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my 23 year old daughter was just arrested for drug use and having in with her.

I told her the last time I found out she was using that I would not bail her out. I offered to help her find help but she chose the drugs. Am I doing the right thing?

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Sodapop offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 5 months, 2 weeks ago (3 minutes after post)

Shes an adult. If she got arrested then she got arrested because she deserved it. She made the concious choices and has to pay for her consequences as an adult. I think you should definitely be there for her, but maybe she needs an alternative method of punishment for self help.

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☞T☜ offline Verified User (5 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 5 months, 2 weeks ago (6 minutes after post)

Yes, absolutely. If it continues to be a problem, you can go to NAR-ANON and hope that she joins NA. If it doesn’t become a problem for her, then she’s not going to quit. Until it does, don’t stress yourself out trying to save her. She’s a big girl and she’s got to make her own decisions.

http://nar-anon.org/

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An Unknown Location | 5 months, 2 weeks ago (10 minutes after post)

Prison/jail doesn’t help anybody. Try harder.

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mpnt offline Verified User (5 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months, 2 weeks ago (16 minutes after post)

you are right she is an adult, its just so hard to see her do this to herself.

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mpnt offline Verified User (5 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months, 2 weeks ago (18 minutes after post)

I know several people through AA and CR that all say they had to hit rock bottom before they could be helped. I am just feeling bad for myself, like I failed her in someway. The “mom” thing

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An Undisclosed Location | 5 months, 2 weeks ago (22 minutes after post)

ni wrote:
Prison/jail doesn’t help anybody. Try harder.

It’ll help her. Sadly, she might need two or three more visits before she figures that out. In the mean time, as they say, help yourself. I would strongly suggest going to your friends in AA for advice. If they’re still active, they can probably get you a schedule for NAR-ANON/ALANON meetings.

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