, emotional & stressed, there’s not many people could cope with what you’ve been through & its twice as hard with twins. Get medication off your doctor, you’ll be suprized how much of a difference it makes & it will help relatively quickly, Don’t feel bad or guilty, soo many women go through this but it is so easily treated & you will understand it all a lot better in a while when you’ve been treated & got over this awful phase in your lofe. Its not your twins fault who there dad is & its not your fault any of this is happening. Any time you need a talk im here, don’t suffer on your own. Best wishes x x

Look you’ve got to believe me, it does get better, your body & mind have been through a major trauma & now it’s messed with your mind, this can all get better again you just need to accept the help & try to stay positive, cut out of your life the things that make you worse e.g the ex, let people help you with the kids, be honest with your mum, she’ll be more understanding than you think & she can help take the pressure off you by helping to look after kids. Dont just sit around all day, get out of the house, go for a walk, tend your garden, go for a swim, something relaxing that gets you out in the fresh air & takes your mind off it all, dont try to isolate yourself from everyone, i know that seems the easiest thing to do but it wont do you any good. Keep trying, dont give up, i know your a great mum & a strong person & everyone needs help at some stage in their lives. Talk to your girlfriends that have kids, i bet some of them have been through something similar. Best wishes, JN x x

So how are you feeling now?

Theres no need to be scared, you did ok with your first child, you’ll be fine with the twins too,its just stress & anxiety & hormones playing tricks with your mind & feelings, it will all level out & stop being scary when the medication & counceling starts to take effect. Are the twins with you now? Are you alone?

you have to accept that the dream you had of the family life with him is over, doesnt mean you cant have it, its just itll be with someone else & not that idiot it’ll be with someone that deserves to be a part of your life & family, dont keep waiting for him to change into the person you want, its not going to happen but you will find someone else better when your ready, but for now just concentrate on yourself.
Have a look for support groups in your local area so you can get out of the house & talk to other people that are going through something similar, you’ll make some new friends & then you wont feel so lonely & you wont miss the waste of space ex so much

There are mother & baby groups you could find, there must be some in your area. What country are you in? Can you not get any state benifits? Bancrupsy is an option but not one to be entered into lightly, if you do it you will have a bad / non existant credit rating prob for the rest of your life & u may not be able to get a bank account again.

I’ll pray for you, Hun. Hope life turns better for you soon!