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Ok I need help.

I have been with this guy for 5 months and he is amazing. I know it sounds corny but it was love at first site. But the other day i told him that i needed a break. I need to “find” myself because im not happy with the life i have right now. He thinks there is another guy, all his friends are saying it to. But theres not. I keep telling him that but it feels like im talking to a wall. I want to be with him again, i want us to be happy, but i dont know how to do that. I know i make him happy but i dont know how to make myself happy. My life hasnt been too hard but sure as hell hasnt been happy. what can i do to “find” myself??

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Eddieee offline Verified User (8 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 1,215 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months, 3 weeks ago (4 minutes after post)

Walk with him for awhile…Maybe you can find eachother?

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kain16 offline Verified User (11 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months, 3 weeks ago (13 minutes after post)

depends what you mean, what is it you want to find? happiness perhaps in which case you tell me where to find it;)

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An Unknown Location | 5 months, 3 weeks ago (49 minutes after post)

I r don’t know!!lololololo!!!!

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toymar offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 5 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 11 minutes after post)

The best way through romantic relationships’ (almost all types of relationships also) downs is going back to the basics. Any relationship is founded on friendship. How do you feel about him that made you tell him that you needed a break? Is this break meant a break-up?

Try to communicate better with him before changing ways by starting with this break time.

If both of you are really meant to be and with some mixture of effort, you will both compromise and give way to what each other wants.

Friendship is the strongest bond that make 2 or more people live a lifetime together. Look at each other as bestfriends rather than lovers for a change. It sometimes makes that big difference.

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An Unknown Location | 5 months, 3 weeks ago (3 hours, 16 minutes after post)

Is “how can I find myself?” the real question?? To be out on your own in life without the influence/opinions of family and friends…to truely find out what your personal mission is, separate from what others want for you, then you will know how to find yourself.

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An Unknown Location | 5 months, 3 weeks ago (1 day, 6 hours after post)

o your dumb just get back together again. Hes the rite person!!!!! du!!!!!

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dnbrevolution offline Verified User (10 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months ago (3 weeks, 2 days after post)

hi there emy, the best thing to do is to get rid of the wall that is between you and him. how? easily. try to express how you feel by poetry or visual art, try to involve as much art as possible, because even world’s smallest particles move in harmony and everything is interrelated like melodies in music, like moves in dance and it is the thing that gives more meaning to simple things most of the time!=)
he will feel it believe me!=) and it won’t be any more like talking to wall and that wall will fall down and lead both you to each other!=)

but wait.. you feel like empty inside and can’t be creative in this moment? then try to talk about that emptiness with people you are close to, talk about it as much as possible, untill they help you to be inspired and live with amazing life=) change moments of your life like it’s a movie, like a story or a tale! =)

but don’t forget one more thing. what if today was your last day? what would you do? wouldnt you look for those words to say? the words that would make you able to solve everything and stand beyond? you would. and you would probably find them!=) so remember: no one has guaranteed there will be any tomorrow, so live this day like last one, but dont forget about art, express every single feeling you feel!=) good luck!

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