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Ive been on and off with my girlfriend for about a

year and 3 months, we broke up 4 times, for different reasons and then we got back because we still loved each other and missed each other, weve been through alot and weve done alot for each other, i even stayed this summer close to her so i can be with her / instead of going home, i havent gone home in 7 months. Her parents suddenly get fed up with it and they tell her to break up with me and shes devastated because we both love each other and she cant do it.. Her parents think im a bad guy just because i grew up somewhere else and im from a different culture. They think she deserves more, while she just wants me and loves me, but she cant choose between me and her family , so she had no choice but to break up with me. im lonely,ive been in my room for the past couple of days, i havent eaten properly or anything.. i just cant seem to get out of bed..i have mood disorders, sometimes i laugh when watchin a movie, others i suddenly break down , blaming myself . I feel alone, and i cant go home for another 20 days.. i can’t take this ..she texts me everyday saying she misses me and wants to be with me…her parents are irrational, but they love her too, its just they dont know who i truly/really am..i just wish i could get her back…we’ve been through alot…and we deserve each other…and we love each other..i need her more than anything..shes the best friend i always had… I understand what her parents might be thinking, but they are just basing it on pure irrational thoughts.

- I was mulling talking to her parents but she said they would literally kill her if i do that because i wasnt supposed to ? ..i dont know im pretty depressed and i dont know what to do, i know she wants to be with me, but her parents dont want her to and she cant choose between me and her family. WE’ve been through alot together and i just dont want to throw things away. I cant..she’s worth it, i want to go the extra mile for her, but i dont know if there is hope..shes stubborn and her parents are stubborn too.

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An Unknown Location | 5 months, 2 weeks ago (25 minutes after post)

Parents…. I think everyones issues somehow trace back to their parents. I don’t know what it is, but a lot of parents somehow have the inherent psychosis that their child owes their life to them, but its not true. Yes they helped create us in this physical form, and had to change our diapers, but they don’t realize that they have created an individual human being who is entitled to make their own decisions. Almost everyone struggles with this, and I believe it causes the majority of mental problems. Follow your heart, and make sure every single action you make is fueled by positiveness and good. You can’t make anyone do anything, and your girlfriend will have to make her own decisions on facing her parents. Good luck, put good vibes into the universe and it will all work out the way it is supposed to…. I know it’s an overly optimisic way to go about it, but I think that’s the way it is…

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