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You have trained your brain to be distracted from anxiety whenever you cut yourself.

Other people use drugs, alcohol, or overeat.

A healthier way to do it is vigorous exercise and working on developing friendships.

If you want to change, you can. You just need some support and the patients to stop. I no how you feel bout doin it and then regreting it cause ive had the same problem with something else. How old are you? If you need to talk, im here. You can stop.

bobthebuilder{#}^_^ wrote:

but somtimes she says shes fat whwen she clearly isnt it makes me so sad that she cannot see how beutiful she really is shes amazing

Dude, it’s NOT modern culture that makes her feel like crap. She feels like crap for the same reason you do. Neither of you respect yourselves. Neither of you understand why the other hates himself/herself. Can’t you see that your cutting yourself probably hurts her as much as her saying she’s fat hurts you? Don’t you realize that she is probably just as clueless as to why you cut yourself?

It’s anxiety. It’s not modern culture. It’s just anxiety. Deal with the anxiety directly and neither of you will have to waste time putting yourselves down and hurting yourselves or blaming modern culture or society or whatever.

We ALL have anxiety. We all learn ways of coping. The best way to cope is exercise, eating properly, and socializing in a way that we give to each other vs. focusing on problems with ourselves and others.

Buddy, you can’t stop thinking about anything. Because trying not to think of it requires thinking of it.

The answer is to say: why do I cut? To relieve anxiety through the distraction of pain and my body’s reaction to he cut.

How do I stop cutting? Find an alternative to deal with your anxiety.

Share your feelings but own them. Don’t blame anyone else for how you feel. Lots of feelings are generated constantly by your basic brain functions. You don’t have to let them affect your mood, attitude or actions.

You can improve your mood through regular vigorous exercise, eating properly, and socializing in a constructive way with other people. That means talking to them about their lives. Learning about them and valuing them.

The more you focus on yourself, isolate yourself, deprive yourself of good food, sit around and don’t exercise, the worse you will feel mentally and physically. You will feel more anxious and you will turn to the only thing you know distracts you from it… cutting.

well tats great!!! Good for you!!!

Congratulate yourself for taking that action! It’s the first step on a new life. Believe me, it’s a lot easier than you think. Whenever you feel like crap, exercise and eat some protein. Avoid the sugars and stimulants, they always lead to a crash later on. I’m proud of you buddy!

Never let a slip-up get you down. If you make a mistake, don’t obsess over it. Just focus on making the right decision the next time.