pregnancy help: how do i tell my parents? - Help.com

how old are you?

depending on your age there are better approached then others

well do u really think that you have done mistake?

i am almost 17 years old.

it does depend on how old u r

My Friend My Trust wrote:
well do u really think that you have done mistake?

i know it was a mistake, but i am keeping the baby. i have decided that.

if your young, i’m expecting you are, wait until they are calm. Tell them that you know they’re not going to be proud of you but they have to know. Explain to them that you are pregnant and ask them to forgive you for being irresponsiable. if they begin to freak out on you do not yell back. just let them have a moment to be angry, if they keep at it i suggest you have a way to get away from home…but hopefully they’ll understand things happen and help you

just tell them straight out, no point in beating around the bush. just make sure only your mum and dad are in the room, if you have a little brother/sister or an older sister/brother it may make it harder than it will be.

Anonymous wrote:
i know it was a mistake, but i am keeping the baby. i have decided that.

If you think you are going to keep baby, do u know the consequences of that, are you ready to face the world. I know its good that you think about the baby and dont want to take wrong decision.

How do you think they’ll react? Badly? Or not?

Devil_on_Earth wrote:
Well, then your parents are just going to have to accept the fact that there will be a new baby. Is the dad in the picture?

yes, that dad is in the picture thank God.

It’s better to tell them asap, unlike my Older sister who was 17 when she was pregnant with my nephew who is now the cutest 7 yr old, but anyways, she waited til she was 3 months pregnant to tell my parents and also waited with her second child to tell them also even tho she was in her mid 20’s by than. It’s easier to talk to the parent whom you are the closest with ( more than likely your Mother ), just sit her down and be like Mom I need to tell you something and I don’t want you to freak out because I am already stressing about this enough ( or something like that ) and just be like Mom I am pregnant and add either you want to keep it or you want to get rid of it. Hope this helps, I am no good with this stuff.

Karenn wrote:
How do you think they’ll react? Badly? Or not?

very badly, mostly my mom. she will never have expected this out of me…

kathrynkurs wrote:
It’s better to tell them asap, unlike my Older sister who was 17 when she was pregnant with my nephew who is now the cutest 7 yr old, but anyways, she waited til she was 3 months pregnant to tell my parents and also waited with her second child to tell them also even tho she was in her mid 20’s by than. It’s easier to talk to the parent whom you are the closest with ( more than likely your Mother ), just sit her down and be like Mom I need to tell you something and I don’t want you to freak out because I am already stressing about this enough ( or something like that ) and just be like Mom I am pregnant and add either you want to keep it or you want to get rid of it. Hope this helps, I am no good with this stuff.

no no, you’re good thank you(: any advice is good right now!

Anonymous wrote:

Karenn wrote:
How do you think they’ll react? Badly? Or not?

very badly, mostly my mom. she will never have expected this out of me…

You might be surprised on how she will react, all of my best friends got pregnant around 17 and they took it surprisingly well after they got over it for a couple days, one of them her Mother freaked and cried but offered her support to get through this and just to learn her lesson her Mother wouldn’t let her get the shot when she was having the baby lol. If she does freak just give it some time for her to get over it, remind her that you are still her little girl and your going to need her support through this process.

well, for this problem, follow these steps.

first off ask them for a serious talk. make sure you tell them that it is importiant, so they do not brush it off and you do not catch them off guard.

you dont fart around with stupid things and dont waste their time, its only going to make it more awkward.

expect them to be a little shocked and possibly angry (depending on your parents)

maintain eye contact, and dont try to hide your emotions.

explain why this happened (but dont go into graphic details)

always have a back up plan! have somewhere to go in case *something* goes wrong. some parents get a little… “irritated” at news like this and the situation can get extremely uncomfortable.

tell the truth, if they ask you questions answer them. this way you show them your being more responsible then you have been.

after all this it WILL be awkward for a while, but if you follow these steps you will have a better chance at having a better outcome

but here’s the thing…i told my best friend a couple of hours ago and she called me a skank! i cannot believe it.

well (and dont take this the wrong way), i think you have more importiant issues to worry about.

dont worry about what those jerks think, worry about yourself for the time being.

thank you very much…i was just about to tell my parents i’m bi too…that would have been hard enough for them. i hope that doesn’t scare anyone off…

Anonymous wrote:
thank you very much…i was just about to tell my parents i’m bi too…that would have been hard enough for them. i hope that doesn’t scare anyone off…

no problem :)

and it wont scare me off lol. im bi, so thats no issue for me :)

in fact i did a study on “gay rights and marriage” in my school… got some pretty interesting results. its posted on my website, if you want to check it out and post your comments on my latest post i would appreciate it :)

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and if you need any more ideas or help, just let me know :)

canadian_chri wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
thank you very much…i was just about to tell my parents i’m bi too…that would have been hard enough for them. i hope that doesn’t scare anyone off…

no problem :)

and it wont scare me off lol. im bi, so thats no issue for me :)

in fact i did a study on “gay rights and marriage” in my school… got some pretty interesting results. its posted on my website, if you want to check it out and post your comments on my latest post i would appreciate it :)

a href=”http://cadys-story.webs.com/”>Visit My Website /a>

and if you need any more ideas or help, just let me know :)

okay i’m going to check it out right now, thank you a lot. weird question but do you prefer guys or girls more? i’m just getting used to the idea..hah.

kathrynkurs wrote:
It’s better to tell them asap, unlike my Older sister who was 17 when she was pregnant with my nephew who is now the cutest 7 yr old, but anyways, she waited til she was 3 months pregnant to tell my parents and also waited with her second child to tell them also even tho she was in her mid 20’s by than. It’s easier to talk to the parent whom you are the closest with ( more than likely your Mother ), just sit her down and be like Mom I need to tell you something and I don’t want you to freak out because I am already stressing about this enough ( or something like that ) and just be like Mom I am pregnant and add either you want to keep it or you want to get rid of it. Hope this helps, I am no good with this stuff.

Actually Kathryn’s very good with this stuff. She brought up some excellent points. As retarded as this sounds, maybe you should sit down with a close friend - not the one above, obviously - and watch the movie “Juno”. Now real life is nothing like the movies, of course, but it might help you to laugh a bit before you get on to the more serious stuff. Then, like Kathryn said, try confiding in the parent with whom you are closest or, more accuraly, whom ever you think may take it the best. I also really like canadian’s comments.

canadian_chri wrote:

…dont fart around with stupid things and dont waste their time, its only going to make it more awkward.

expect them to be a little shocked and possibly angry (depending on your parents)

maintain eye contact, and dont try to hide your emotions.

explain why this happened (but dont go into graphic details)

always have a back up plan!

These are some really good ideas. This is not the funnest thing, but it doesn’t have to be the end of the world either. Congratulations on being strong enough to accept what you need to do, though!

well i prefer personality more then gender lol.

its not really about who has what with me, i look for someone with a good personality.

canadian_chri wrote:
well i prefer personality more then gender lol.

its not really about who has what with me, i look for someone with a good personality.

hah, okay good. sorry that was a dumb question

Anonymous wrote:

canadian_chri wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
thank you very much…i was just about to tell my parents i’m bi too…that would have been hard enough for them. i hope that doesn’t scare anyone off…

no problem :)

and it wont scare me off lol. im bi, so thats no issue for me :)

in fact i did a study on “gay rights and marriage” in my school… got some pretty interesting results. its posted on my website, if you want to check it out and post your comments on my latest post i would appreciate it :)

a href=”http://cadys-story.webs.com/”>Visit My Website /a>

and if you need any more ideas or help, just let me know :)

okay i’m going to check it out right now, thank you a lot. weird question but do you prefer guys or girls more? i’m just getting used to the idea..hah.

oh i should tell you that the part im looking for comments on is under random tants lol.

and i hope all works out well for you :)

Anonymous wrote:

canadian_chri wrote:
well i prefer personality more then gender lol.

its not really about who has what with me, i look for someone with a good personality.

hah, okay good. sorry that was a dumb question

it was not a dumb question lol

some people do feel better with a specific gender so it was a perfectly valid question.

Just one more word of advice - leave the bi stuff completely out of this when you approach your parents.. It’s totally great that you’ve figured that out, but your parents have enough on their plates at the moment. And the last thing you need right now is an argument about your sanity from the two people you need to believe in you the most. Fortunately, that is something that is really none of their business, so if they find out in 2 years or 5 years or 10 years or even never, it’s still going to be ok. Like canadian said, you’ve got bigger things to worry about a the moment. And good luck!

canadian_chri wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

canadian_chri wrote:
well i prefer personality more then gender lol.

its not really about who has what with me, i look for someone with a good personality.

hah, okay good. sorry that was a dumb question

it was not a dumb question lol

some people do feel better with a specific gender so it was a perfectly valid question.

how old are you?

She is almost 17. Pay attention, Anon.

16 lol. but ive been told i have the maturity of someone older lol

canadian_chri wrote:
16 lol. but ive been told i have the maturity of someone older lol

haha, well you seem like it(: i’m off to bed…goodnight. thank you very much.

☞T☜ wrote:
She is almost 17. Pay attention, Anon.

i asked how old she is, not how old i am. lol.

no problem :)

good luck and good night :)

Anonymous wrote:

☞T☜ wrote:
She is almost 17. Pay attention, Anon.

i asked how old she is, not how old i am. lol.

Sorry. Anon thing threw me off. I guess *I* am the one that needs to pay more attention. :)