Why do people intentionally make situations worse than they are? - Help.com

Some people like drama.

I agree. But some people think they will be miserable no matter what, so they try to make others that way too. I usually just ignore those kinds of people because I like to be happy, but sometimes they pull me in for a bit.

You describe a reaction then you decide that reaction is wrong. You think people should simply accept the advice they are given.

Hello! The anger and hotheadedness is an alarm going off. It means you are not doing what is needed. Instead, you are doing just what you are complaining about: they don’t give you want you want (a calm, rational discussion or acceptance)and so you get upset and think they are stupid.

For instance, women do not want solutions thrown at them. They want to express themselves and they think by expressing themselves. If you interrupt or trivialize a problem or try to throw solutions, you’re going to make them angry.

To an extent, everyone is like this. Everyone wants their feelings validated. They may be taking a wrong approach, but until their feelings are validated, until they feel listened to, they will not be able to hear you. They will just feel like you are not accepting them.

Only when they feel validated will they be able to consider how to approach their problems.

Sometimes it’s just fun but often times people are idiots

Thats just the way society is today to be honest. People might be jealous of you. Everyone seems to take things for granted these days, so when their in an argument they really dont like it, especially if their not winning. Just try to be the bigger person.

I kind of went through something like this, my ex boyfriend would get upset over the silliest things. I would be the one who should be upset, I hated fighting and wanted to always “drop” the argument. But he wanted to continue you it. I realized that when people think that when you want to drop an argument, its because THEY think you realized you were wrong(although dropping it, does make you the bigger person in my eyes). If this is the kind of situation your talking about…you will never win, to them its “no ‘justice’ no ‘peace’” :p

sometimes, people just love to have a right good argument. if im feeling annoyed, ill go right on and have a big argument, usually with someone else who is annoyed or angry.
and, then again, some people are just never happy. this girl, i wont write her name, made the tiniest thing into a HUGE melodramatic drama. she wanted the attention.

Definately. in my crappy class today: “you’re out of hand sanitiser? what!?!?!? omg!!!!!!!! what am i going to dooo????? helllppp!!!!! i cant believe this!!!!” some girl in my class.

some people do it so they can feel sorry for themselfs. and some for others to feel sorry for them. and some just want attention of any kind.

They don’t tend to understand it from an opposing point of view. If you take the time to rationalize your point of view, then, hopefully, the gifted opposition will understand why you feel the way you do.
Getting them to understand is the difficult part.

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