Child help: I feel so alone. - Help.com

What happened?

People won’t judge you at ALL. If you really want to, you could terminate the pregnancy. Or go through with the pregnancy and then put the child up for adoption. Or keep him/her. It’s up to you.
Do you want to talk about what happened?

Its your baby, and your baby isnt an it…Its not your babys fault that he/she is growing inside you… Put aside your hates and start to feel some love for an innocent sou who wants to survive… Its hard enough, life, but if your child feels he/she was a mistake, it would hurt your baby for life… wise upl

What you’ve been through is horrible and you seriously need to talk with someone close to you about the different options, whether it’s abortion, keeping the baby and receiving help to look after it, adoption etc.

If you do keep the baby, don’t blame it for what happened or project your bad feelings towards it. It can’t help the way it was conceived and deserves love and attention just like any other child. Don’t worry about what others will think of you, just concentrate on what’s best for yourself.

There is so much help out there and you need to talk to someone and start receiving it.

you need to talk to someone. at the end of the day, you really need to do whats best for you, whether you terminate the pregnancy, adopt it out or keep it… it must be 100% your choice, otherwise you will never forgive yourself for listening to other people in such a life altering decision.
also i’m sure if you went to a school counsellor, you could talk to someone.

you also should go to the cops about this ************. if he took advantage of you sexually you should tell someone. he shouldnt get away with it.

For one, I’m glad that he got jailed for what he did.
Now you need to step back from what everyone else is telling you. What your mother said was not right, but maybe she has issues and has developed this idea in her head of raising a lovely child. Maybe she feels like a failure and wants a chance to do something right.
As for your friends, all they are thinking of is how fun it would be to have a cute baby around occasionally to dress up and fuss over.
You are the one with the massive responsibility. If you go through with the pregnancy, you will be the one responsible of carrying the child, giving birth to it, looking after it day in, day out. You will be the one who will have to be there for his/her whole life, watch them grow up into adults. If you keep the baby, you will one day be dealing with a toddler, then a child, then a teenager and one day they will be an adult.

You need to ask yourself: Am I emotionally ready for that?
Can I manage financially?
Will a part of me always hate this baby for being a part of him?

Think about it and don’t let others persuade you to do something you will regret. There are options, like giving the baby up for adoption but still being allowed to visit. You might find, like many mothers do, that once it is born you feel a sudden love and sense of duty towards caring for the baby that you didn’t expect. The minute it’s there and in your arms you might find you want it.

Whatever you do, think about what’s right for you, not what others want.

And don’t let yourself feel guilty for not wanting the baby, what happened was in no way your fault and you are very young to be having to deal with this.