Family help: I really want to join the marines, but my mom is completely against it.

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I really want to join the marines, but my mom is completely against it.

I’m 18 years of age and Ive wanted to be a marine all my life. My mom believes that we are the aggressors in an unjust war in Iraq, and that we shouldn’t be there at all. I agree with her for the most part, but I have wanted this all my life. I know I could just enlist anyway but I love my mom and I don’t want to hurt her. My girlfriend is also against me going and I don’t want to disappoint her. Where do I go from here?

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Krystyn :} 2 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months, 3 weeks ago (21 minutes after post)

Why have you wanted to be a Marine all your life? What is your insperation for wanting to join?

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gonnascor3on #
An Unknown Location | 5 months, 3 weeks ago (23 minutes after post)

join the coast guard thats what i did in that postition and my mom loves it.. ur helping people and keeping those around you safe

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Dublin, 07, IE | 5 months, 3 weeks ago (25 minutes after post)

You don’t join. You wait and see if the war ends. If it does, join. If not, don’t.

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Krystyn :} 2 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months, 3 weeks ago (30 minutes after post)

It’s your own choice, your mom will learn to respect the choice you choose to make. My mom has gotten over that I will join th Navy. They just have to learn and to understand that it’s your life and that it’s your decisions to make.

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nbtravens3 0 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months, 3 weeks ago (33 minutes after post)

My dad and my grandfather were both in the military. My dad flew choppers in Vietnam and my grandpa in WW2. I always have the urge to be a hero and a leader and the marines look like the toughest challenge out there, so its been my goal ever since I was ten years old.

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Dublin, 07, IE | 5 months, 3 weeks ago (37 minutes after post)

-swoon-

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An Unknown Location | 5 months, 3 weeks ago (37 minutes after post)

(grandpa was a fighter pilot, no choppers in WW2 haha)

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Krystyn :} 2 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months, 3 weeks ago (43 minutes after post)

But also she should respect your choice to join the Marines and understand that it’s something you’ve wanted to do your whole life.

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An Unknown Location | 5 months, 3 weeks ago (44 minutes after post)

I’d say go airforce if anything. What’s wrong with going through college with ROTC program and then serving? You will like being a military officer when you sign on and so will GF and mom.

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Krystyn :} 2 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months, 3 weeks ago (46 minutes after post)

That’s what I’m doing in the Navy, I’m gonna do the ROTC and do college and then serve

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An Unknown Location | 5 months, 3 weeks ago (51 minutes after post)

Well I definitely love my girlfriend very much, and I could see our relationship potentially lasting our whole lives. The problem is she doesn’t want me to be far away from her and she thinks I might not come back. I’m not afraid to die for my country, and I’m not afraid to stand up to my mom. I really don’t want to upset her like that though..

Krystyn :} 2 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months, 3 weeks ago (53 minutes after post)

Well if you feel the relationship could last your whole lives why not get married, at least then she can live on base with you, thats what my parents did.

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An Unknown Location | 5 months, 3 weeks ago (58 minutes after post)

She told me she doesn’t want to have to go anywhere and that I should be staying home with her, but she doesn’t see the bigger picture. We always planned on getting married, I just don’t even know if she would still want to if I joined.

Krystyn :} 2 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour after post)

Then she’s not the girl you need to be with. I mean yeah every girl wants to settle down and have a family, bu she needs to repsect your decisions to do what you want to do.

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An Unknown Location | 5 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 20 minutes after post)

I know, she definitely is a great girl, and I don’t want to hurt her. I also don’t think I could ever deal with losing her either. I don’t want to wake up some day when its too late and realize I could’ve done something great for my country though. I was set for so long on doing this and I never really though of being anything else.

Krystyn :} 2 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 31 minutes after post)

I’ve given my opinion and thats just what it is my opinion, and in the end the only opninion you really need to follow is your own.

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An Unknown Location | 5 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 36 minutes after post)

btw thanks for your help everybody, your all freakin awesome.

Krystyn :} 2 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 38 minutes after post)

Your very welcom, btw I added you to my friends list

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An Unknown Location | 5 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 43 minutes after post)

cool thanks

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An Unknown Location | 5 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 46 minutes after post)

haha nah its good advice, thanks

Krystyn :} 2 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 47 minutes after post)

Well I hoped we help more than we confused you.

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nbtravens3 0 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 48 minutes after post)

i think so, i mean im still confused, but i have some more perspective

Krystyn :} 2 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 52 minutes after post)

Well thats good

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DAT305DADECOUNTYCHIC #
An Unknown Location | 5 months ago (2 weeks, 6 days after post)

Well i say do wut u do, life ain’t nuthin but
A minute, so n dat lil bit of tym u need ta make
Sure all yo dreams n wut not gets done. u’on wanna
Live yo life knowin it could b betta….well atleast
Frm ur prospective. i mean dey upset wit ur decision
Right now but wen it cums down to it dey gon hav ta luv
U eitha way or dey gon end supportin ur decision n da
Long run. so………..i mean, but its all up ta u so,
Do wut u do, or wut u thank u should do
-miss sunshine

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