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My family and I are estranged.

And I have stopped speaking to them. They are judgemental, shallow idiots. I cannot stand them. For years, growing up I dealt with their abuse. Emotional, physical and verbal abuse. I had brothers and sisters who only cared for themselves. My parents also made it very dysfunctional by stooping to a low level always. I was always quiet, and peaceful. I never knew how I was related to such lunatics. Everyone is diagnosed with some form of mental illness. Bipolar, Anxiety or depression. For instance, my older brother yells at his wife. Everyone is on some form of medication for psychological issues. I am not. My parents are both mentally disturbed. My biological father has threatened me for years, as well as done very abusive things to me. In 2005 he gave my pets away just for kicks. And when I got angry he laughed. My mother says I’m a bum and a loser to all her friends. I was an A student in high school. I never did drugs, and never drink alcohol. But for some reason my family has teamed up so they can take me down. My question is… Why? Why is this? My only answer is that for some reason I was born into a family full of psychopaths and sociopaths. I am in my 20’s. But I have no one and no job. No where to go. No friends. And when I try to explain my situation, people get scared and say “good luck with that” and get away from me. Am I screwed?

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An Unknown Location | 5 months, 1 week ago (16 minutes after post)

GOod question.

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IDon'tEverQuit offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 211 #
An Undisclosed Location | 5 months, 1 week ago (17 hours, 26 minutes after post)

i’m sorry. that’s awful :(

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An Unknown Location | 5 months, 1 week ago (1 day, 2 hours after post)

the only reason they do that is cause they see that you aren’t insane like them and i guess that makes them see you as an outsider even though your not. . .you shouldn’t have to put up with any kind of abuse from them. have you ever tried to talk to them about it??

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zaphod offline Verified User (2 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
Erie, PA, US | 4 months, 2 weeks ago (3 weeks, 3 days after post)

it is sad when such situations happen. But it is sadder when regular people don’t do anything to help. Just hearing someone out is meaningful.

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An Unknown Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (3 months after post)

I really understand what you mean..my dad is mentally ill..he has stopped working..I live with him and my mom to support him financially..he is verbally abusive and does not speak to me other than to verbally abuse..he does see a dr but it does little except keep him out of the hospital bc of medications. My mom deals with him the best she can..I’m done with him though bc he’s turned his back on me..he tells me he hates me now and he is so cold..Its hard to turn your back on your dad but I have to bc he won’t have anything to do with me!! its very unfortunate..and it makes me sad..

It must be nice to have a “normal” father..nothing can be done

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rachel7080200 offline Verified User (2 months, 1 week) Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (3 months after post)

It is a sad situation..I feel bad bc I know what you are talking about..my dad is mentally ill and only speaks to me these days when he wants to verbally abuse me..I am doing the best I can..I have decided to not speak to him again bc today was the last straw..I’ve put up with it for 38 years..no more..what’s worse is me and my mom are supporting him bc he can’t work anymore..I am not going to be bought down by him..I have been threatened also which is very unnerving..

I hope you are able to get away from your family..it appears that they are no good for you at all..its not your fault remember that..

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