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Im in love with this girl i met in college in my freshman year.
We’ve been dating for about a year and a half now. We are currantly going through a seperation because she had to go home to her family in Puerto Rico for the summer. I know theres alot of people out there who dont believe in love, and i know that im going to be chastizised for thinking that i found the one i want to spend the rest of my life with. The truth is though, that i am really dedicated to her and i really believe that i could (and without a doubt want) to spend the rest of my life with her.
Therein lies the problem, we are still very young and at this age my family still looks at me like a teen. I know that if i proposed i would get alot of heat from both sides, her family and mine. Her family is old traditional spanish/puerto rican, and they arent even that keen on us dating. She is looked at as a child until she gets married and they dont want us near eachother without their “supervision” when we are not in school. When we are in school though, we basically live in the same dorm together (even though my roomates sometime objected, i paid them off…lol).
To make problems worse she is having to get her own student loans without the help of her family in order to pay for school and now she has to live off campus. We want to get an apartment together but we both know her family would go beserk (my family is a little bit more open to the idea). Since they arent going to be helping her pay for school and she has to claim as an independent though we could move in together without them really having a huge say in it. The problem is that it would cause waves and they would most likely end up hating me.
So i have several questions…
Do you think that even at a young age and with all the cynicism in the world, love really has a change to last a lifetime?
If i truly feel that i want to spend my entire life by her side, should i really attempt to propose even though it would cause huge waves in both sides of our families?
And last of all, at what time do you really have to cut the reigns lose and embrace freedom to do what you want while your parents are attempting to control all aspects of your life?
***I didnt list my age for a reason but if you really must know, both of us are nineteen. Also i appreciate anybody who actually took the time and effort to read this even though i just posted a book. Oh and please only serious responses, this seems like a pretty good group so i figured i could get some perspective here rather than somewhere else. Thank You.
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