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I’ve discovered something about myself.

I hate being hugged for a long time. Like, if my friend hugs me, if they don’t release when I pull away or ask them to, I start having panic attacks. A tad strange, don’t yu think? But like, I have this panic attacks and I feel trapped and suddenly as if they are going to hurt me. It’s really bad because Jayface has a tenancy not to let go. She likes long hugs but if I pull away, she’ll tighten her grip and I suddenly feel ill…

I don’t know why… Just this sudden fear, it’s creepy. And puts me in really bad moods - as does fatty food…

>___<

any ideas??

xx

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¿ThatKid? offline Verified User (1 year, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months, 3 weeks ago (8 minutes after post)

It could be kinda like you’re afraid in small spaces or when people don’t give you enough space or you could have trust or intimacy issues.
I think all you can do is practice and tell people to let go when you ask them to.
i wouldn’t know what else to do:S

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Saffle offline Verified User (7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months, 3 weeks ago (10 minutes after post)

Yeah, but my friends will take it in a way that I’m saying that I don’t care for them and I don’t wanna be touched.

I like hugs, but not if I try pull away…

I’m not sure what caused it either…

xx

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¿ThatKid? offline Verified User (1 year, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months, 3 weeks ago (11 minutes after post)

Just tell your friends you get claustrofobic then:P

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Saffle offline Verified User (7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months, 3 weeks ago (16 minutes after post)

I *have* .
Jay thinks im over-reacting because she’ll glomp me and not let go until I start getting pissy… but then ile be fine huggling her brother [my ex] and she gets pissed…

xx

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¿ThatKid? offline Verified User (1 year, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months, 3 weeks ago (19 minutes after post)

Well… the only time you seem to have problems is being forced and I think there’s nothing else to do but talk about that. Real friends understand those kinda things I think.

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Saffle offline Verified User (7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months, 3 weeks ago (22 minutes after post)

Yeah.. I guess..

Argh there’s a lot I don’t explain to them … which is probably bad…

xx

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