Do you expect that the person who likes you will find you on facebook? - Help.com

This topic will get a lot of response, I just know it;-)
Mine hasn’t found me yet. He’s got too many pretty girlfriends anyway. So I am not expecting anything.

No. But mostly because I don’t have one

yes T.T but im not one for relationships, so i decline all of them, but i add them XD they r fun to talk to! Some people just see my pic and add me, evil men.. XD anywaiis yeah technology is a real life saver for the shy and unsure

lol nope I havent had that happen since i dont use my facebook.

But on the other hand I did accidently fall in love with a girl online but thats different.

Yeah… I don’t expect it. Especially since my crushes tend to be computer-illiterate. (Ironic because I’m a Computer Science Major)

However, I usually find myself friends with them anyways- because I usually am friends with them. (at least enough to become “friends” on facebook).

Yes, my current crush is a friend on facebook. I think he added me.

usurper wrote:
No. But mostly because I don’t have one

Well maybe you have a secret crush you don’t know about, how about that? :-)

I Found her on facebook but she has a BF. she did a great job leading me on and still i’m trying to find hope that she might like me but im kidding myself.

Is it a life saver or does it just feed their insecurity - encouraging them to not even try?

What ever did the shy and unsure do before the internet, I wonder?

Anonymous wrote:

usurper wrote:
No. But mostly because I don’t have one

Well maybe you have a secret crush you don’t know about, how about that? :-)

It’s possible that I have several. Or none. Either way - the only way your asking this girl is in person. Or perhaps a friendly email. Or a text message. I think thats enough options.

Dont want to make it too easy ;)

Okay, so say you found your crush. And you send them a message. They reply, but don’t send a question mark back if you know what I mean. Would that mean they don’t like you?

Well, not really an answer to your question, but i think technology is a bit of a blessing as well as an unnatural hinderence that is consuming and corrupting our planet :)
I met my boyfriend in a public garden with a group of friends. It was an amazing day and we were taken with each other but barely talked. I had to leave, now if technology wasnt what it was then i would never have seen him again. But he asked a friend for my number, we texted, then talked on myspace. We fell in love and now live together, we have been together for years now and he is the love of my life 3
Never would have happened with out modern day luxuries such as facebook

(jeeeesus i sound like an old lady :P )

Anonymous wrote:
Okay, so say you found your crush. And you send them a message. They reply, but don’t send a question mark back if you know what I mean. Would that mean they don’t like you?

I’m confused. Question mark?

Anonymous wrote:
Okay, so say you found your crush. And you send them a message. They reply, but don’t send a question mark back if you know what I mean. Would that mean they don’t like you?

not necisarily. Could just mean they are self centered or just arent good t carrying on conversations.

darknessandstar wrote:
Never would have happened with out modern day luxuries such as facebook

I don’t know if you can claim that. If it wasnt myspace, facebook or cell phones - it would be something else.

No, it may mean that they don’t know the rules.

It takes many people a long time to learn (and many people, especially guys- never learn) that questions are required to start a conversation.

usurper wrote:

darknessandstar wrote:
Never would have happened with out modern day luxuries such as facebook

I don’t know if you can claim that. If it wasnt myspace, facebook or cell phones - it would be something else.

carrier pidgins?

usurper wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Okay, so say you found your crush. And you send them a message. They reply, but don’t send a question mark back if you know what I mean. Would that mean they don’t like you?

I’m confused. Question mark?

Yeah. I mean he didn’t send a question back. And I would have thought that if he would have asked something we could have keept on mailing if you know what I mean. But he didn’t ask me anything, so I took it as a sign of uninterest.

C. S. wrote:
No, it may mean that they don’t know the rules.

It takes many people a long time to learn (and many people, especially guys- never learn) that questions are required to start a conversation.

i always carry a conversation single handed but it annoys some people to keep asking questions when they dont realize they can answer back so i answer anyways to my own questions lol

usurper wrote:

darknessandstar wrote:
Never would have happened with out modern day luxuries such as facebook

I don’t know if you can claim that. If it wasnt myspace, facebook or cell phones - it would be something else.

Well, obviously there was a possibility of us meeting again, hypothetically.

But he is very shy, as am i, it took us 9 hours of being together and we didnt manage to talk to each other until he texted.
We didnt go to the same school
or college,
or live near each other
or go anywhere we would has met, except in the street and its unlikely either of us would have had the confidence

But i do understand what you’re saying

Lets say technology carried us in our early stages and made it a lot easier

Already happened :)

Although at the time, I had no particular feelings for her but she sort of…. grew on me.

sum wrote:

usurper wrote:

darknessandstar wrote:
Never would have happened with out modern day luxuries such as facebook

I don’t know if you can claim that. If it wasnt myspace, facebook or cell phones - it would be something else.

carrier pidgins?

Lol, sum i dont even know you but you’re so funny :P
x

I think from what I am reading here so far, most people don’t expect being “found” by their crush on facebook. That I was not expecting. I would have thought everyone would go search for their crush’s name,lol! ;-)

Pongo wrote:
Already happened :)

Although at the time, I had no particular feelings for her but she sort of…. grew on me.

Oh you charmer you ;)

Anonymous wrote:
Okay, so say you found your crush. And you send them a message. They reply, but don’t send a question mark back if you know what I mean. Would that mean they don’t like you?

They might not know what to say or they might think you don’t like them.

Its hard to tell so i take the chance to make a convo and if they don’t reply
or add me as a friend i would take it as they dont even want to know me.

Its what i’m going through right now but even though she led me on i’m still trying to be her friend and find out why she did what she did without even giving a care in the world how i felt and she might never know how much it hurt me but in the end its her lose my gain.

Anonymous wrote:
I think from what I am reading here so far, most people don’t expect being “found” by their crush on facebook. That I was not expecting. I would have thought everyone would go search for their crush’s name,lol! ;-)

mine would accuse me of stalking if I did that to her. =( I havent talked in months =/ and dont know her last name so obviously i wouldnt be able to find her there even if i wanted to.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Okay, so say you found your crush. And you send them a message. They reply, but don’t send a question mark back if you know what I mean. Would that mean they don’t like you?

They might not know what to say or they might think you don’t like them.

Its hard to tell so i take the chance to make a convo and if they don’t reply
or add me as a friend i would take it as they dont even want to know me.

Its what i’m going through right now but even though she led me on i’m still trying to be her friend and find out why she did what she did without even giving a care in the world how i felt and she might never know how much it hurt me but in the end its her lose my gain.

Yeah…This person knew I liked him though…but I thought I wasn’t gonna add him as a friend just to see how interested he was. But he didn’t add me so I guess I was wrong:-)

sum wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
I think from what I am reading here so far, most people don’t expect being “found” by their crush on facebook. That I was not expecting. I would have thought everyone would go search for their crush’s name,lol! ;-)

mine would accuse me of stalking if I did that to her. =( I havent talked in months =/ and dont know her last name so obviously i wouldnt be able to find her there even if i wanted to.

I didn’t know my crushes last name i went through people i’ve seen her around and searched on their FB and i found her .
Don’t think she feels i’m stalking her but she might could explain why she said what she did.

sum wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
I think from what I am reading here so far, most people don’t expect being “found” by their crush on facebook. That I was not expecting. I would have thought everyone would go search for their crush’s name,lol! ;-)

mine would accuse me of stalking if I did that to her. =( I havent talked in months =/ and dont know her last name so obviously i wouldnt be able to find her there even if i wanted to.

Oh man, one of those girls :-(
Yeah, probably not worth it even if you did find her last name.

Anonymous wrote:

sum wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
I think from what I am reading here so far, most people don’t expect being “found” by their crush on facebook. That I was not expecting. I would have thought everyone would go search for their crush’s name,lol! ;-)

mine would accuse me of stalking if I did that to her. =( I havent talked in months =/ and dont know her last name so obviously i wouldnt be able to find her there even if i wanted to.

I didn’t know my crushes last name i went through people i’ve seen her around and searched on their FB and i found her .
Don’t think she feels i’m stalking her but she might could explain why she said what she did.

What did she say?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

sum wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
I think from what I am reading here so far, most people don’t expect being “found” by their crush on facebook. That I was not expecting. I would have thought everyone would go search for their crush’s name,lol! ;-)

mine would accuse me of stalking if I did that to her. =( I havent talked in months =/ and dont know her last name so obviously i wouldnt be able to find her there even if i wanted to.

I didn’t know my crushes last name i went through people i’ve seen her around and searched on their FB and i found her .
Don’t think she feels i’m stalking her but she might could explain why she said what she did.

What did she say?

She said “se you around soon”. which made me think crap she’s coming over or something but now i think she was joking around
coz i havn’t seen her yet.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

sum wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
I think from what I am reading here so far, most people don’t expect being “found” by their crush on facebook. That I was not expecting. I would have thought everyone would go search for their crush’s name,lol! ;-)

mine would accuse me of stalking if I did that to her. =( I havent talked in months =/ and dont know her last name so obviously i wouldnt be able to find her there even if i wanted to.

I didn’t know my crushes last name i went through people i’ve seen her around and searched on their FB and i found her .
Don’t think she feels i’m stalking her but she might could explain why she said what she did.

What did she say?

She said “se you around soon”. which made me think crap she’s coming over or something but now i think she was joking around
coz i havn’t seen her yet.

Yeah like seriously, he said See ya_______________ (my name) . What in the world does that mean?? He put that in the facebook msg, last sentence. Kinda weird. I don’t know how to interpret that?

why don’t u just add ur crush and not wait for them to catch a clue?

Anonymous wrote:

sum wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
I think from what I am reading here so far, most people don’t expect being “found” by their crush on facebook. That I was not expecting. I would have thought everyone would go search for their crush’s name,lol! ;-)

mine would accuse me of stalking if I did that to her. =( I havent talked in months =/ and dont know her last name so obviously i wouldnt be able to find her there even if i wanted to.

Oh man, one of those girls :-(
Yeah, probably not worth it even if you did find her last name.

well it has a story behind it >> http://help.com/post/262291-okay-so-t…

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

sum wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
I think from what I am reading here so far, most people don’t expect being “found” by their crush on facebook. That I was not expecting. I would have thought everyone would go search for their crush’s name,lol! ;-)

mine would accuse me of stalking if I did that to her. =( I havent talked in months =/ and dont know her last name so obviously i wouldnt be able to find her there even if i wanted to.

I didn’t know my crushes last name i went through people i’ve seen her around and searched on their FB and i found her .
Don’t think she feels i’m stalking her but she might could explain why she said what she did.

What did she say?

She said “se you around soon”. which made me think crap she’s coming over or something but now i think she was joking around
coz i havn’t seen her yet.

Yeah like seriously, he said See ya_______________ (my name) . What in the world does that mean?? He put that in the facebook msg, last sentence. Kinda weird. I don’t know how to interpret that?

I don’t know myself. It like a double meaning thing. I would think they are waiting for something more ( another msg) but i have no idea.

Btw i was saying goodbye to her coz i thought she didn’t like me

SayItsSo wrote:
why don’t u just add ur crush and not wait for them to catch a clue?

Well in my case I’ve had the worst with mine she led me on for months never even mentioned a BF i really thought we had something and i blamed myself when i saw her angry/upset.

So her being moody and leading me on is to much rejection atm so to added her as a friend and she ignores it would be very painful.

sum wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

sum wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
I think from what I am reading here so far, most people don’t expect being “found” by their crush on facebook. That I was not expecting. I would have thought everyone would go search for their crush’s name,lol! ;-)

mine would accuse me of stalking if I did that to her. =( I havent talked in months =/ and dont know her last name so obviously i wouldnt be able to find her there even if i wanted to.

Oh man, one of those girls :-(
Yeah, probably not worth it even if you did find her last name.

well it has a story behind it >> http://help.com/post/262291-okay-so-t…

I read your story, it’s so sad. It have been in that situation with someone before. And I can tell you that probably for you, the only way to really get over her is to fall in love with another girl. I know you don’t think its possible- cuz I was like you. But I decided that this has to stop. So I went out there looking, and I found the man of my dreams. (We’re not together anymore cuz I had to mess it up off course…) But yeah…now I look back and can only think, hey, he couldn’t have liked me if he doesn’t even contact me back! I want you to know, there is a girl out there for you too.

Anonymous wrote:

sum wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

sum wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
I think from what I am reading here so far, most people don’t expect being “found” by their crush on facebook. That I was not expecting. I would have thought everyone would go search for their crush’s name,lol! ;-)

mine would accuse me of stalking if I did that to her. =( I havent talked in months =/ and dont know her last name so obviously i wouldnt be able to find her there even if i wanted to.

Oh man, one of those girls :-(
Yeah, probably not worth it even if you did find her last name.

well it has a story behind it >> http://help.com/post/262291-okay-so-t…

I read your story, it’s so sad. It have been in that situation with someone before. And I can tell you that probably for you, the only way to really get over her is to fall in love with another girl. I know you don’t think its possible- cuz I was like you. But I decided that this has to stop. So I went out there looking, and I found the man of my dreams. (We’re not together anymore cuz I had to mess it up off course…) But yeah…now I look back and can only think, hey, he couldn’t have liked me if he doesn’t even contact me back! I want you to know, there is a girl out there for you too.

When I said ” he doesn’t even contact me back” I was referring to the guy I had this online realtionship with.

Anonymous wrote:
I read your story, it’s so sad. It have been in that situation with someone before. And I can tell you that probably for you, the only way to really get over her is to fall in love with another girl. I know you don’t think its possible- cuz I was like you. But I decided that this has to stop. So I went out there looking, and I found the man of my dreams. (We’re not together anymore cuz I had to mess it up off course…) But yeah…now I look back and can only think, hey, he couldn’t have liked me if he doesn’t even contact me back! I want you to know, there is a girl out there for you too.

thanks….. but i for some reson feel like im supposed to be with her. Its not about me being alone its also about me not wanting her alone or used or abused =/ im not giving up yet because im moving so i might have a good chance to change things and both me and her have very change adaptive personalities i think.

no i sent mine a friend request and he excepted it, but that was the end

Sorry guys, for everyone out there you can still reply about what you think about whether or not you expect your crush to find you on facebook? Got a little carried away;-)

Anonymous wrote:
Sorry guys, for everyone out there you can still reply about what you think about whether or not you expect your crush to find you on facebook? Got a little carried away;-)

topics getting off topic isnt uncommon and its your post so you can do whatever :p

sum wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
I read your story, it’s so sad. It have been in that situation with someone before. And I can tell you that probably for you, the only way to really get over her is to fall in love with another girl. I know you don’t think its possible- cuz I was like you. But I decided that this has to stop. So I went out there looking, and I found the man of my dreams. (We’re not together anymore cuz I had to mess it up off course…) But yeah…now I look back and can only think, hey, he couldn’t have liked me if he doesn’t even contact me back! I want you to know, there is a girl out there for you too.

thanks….. but i for some reson feel like im supposed to be with her. Its not about me being alone its also about me not wanting her alone or used or abused =/ im not giving up yet because im moving so i might have a good chance to change things and both me and her have very change adaptive personalities i think.

Then I would encourage you to fight until you get the girl back! If you don’t get her back promise me you won’t kill yourself. Cuz I think another girl could deserve your love too, not just her! :-)
If you’re dead you will never know how it fealt like to be loved by this girl you haven’t even meet yet,ok? ;-)

My crush doesn’t really use the internet much, so I found her, but didn’t add her. I have other means of talking to her. Haha.
That happens a lot though. I find people, but don’t add them because I feel stupid about it… Or something. I dunno. I’m just dumb. Haha.

Rocco. wrote:
My crush doesn’t really use the internet much, so I found her, but didn’t add her. I have other means of talking to her. Haha.
That happens a lot though. I find people, but don’t add them because I feel stupid about it… Or something. I dunno. I’m just dumb. Haha.

If you have other means of talking to her, then it’s not neccessary. You can add her when you know her better :-)

Yeah…there’s this guy I see around at my University he always stares at me, and he’s soooo adorable! Anyway, I am so tempted to add him, but that would just be silly. We haven’t even spoken ever:-)

Anonymous wrote:
Then I would encourage you to fight until you get the girl back! If you don’t get her back promise me you won’t kill yourself. Cuz I think another girl could deserve your love too, not just her! :-)
If you’re dead you will never know how it fealt like to be loved by this girl you haven’t even meet yet,ok? ;-)

I honestly dont know how I would react to a failure again. I dont want to expect things to go back, i prefer good. Thanks though

Anonymous wrote:

Rocco. wrote:
My crush doesn’t really use the internet much, so I found her, but didn’t add her. I have other means of talking to her. Haha.
That happens a lot though. I find people, but don’t add them because I feel stupid about it… Or something. I dunno. I’m just dumb. Haha.

If you have other means of talking to her, then it’s not neccessary. You can add her when you know her better :-)

Yeah…there’s this guy I see around at my University he always stares at me, and he’s soooo adorable! Anyway, I am so tempted to add him, but that would just be silly. We haven’t even spoken ever:-)

I know her very well actually. I just don’t think she uses Facebook, (if she does, it’s not very often) and don’t feel like going through the stress of adding her, then worrying why she didn’t accept, then wondering if I should ask her about it and yada yada yada. I just don’t see the point. :P

Engage in conversation first, then add him on FB. Simple!

Hah, I wish. What crusher? I’ve got none….sucks. But i have to admit that would be pretty cool. Frankly, I’d try to give any who likes me one heck of a day to remember. Let’s go have some fun ;P

Yes because they will hunt you down on facebook like a little bug.

muhahahahah

ohh yeah here is the part of my life story
i hate facebook cuz i met her from there i loved her and i will allways but she just play with my im crying no one cant hear me im dying no one is there to save me
my heart is painnig that i cant explain how but why still i love her like this why?
yes i do beleive you can meet your crush on technology but please be carefull all of them there are lot of cheaters out there dont get gought to them.
i love you NNNN

well it was the other way around for me and i still havent talked to her, i dunno

oh my crush is there on facebook, he is even there in my friend list, but i dont expect him to recognise me as his “the one” now, coz i know that he isnt going to notice me…but the idea of sum1 actually meeting me on facebook or twitter or even orkut is quite romantic n nice..and also helpful as in facebook he wont see me so whatever he falls in love with is how i am, irrespective of my phyisical appearance!

i once meet someone online not on facebook on a web site ended up speaking on facebook myspace msn over the phone for month and months i thought he was the greatest man alive but about 10 months after speaking everynight we meet turned out he wasn’t 2 months into dating him out of the blue he dumped me by text a week before my birthday yep i wont be doing that again!!

stuck wrote:
i once meet someone online not on facebook on a web site ended up speaking on facebook myspace msn over the phone for month and months i thought he was the greatest man alive but about 10 months after speaking everynight we meet turned out he wasn’t 2 months into dating him out of the blue he dumped me by text a week before my birthday yep i wont be doing that again!!

well same thing here

hrtpain wrote:

stuck wrote:
i once meet someone online not on facebook on a web site ended up speaking on facebook myspace msn over the phone for month and months i thought he was the greatest man alive but about 10 months after speaking everynight we meet turned out he wasn’t 2 months into dating him out of the blue he dumped me by text a week before my birthday yep i wont be doing that again!!

well same thing here

how long ago was it when u split?

stuck wrote:

hrtpain wrote:

stuck wrote:
i once meet someone online not on facebook on a web site ended up speaking on facebook myspace msn over the phone for month and months i thought he was the greatest man alive but about 10 months after speaking everynight we meet turned out he wasn’t 2 months into dating him out of the blue he dumped me by text a week before my birthday yep i wont be doing that again!!

well same thing here

how long ago was it when u split?

its now 9 months but still im on it i don no why she havent speak to me last 8 moths