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what do you mean by real boyfriend?

and what help you need?

I was 29 when I met my husband, but was not in a rush to meet anyone. Take your time, someone will come along.

i know what you mean and by telling someone take your time some one will come along is extremely annoying and frustrating cause people tell me all the time(no offense). I am in the same boat. I am 20 and i have never had a good relationship either and its hard and annoying. I think the real key is to find out whats holding you back. I know with me its that i am really timid and think old fashioned and i don’t drink or like bars or parties which is the big thing of this generation. so yea just try and see if you can figure out what the barrier is for you and work on it.

Excuse me for trying to be helpful.

kyle-sylvester wrote:
i know what you mean and by telling someone take your time some one will come along is extremely annoying and frustrating cause people tell me all the time(no offense). I am in the same boat. I am 20 and i have never had a good relationship either and its hard and annoying. I think the real key is to find out whats holding you back. I know with me its that i am really timid and think old fashioned and i don’t drink or like bars or parties which is the big thing of this generation. so yea just try and see if you can figure out what the barrier is for you and work on it.

ohh yeah i extreemly agree with your word most of the girls in this generation they are looking fun guy, drinking smoking clubbing and most im portant thing is money they are thinking but they are not looking for the love that person has.
they are really week in relationship i don blame all the girls but 99% like dat thats true and that 1% also have the same feelings sometimes

kyle-sylvester wrote:
i know what you mean and by telling someone take your time some one will come along is extremely annoying and frustrating cause people tell me all the time(no offense). I am in the same boat. I am 20 and i have never had a good relationship either and its hard and annoying. I think the real key is to find out whats holding you back. I know with me its that i am really timid and think old fashioned and i don’t drink or like bars or parties which is the big thing of this generation. so yea just try and see if you can figure out what the barrier is for you and work on it.

i look at it quite the opposite,
you need to go to places that interest you, to meet people that share the same interests, if you don’t like going to clubs, don’t do it just to get a date because you’ll end up with a kind of person that likes to go to clubs, and if your not, theres no match.

join more social circles (non virtual), being friendly can help too…

Well, if you need help, so do I and about 50 of my friends….ok, I don’t have 50 friends, but a lot of my friends would need help.
What you just said is NORMAL. Sadly. You say you’ve never had a real boyfriend. Well, I’ve never had a boyfriend non stop. Unless you count me telling a guy I would go out with him and then only seeing him twice in the entire year we supposedly went out due to it being a long distance relationship.

I believe that if we stop worrying and looking for love, it will just come upon us. At least I hope so. I have never really even kissed a guy (excluding a few random drunken moments). I used to think that I was SUCH a loser and such a horrible person because of that, but I just have to have confidence in myself and realise I am a nice person, and though I may not be a model, I am quite nice looking and I will find a similiar guy some day who likes me for me.

And you just need to believe that yourself. And you may read this and think ‘oh my god, there is no way I am as bad as her. God, she is a loser.’ Heh heh. But either way, just have faith.

i think you should read my last post that i’ve send, to do with the whole relationship thing an not being able to keep and get one you want. confidance and self esteem

Anonymous wrote:
Well, if you need help, so do I and about 50 of my friends….ok, I don’t have 50 friends, but a lot of my friends would need help.
What you just said is NORMAL. Sadly. You say you’ve never had a real boyfriend. Well, I’ve never had a boyfriend non stop. Unless you count me telling a guy I would go out with him and then only seeing him twice in the entire year we supposedly went out due to it being a long distance relationship.

I believe that if we stop worrying and looking for love, it will just come upon us. At least I hope so. I have never really even kissed a guy (excluding a few random drunken moments). I used to think that I was SUCH a loser and such a horrible person because of that, but I just have to have confidence in myself and realise I am a nice person, and though I may not be a model, I am quite nice looking and I will find a similiar guy some day who likes me for me.

And you just need to believe that yourself. And you may read this and think ‘oh my god, there is no way I am as bad as her. God, she is a loser.’ Heh heh. But either way, just have faith.

no its wrong we will never get the true love from girls i mean boys will never get the true love

hrtpain wrote:
no its wrong we will never get the true love from girls i mean boys will never get the true love

what do you mean by that??

in a relationship girls are always expecting something like good looking guy welth ect.. things and always they try to find that guy but they never look the love the guys they have got for them

Em….not true hrtpain. Not true at all. I hate good looking guys with a passion. No offense, but they are usually jerks. I am only stereotyping there though. I am sure there are some nice good looking guys, but the ones I know are jerks. I go entirely based on personality. And people NEVER believe that and they tell me that I am just trying to sound more ideal or something. But I mean it. Looks mean absolutely NOTHING in a real relationship. It is all based on how another person makes you feel, do you feel loved, what they do for you, how they talk to you, how they talk about you, the way they look at you, they way they hold you and touch you, all the minute details of a relationship that have nothing to do with looks. And if they don’t look for the love that guys have for them, they are not worth knowing as they are superficial, so forget about those types of girls.

All I want from a guy is to feel loved, and to feel secure and safe, and to feel that I mean something to them. Two of my friends are in a relationship, and in my own view I have never seen such a perfect relationship. It is obvious 100% of the time that they madly love each other, and every single thing they do is evidence of this. But it is such a natural thing and it never makes any one else feel uncomfortable. Me and my friends always go out with them, even go on holiday with them, and we never feel like third wheels or uncomfortable. Equally, they never feel like they have to worry about looks infront of each other, and I think that makes it a perfect relationship.

So hrtpain, I know you are wrong. You are merely basing what you said on the unlucky experiences you have had of getting t know superficial girls who just worry about looks

Anonymous wrote:
Em….not true hrtpain. Not true at all. I hate good looking guys with a passion. No offense, but they are usually jerks. I am only stereotyping there though. I am sure there are some nice good looking guys, but the ones I know are jerks. I go entirely based on personality. And people NEVER believe that and they tell me that I am just trying to sound more ideal or something. But I mean it. Looks mean absolutely NOTHING in a real relationship. It is all based on how another person makes you feel, do you feel loved, what they do for you, how they talk to you, how they talk about you, the way they look at you, they way they hold you and touch you, all the minute details of a relationship that have nothing to do with looks. And if they don’t look for the love that guys have for them, they are not worth knowing as they are superficial, so forget about those types of girls.

All I want from a guy is to feel loved, and to feel secure and safe, and to feel that I mean something to them. Two of my friends are in a relationship, and in my own view I have never seen such a perfect relationship. It is obvious 100% of the time that they madly love each other, and every single thing they do is evidence of this. But it is such a natural thing and it never makes any one else feel uncomfortable. Me and my friends always go out with them, even go on holiday with them, and we never feel like third wheels or uncomfortable. Equally, they never feel like they have to worry about looks infront of each other, and I think that makes it a perfect relationship.

So hrtpain, I know you are wrong. You are merely basing what you said on the unlucky experiences you have had of getting t know superficial girls who just worry about looks

no its true ther are people like dat for me it happen i know but its not for my good look or any other things its just i have hunted from one of the hunting people
once she came to know hunting me is no use i mean im not fool then she left me i have done only one mistake loved her more than anything in the world so i still love heri cant stop it cuz i truely loved her and i will untill i can

But you said ‘in a relationship girls are ALWAYS’…..that is wrong. You had the unfortunate experience of finding a superficial girl who isn’t worth knowing (considering she treated you the way she did). That is very upsetting and I do feel for you, but don’t spread your negative feelings to the poster, and convince her that that is the way it always is. If you are really upset about what that girl did, and I would be if I was you, write a post and complain about it and we’ll all come help! :o)

But as for the poster, that isn’t always the case, it hardly is, so don’t worry.

Cecilia wrote:
But you said ‘in a relationship girls are ALWAYS’…..that is wrong. You had the unfortunate experience of finding a superficial girl who isn’t worth knowing (considering she treated you the way she did). That is very upsetting and I do feel for you, but don’t spread your negative feelings to the poster, and convince her that that is the way it always is. If you are really upset about what that girl did, and I would be if I was you, write a post and complain about it and we’ll all come help! :o)

But as for the poster, that isn’t always the case, it hardly is, so don’t worry.

no its true thats human beens one habit they wont satisfying with one thing and generaly its bit difficult to make satisfy girls

im almost ure age. planned to conquer the univers but never did. the small things in life that make u happy make all the difference. a “real boyfriend, and one that ure happy with , doesnt show up on every corner.u eventually will fall in love if you want to so no need to worry abt thar. the main person u should worry abt is u ,and making u happy. theres plenty of people here that can relate to your feelings. for a start, talk. you might make good friends.as for everything else it just comes in when u learn to like you. im here if u need to talk and apparently im not the only one:)