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So I’ve got a weird situation?

Any advice?

By nature, I’m a fairly easy going person, but something about this guy I’m with (We’ve been together about 10 months)… I get jealous easily. I do a really good job at keeping it in, like I don’t act on it or say anything to anyone, but I can’t figure out WHY I’m jealous. All the books say that it is either because of past experiences or because of self confidence issues, but really I don’t know… my past has been kind of bad, but nothing really sticks out, and I like myself pretty well. I don’t worry about other people being better than me or anything… I just don’t know how to deal with it or get rid of it. I cry when I’m by myself just because it is eating me up inside… and I can’t seem to shake it. He has done nothing to make me feel this way.. he’s an outstanding individual, perfect towards me and always showering me with compliments. He always keeps a respectful relationship with other women- never flirting or acting different. He for sure only has eyes for me… so why am I so messed up?

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jh14591 offline Verified User (9 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 6 months ago (10 minutes after post)

I don’t worry about him finding someone else though… I mean I am a pretty girl, college education, I’ve got a lot going for me.. I just don’t like the idea that he might be closer to someone else… it’s not worrying about how lucky he is/ how attractive I am… it’s deeper than that… it’s a connection thing… Make sense? I’m worried about him sharing things with other people that he might not share with me. I’m worried about him being more open with others than me. I’m worried that he will feel like he’s got to keep things to himself in order to keep me around.

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JDC offline Verified User (6 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 22 #
An Undisclosed Location | 6 months ago (4 hours, 52 minutes after post)

I know wat u mean. It might just be because you like him alot and yall have a really good thing going. I hate being away from my bf and when hes with other people i get jealous. Its just like hes sharing things with others and im missing it, u know. But its probably just because u dont wanna lose him. just talk to him about it.

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