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I don’t really know what to say, or how to say it.

so, here is a brief synopsis:
I am emotionally unwell.
I am terrified of anything social (Explains: Last year I fell for a girl, not for looks but for her personality. it all turned on me, violently. I ended up depressed and anxious. this extended to everything and I got so nervous about things I couldn’t breathe, and at one point lost it and started hitting my head against a wall, so hard I drew blood, and have a scar (hidden by my hair thank god). I was seeing a shrink at the time. I should have known she wouldn’t like me, I know that, but…)

I have since stopped going to the shrink, and I think he thought I was okay. Im still not.
I had asked someone out before her, and tried to ask someone after, but panicked, and later found out she had been saying horrible things about me. that did not help, at all, especially given I had known her since I was four. At any rate, those aren’t my only problems.

I have been having trouble motivating myself to do stuff these past two years. I always feel tired, or as if I just can’t do it anyway. I feel like even if i do it I will fail.
I lost my job working as a games salesperson. As much as my boss could be evil sometimes, she was young enough for me to get along with, and had been through most of the stuff I have as a kid.

I recently contracted whooping cough, and have been very sick because of it. I should have been hospitalised for at least the first week, but wasn’t. So I have been really, really tired lately, and lack any energy enough to do even things I enjoy, let alone homework and chores.

I am falling for a friend. She is one of the nicest girls I am ever likely to meet (Personality, I don’t care about looks, because I am the weirdest 16 year old male on earth.). I am aware that she has a boyfriend (about 7 years Older than me, recently installed my new kitchen oddly enough. He is a nice bloke and i really don’t want to come between him and her) I ask her how she can put up with me (I don’t think she knows, but I doubt I will do anything about it) and I don’t really get an answer.
I know that she has a boyfriend, but I really, really want to hold her in my arms, or be held. I know I’m not going to do anything about it, I just feel like that…

I am struggling in all my subjects, except Physics. because I actually enjoy it. it is phun philled.
I am really having a hard time lately, i just don’t cope, and it feels like Im not worth the effort. I try and I try but I can’t help, let alone save myself. I feel like I get in the way of everyone else. I say sorry alot, and It feels like I am just apologising for being here. I know I should go to the shrink again, but I just don’t want to, not because I don’t think its uncool or something (That doesn’t concern me), but because they just tell me the same things all the time, and I put in the effort and get nothing out.

I am really worried that I am going to do something stupid, soon.

I just don’t know what to do, i try to talk about it to them, but I guess I am losing faith in them. I feel as if they talk about me behind my back, or secretly hate me or something. I don’t know why.

I’m really sorry, sometimes I really need to say how I feel, and I just can’t. Words fail me.

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An Unknown Location | 5 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 2 minutes after post)

You seem very passionate, don’t lose your passion for people, love can be really tricky. Sometimes it takes a while to get it right. Try to keep yourself busy, I always find that it helps me when I fell lost. It also helps put things into perspective. When your mind is busy with other tasks you will not be as concerned about her. I will sometimes read a book or watch a movie just to escape for a while. If you like physics, try and find a club or group you can join. You are very luck to have so many passions. good luck, and keep me posted.

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dark_reveries offline Verified User (5 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 51 minutes after post)

I like her, but know nothing will happen about it. its mostly when I’m with her. There is no way I am going to avoid her, because she is one of very few people who can put up with me. I dont want to lose her like I lost (blank) and (other blank).
This is more or less just how I feel in general. I am really, really sick at the moment, enough to have been coughing blood this afternoon (only when I was walking home). I have been sick for 3 months now and it is kind of affecting everything.
Whooping cough sucks, for the love (or hate) of whatever deity anyone worships (that includes you satan!), please get immunised! I was given the wrong booster last year, and I got it. It is permanently damaging my lungs and throat and is causing ear, head and eye aches, nausea, vomiting and even a swelling blood vessel in my eye, all from sheer force of the coughs. Whole lot of not fun for someone with small lungs and asthma.
And thank you for replying vondaleewigmor.

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An Unknown Location | 5 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 59 minutes after post)

also, I live in a wwwaaaaayyy remote town in Australia. The only science, much less physics, groups in the area I have already tried - I go to school with the kids, and I dont get along with them. We used to be very good friends, but then a new person moved in from canada, and she kinda decided to hate me. Violent too. (I did nothing. I yelled at her once after she threatened me (Hint: dont ever threaten a 6 foot 6 tall guy. ever. we don’t like it)). Then after a cyber bullying incident (attacks on me, directly at my personality) I stopped talking to them. Very, very tempted to hurt them. alot. but I didn’t, because I’m the ‘bigger’ man (literally)
… so yeah, there aren’t any physics, anime, manga (Anime and Manga - only a few people I know like it, and the only one with similar tastes to me is in that group) groups around. Only one guy and I like Opeth and porcupine tree, me and another guy and the first blank like Cradle of Filth and children of bodom, me and another guy like amon amarth, etc. There aren’t enough people who like the same stuff as me out here to actually hang out really.

My posts are really, really big…

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vondaleewigmor offline Verified User (5 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months ago (13 hours, 7 minutes after post)

Maybe you could find some groups online. Soon you will be out of school and it will be a lot easier to find people with similar interests. (i checked out your profile) Life gets better outside high school. Try to focus on the things you like, it will make the time go faster.

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dark_reveries offline Verified User (5 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months ago (13 hours, 24 minutes after post)

Good god I hope so.
Its just that my grades have been slipping, and though I am passing I am worried that I won’t get the results I need (OP13 minimum, Engineering or IT)
that’s another thing that is worrying me a lot

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An Unknown Location | 2 days, 17 hours ago (5 months after post)

Awwww I’m so sorry. Both my parents and my sister (and basically all my aunts, etc haha) are depressed and it’s been really hard to grow up surrounded by them. Maybe you could get medicine…I know it works even though it seems stupid…but yeah. I’m sorry. Just know that you’re going to meet the right person and look for the good things in life.

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