relationship help: First girlfriend suddenly had a change of face/character, what should I do?

withthefire

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First girlfriend suddenly had a change of face/character, what should I do?

I don’t think I did her wrong at all but she’s convinced otherwise.

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Anonymous #
6 months ago (1 minute after post)

Tell her to put her old mask on.

Hello users,Im Sandy 8 #
CA | 6 months ago (1 minute after post)

how is she changing in character?

Help me with: Some advice please (:

sickcharmande 0 #
An Unknown Location | 6 months ago (4 minutes after post)

Anonymous wrote:
Tell her to put her old mask on.

Hahaha :D

Help me with: I’ve become numb enough that I’ve bored myself into self harm.

withthefire 0 #
An Unknown Location | 6 months ago (5 minutes after post)

Hello users,Im Sandy wrote:
how is she changing in character?

Well things were going fine then she got really suspicious and upset with someone I was hanging around with and she felt like I wasn’t paying her any attention when I clearly was spending almost every day with her, her attitude became bitter and mean, and we had it out with each other.

Hello users,Im Sandy 8 #
CA | 6 months ago (11 minutes after post)

maybe it isn’t clear enough. honostly i think your girlfriend needs to work on her trust issues. but you should explain to her that you’re not into this other person. tell her she has your full attention when she needs it, but you have an individual life of your own. tell her you love her (if you do) and explain to her if you started annoying her about a friend she seemed to be spending too much time with, she probably wouldn’t like it either. again reasure her that you care about her and you wouldn’t do anything selfish to hurt her. if she keeps on going with this attitude, while you constantly reasure her, it may be her who needs to learn to trust and behave in a relationship. anyways best of luck. really all you can do is talk to her. you shouldn’t have to cut out parts of your life to make her feel like your number one priority. if you do it’ll only make you feel punished when with her and pull away.

Help me with: Some advice please (:

withthefire 0 #
An Unknown Location | 6 months ago (1 hour, 1 minute after post)

Thank you so much. What you have suggested I have done which is reassure her and all I can do is see where it goes from here. I shouldn’t have to beat her over the head telling her I care constantly, she should be able to take my word and hold it with face value. If things keep going the way they are and I just feel trapped, then it’s going to be over.

Hello users,Im Sandy 8 #
CA | 6 months ago (1 hour, 6 minutes after post)

sometimes, its the girls fault in a relationship. all you can do is reasure her (but say what you mean) and if she can not accept it, reasuring her wont help her figure out her own problems. like any man, you will feel punished when being with her if you have to do things (that dont need to be done) such as reasure her constantly and tear away parts of your life. i’m sure she is an amazing girl, but no man, or women for that matter, wants to do rediculous tasks to make their partner feel cared for.

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aznpunkgrrl #
An Unknown Location | 5 months, 3 weeks ago (6 days, 3 hours after post)

ah man, sounds like me and my girl relationship. WE ARE ALWAYS like “im right. your wrong!” lol and dude, your girlfriend is just possessive with you and she gets jealous easily. :\ my current girl (kinda complicated at the moment) is like that..for 2 years. always always…no matter who im hanging out with..or whatever im doing..she questions and ask..and attacks me with everything. =| and i just go “ehhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh” =_= i feel ya!

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