life help: Starting Over - Help.com

That’s completely normal. Recognizing it is an advantage and good quality. If I could ask, are you moving i the direction of a long term goal successfully?

everyday you weake up in the morning you could start over… its never really too late, unless your dying… Go ahead sodapop, start over, even if only in your mind at first…. I know its easier said then done but you inspired me to try…

I realize that this is going to be extremely lengthy, I will try to trim where I can, but Soren Kierkegaard’s “Either/Or” has a passage that is very relevant to this subject. I hope that this may help you in one way or another.

“Either-Or! On me these words have always made a strong impression. - I think of an early youth,where, without really understanding what it is to choose in life, with childish confidence listened to the speech of my seniors, and the moment of choice became to me solemn and revered, even though in choosing I only followed somebody else’s directions. I think of the moments in later life, where I was in the dividing path, where my soul was matured in the hour of decision. I think of the many, less important, but to me not uninteresting cases in life, where choosing was the issue; for even if there is only one context where this word has its absolute meaning, namely every time on one hand Truth, Justice and Holiness, on the other hand Lust and Inclinations, obscure Passions and Perdition,show up, then it is always important also in things, where it is in itself innocent, which one chooses, to choose right, to test oneself, so that one shall not painfully retreat to the point of departure, and thank God if one has not more to reproach oneself than having wasted one’s time.

The choice itself is decisive for the contents of the personality. - If you imagine a helmsman of a ship at the moment when it has to cross over, then he may say, I can do either this or that; but if he is not a mediocre helmsman, then he will also be aware that, during all this, the ship is going at its usual speed , and that thus there is only a moment where it does not count whether he does this or that. So it is with Man, if he forgets to take this speed into account, then at last a moment comes, where there is no more talk of an Either-Or, not because he has chosen, but because he has left it out, which can also be expressed in this way, because others have chosen for him, because he has lost himself. Now if you will the understand me right, then I can willingly say that in choosing it is not so much the matter of choosing the right thing, as of the energy, the seriousness and the pathos, by which one chooses. In this the personality proclaims itself in its inner infinity, and thereby again the personality is consolidated. So even if a person chose the wrong thing, then he will still, even because of the energy by which he chose, find that he chose the wrong thing. Since indeed the choice is undertaken with the whole intensity of the personality, his being is purified, and he himself brought into an immediate relation to the eternal power that ever present pervades the whole existence. So for freedom I fight, for the future time, for Either-Or.”

lol…that’s part of the learning curve:) What you call a waste of time or moving away may be a gathering of experience:) It’s a challenge to discipline ourselves with so many distractions today. Everyday is different and you really won’t miss the things that are important to you unless you are being artificially simulated. An example would be like one of my friends drinking to forget their problems, that won’t work. I start over every morning, not because off an substance abuse problem, but an environmental issue. I’m addicted to enjoying life and being happy:) The rest of the world isn’t like that, so we clash…lol. I use tools. These tools can be software or people. The help site is a tool to vent without someone judging me:) My lawyer is a tool to protect me. My neighbor is a tool for a mini vacation. My home is my sanctuary:) I try not to let the outside noise in there:)My career feeds me or supply’s me with the cash I need to maintain…most times…lol.

If I made a mistake; is was being in a very productive and successful at to young an age. I didn’t have the experience or the knowledge for the longevity of the race:) When the music stops, it’s great to be happy:)

The longest journey is started with the first step. I like baby steps:)

A diamond in the rough.

To extract that diamond from the rough; one must chip away at the rock, then you must grind away at the edges of the beautiful stone, and finally, one must cleave the stone to show its radiating brilliance.

Like a diamond, your inner character must go through much of the same process in order to show yourself the true brilliance and illuminating characteristics of your soul.

“Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death,
I will fear no evil: For thou art with me;
Thy rod and thy staff, they comfort me.
Thou preparest a table before me in the presence of mine enemies;
Thou annointest my head with oil; My cup runneth over.
Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life,
and I will dwell in the House of the Lord forever.” -Psalm 23

It is necessary to go through suffering, and when you can sustain the suffering, you become better because of it.

Buddha also talks about this concept.

Max wrote:
The longest journey is started with the first step. I like baby steps:)

Do one thing right, even if it’s as simple as saving $100. Then you have a starting point. It could be anything, as long as it’s easy and measureable. From there continue to plan measureable steps.
You also need to celebrate your achievements. This will give you a feeling of completion and success.

You can have both my prayers and support:) All the giving and helping is something worth while. You’ll get your grove back:)
lol..asking what you are going to do is like asking where you lost your keys.

Here’s a little tip you could exercise. When asked, suggest they give you something. That’ll change the tone.

It’s too early to worry, plus it’s vacation time. Traveling would be cool if possible. Call it research. a personality test is a great tool as while.

http://www.humanmetrics.com/cgi-win/J…

Hi.. look I no exactly how do you feel. I feel the same.
I made so must mistakes in my life…
But every time I look back I can’t understand why. I just want run away off everyone and everything. Look life is a cheat but you need to leave it. You don’t have choise. So if you need to live live it well. Believe I know what you feel. Just trie to live it well. And take it easy..