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What is his game?

A guy at my work is always twinkling at me, flirting and touching me. But he has a gf and never makes it clear if he wants to explore a new relationship with me. It makes our ‘friendship’ weird! How can I get him to act on his feelings or - stop feeling me! I am good either way (I fancy him rotten) but I don’t like being in limbo!! HHHHHHEEEEEEELLLLLLLPPPPPP

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J.N Location unknown offline Verified User (8 months, 4 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 471 #
An Undisclosed Location | 5 months, 4 weeks ago (11 minutes after post)

First what is ‘twinkling’? This guy has a gf so what exactly are you hoping for? Its already doomed before it starts! If he finished is gf & you 2 got together you’d never trust him coz you’d know he was doing with some other girl what hes doing with you now. Save yourself from heartache & forget this guy

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An Undisclosed Location | 5 months, 4 weeks ago (13 minutes after post)

If I were you I wouldn’t do anything but be a platonic friend, or you may find yourself being the catalyst for him breaking up with his girl friend and that’s not a good thing. If he decides to end his relationship with her cause they’re not working out and then ends up being with you then fair enough.

I just think it’s never a good idea to be proactively involved in anyone’s break up.

You may want to let him know that his touchy feely behaviour is inappropriate considering he has a girl friend.

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Island offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 10 #
An Undisclosed Location | 5 months, 4 weeks ago (15 minutes after post)

J.N lost wrote:
First what is ‘twinkling’? This guy has a gf so what exactly are you hoping for? Its already doomed before it starts! If he finished is gf & you 2 got together you’d never trust him coz you’d know he was doing with some other girl what hes doing with you now. Save yourself from heartache & forget this guy

Very true - trusting him would be pretty tricky if this is how he generally behaves around other women

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J.N Location unknown offline Verified User (8 months, 4 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 471 #
An Undisclosed Location | 5 months, 4 weeks ago (17 minutes after post)

Island wrote:

J.N lost wrote:
First what is ‘twinkling’? This guy has a gf so what exactly are you hoping for? Its already doomed before it starts! If he finished is gf & you 2 got together you’d never trust him coz you’d know he was doing with some other girl what hes doing with you now. Save yourself from heartache & forget this guy

Very true - trusting him would be pretty tricky if this is how he generally behaves around other women

If you get it on with him you’ll be back on this site in a cpl of months with a new post saying ‘ i cant trust my bf he’s always touching & flirting with other women!’ Save yourself the hastle

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An Unknown Location | 5 months, 4 weeks ago (20 minutes after post)

twinkling is when a guy is smiling constantly, paying you heaps of attention, getting a bit too close into your personal space, flirting but not actually making his intentions clear. NOrmally the twinkling is done to make a good impression and then the dating starts! but in this case I think he might be the kind of guy who loves the idea he has options.

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An Undisclosed Location | 5 months, 4 weeks ago (24 minutes after post)

Where i come from that is known as being a 5ex pest! Dont join in with his games, im sure you’d be able to find someone else thats available, leave well alone no good can come from this

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An Undisclosed Location | 5 months, 4 weeks ago (6 hours, 3 minutes after post)

Just be careful, he does have a girlfriend.

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