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Talk to your mom about it!!! This isn’t a healthy situation for anyone. Tell her how you’re feeling. It sounds like it’s time for you, your mom, and your brother to get out of there. Maybe your mom could kick him out or something. It seems like this situation could turn very bad very quickly.

I already have - I don’t want them to get a divorce and there are positives to living with my dad. I’d feel awful if he was kicked out - what would happen to him

Well, maybe you and your brother could talk to him about finding a job. But don’t be hateful about it, just suggest it. It sounds like he doesn’t really know where else to turn, so he’s focusing all of his time and effort on you guys. I think he is just getting carried away and forgetting that you guys need your own room to grow. Give him a break when you bring this up. Don’t hurt him too much. Actually, I wish my dad was half as interested in my music and interests. Sometimes I think he could easily forget my name! Anyways, just nonchalantly suggest jobs, like “this would be a cool place to work!” or “if we had more income in the house, we could get this gaming system and blahblahblah!”

And when people say “wtf is your dad doing here”, who cares? I’m sure they’ll get over it.

There are no jobs for him - everything that he did apply for has been passed on to people half his age. Companies make more money off younger workers I guess.
I think you are probobly right though

It is a very tough job market right now unfortunately :( maybe he could start up his own company. What’s he good at?

computers and networking and I know that he used to run a company that delt with electrics,plumbing,buildig and all that kind of stuff

Hmm… that’s tricky. So he ran a company already huh? He must have pretty good credentials. What’s his degree in?

all I know is that the degree is relevant to computer networking