Love help: I know its true love but something doesn’t feel right… - Help.com

have you talked to him about this? if so, what did he say?

It will only get worse. True love means not making the other person feel guilty for nothing, and not imposing restrictions. It doesn’t sound like true love to me. True love is taking the other person as they are.

It doesn’t sound good honey, my bf has offered to support my career, emotionally and financially and in return I will do the same for him, my bf also trusts me enough to not care who my friends are as long as they don’t take advantage of me, he knows other men may like the way I look but it doesn’t bother him because he is the one I slep with at night, relationships should be equal you should both be making sacrifices if you have to and supporting each other when you have too, you need to have a serious talk and let him know he can’t change who your friends are and needs to support your work as you will his

It seems as if he’s a bi controlling which is never a good attribute to have in a patrner. It’s always best to tell them how you feel and get everything out in the open therefore you can start to sort things out. Regardless of if you want to be an artist you should both respect your dreams and both are as important as the other if you both deeply care about them.

I really love him though… and I know he really loves me. It seems like we could have far worse problems. I do mention these things to him though but he talks his way out of them or gets upset… He’s very convincing… and I end up just accepting he’s probably right because I can’t seem to think of a decent arguement against him. But it worries me again every so often because it doesnt seem fair. But then again maybe I’m just not taking the whole situation into account I have a mild amount of brain damage, it doesnt effect me much but it makes it hard for me to ever know if I’ve a right to be angry or to be upset because there are alot of details to factor in. I could be being totally unreasonable

sorry it was me who wrote this by the way I didnt mean to be anonymous

You need to state what upsets you, give him examples and explain exactlty why it upset you, you need to go out with whatever friends you want and not let him decide who your friends are that is not on, most likely your friends have been around longer than him? That is not fair on you or him. Lay some ground rules and don’t give in when he gets upset instead remind him you are upset too and that you need to work together so that neither of you are upset

thanks I’ll try that. :) I just need to really put alot of thought into what i want to say..

coffee.obses wrote:
thanks I’ll try that. :) I just need to really put alot of thought into what i want to say..

Yep and stay strong, rememeber so what if he is upset so are you, whats the point in him being happy if you are unhappy, also listen to each other and make sure you have it all completly clear in your head before you talk to him

coffee.obses wrote:
I do mention these things to him though but he talks his way out of them or gets upset… He’s very convincing… and I end up just accepting he’s probably right

Doesn’t mean he is right, just means he is good at manipulating the situation.

Here is some hard learned advice, take it or leave it.
In ten years time say nothing has changed for better or worse, will you feel like the last ten years have been a waste? I myself face this very question everyday and I constantly think to my still if I could take the last ten year over, or even the last 1.5 years over, I would. But truth is I landed on hard times and feel trapped in my current situation, I wouldn’t wish this on anyone.

Are you happy? Does he make you happy? How much of the time do you feel happy? And how sad do you get when you are sad. Sadness can be like a virus that attacks and kills of happiness.

You are the only one who can decided the value of the relationship. But if you are questioning your relationship, then make sure you are honest with yourself when deciding the answers.