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Last night my husband decided we should get divorced after being together for 24 years. My whole life revolves around him and I have no idea how to carry on. I know this sounds childish, but my wolrd has been pulled out from under me. I have no friends no life. I know there are lots of people going through this how do you cope? Right now suicide is an option.

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aznpunkgrrl offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 5 months, 3 weeks ago (2 minutes after post)

Suicide should never be the option! I’m so sorry to hear about this ‘divorce’ *hugs you* i dont know what the problem may be, but try to talk to him. Ask him whats the problem, find out what is going wrong with the relationship. personally i believe divorce should never be the answer! i mean you make a promise when you get married. *sigh* its sad how so many people divorce these days. Well if there is no way to convince him to stay, I guess you would have to learn to accept it. Try to talk to someone about it, rather then keep it all inside but please do not think of suicide as an option.

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swilliam offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 5 months, 3 weeks ago (8 minutes after post)

Thanks. I don’t believe in divorce either. Tried to talk to him. He just says we have grown apart. Problem is I still love him.

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Dragon_Lady offline Verified User (1 year, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
An Undisclosed Location | 5 months, 3 weeks ago (18 minutes after post)

Have you been to counselling? Even if he doesn’t want to go, it can really help you to see that you do have options, and that life isn’t over just because he suddenly wants to go be single again.

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sum offline Verified User (8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months, 3 weeks ago (18 minutes after post)

Im so sorry =(

No suicide isnt an option because thats just giving up instead of trying different things to make you feel better.

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sum offline Verified User (8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months, 3 weeks ago (19 minutes after post)

Cant you go to a marriage counselor also?

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swilliam offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 5 months, 3 weeks ago (32 minutes after post)

I have asked him to go to counselling, but he refuses. Sorry guys I am just having a bad day I will get over myself. Will probably not kill myself, probably don’t have the guts.

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sum offline Verified User (8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months, 3 weeks ago (35 minutes after post)

Well just think about it. If he said youve grown distant there has to be a reason right? Just think about it and see if its a problem you can solve or if you really can start to see you may not belong together.

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swilliam offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 5 months, 3 weeks ago (47 minutes after post)

His career has become his whole life. He wants to be seen in the right social circles want to go to the right parties and needs this little social butterfly on his arm. I am not all that. I am just the girl next door. That is how we have grown apart. Maybe he is going through a midlife crisis or something.

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aznpunkgrrl offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 5 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 8 minutes after post)

why dont you go along with him. have little party at your house. like gathering? i dont know. i can kinda understand this situation. i mean my mom and dad are very independent people and they talk about divorce so many times but they stuck together. mainly cause of the kids and how they don’t believe in divorce. usually they try to do family activities and stuff to keep it together. maybe you guys need a vacation or something? barbecue? just a suggestion. tell him throwing away more than a 20 year marriage is a waste. and just giving up is not an option. you should keep trying until both of you are tired out or see it as an only option after that.

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