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That doesn’t sound like a very nice friend to me.
They weren’t joking?
Maybe you should find better friends.
And why are you sad? Want to talk about it?

well ****…although she speaks the truth (it is up to you after all), you definitly should not kill yourself. Nothing. and i mean NOTHING is worth killing yourself over. I think everyone should be a firm believer in “All things work together for good”.

Now, why are you sad? Parents? Death? Life not going well for ya?

i just hate my life.im alone in everything.and she wasnt joking.im pretty sure she thought she was helping.

Well please dont listen to her.

Anonymous wrote:
i just hate my life.im alone in everything.and she wasnt joking.im pretty sure she thought she was helping.

why do you hate your life?

Maybe she just didnt know what to say..?

Im not excusing whta she said but that is alot to drop on a person, how old are you and her?

maybe shes tired of hearing you whining all the time about it, and not doing anything about it other then griping. Maybe she was being sarcastic.

You can only tell someone “oh no you dont! Your awesome and yeah its everyones fail besides yours and you have it so bad, poor you” for so freaking long.

but on the other hand if you arnt that person who does nothing but whine and you were just having a horrible day and needed to talk to your friend and have her support you with your horrible day then yeah, its her bad and she shouldnt have said that.

my first thought was…..not sure how to word this….when the preaching is for the preacher…..how when people talk and they are really talking to themselves? dont know….just a thought.

I think your friend was just going along with you. She did not mean it.

im 22.shes 21.ive never talked to her about this before today.and i hate my life because ive screwed everything up.

yeah, she probly didnt mean it in any bad way, at all.

although i do hafta say that Joy’s first explanation has some ground to it, its still never a good idea to just give up on someone like that.

Have you shared your feelings with her before?
Is this a recent sad emotion?

Anonymous wrote:
ive never talked to her about this before today.

there that may be your reason. some friends dont like it when you pump your **** on them….i no a lot of people like that…you have never done it before so when you do there just like wtf. didnt know how to react.

Anonymous wrote:
and i hate my life because ive screwed everything up.

everyone screws up…that doesnt mean you should hate it.

ahhh. well, meg_ryan’s got it. everything happens for a reason. and when you just jump all of sudden on someone like that, it can leave them a little flustered.

I don’t think she meant it that way. She literally means what you do with your life is up to you.

Some people (me included) don’t really know what to say when someone says “I’d be better off dead” - because really, what do you say to that?

Anonymous wrote:
ahhh. well, meg_ryan’s got it. everything happens for a reason. and when you just jump all of sudden on someone like that, it can leave them a little flustered.

Yeah I agree.

well shes not much of a frend, is she?

Life is what you make of it. you may have screwed up..but if you let that determine whats in front of you then you wont get anywhere.

Your friends arnt going to no what to say unless they have been through it…and then they might have a clue of what to say. The normal reaction is ether hunny please dont, or then just go kill yourself then. Nether are the answers your looking for.

dang, go meg.

Truly, unless you talk to someone you think can relate to you, you won’t get the true help you need.

I would also like to say “thats up to you” isnt exactly “go kill yourself”. She might have thought you werent serious, people say “omg I wanna die!” “omg I could just die” “omg I wish I was dead” people say these things all the time just to say them. Usually when someone says that thay are joking or just saying how they feel in that moment. Your friend probably just took it as that, a random statement that people say all the time, millions of times a day. I’m sure if she honestly thought u were suicible then she would have chose her words better. I think your over reacting.

just thought I would throw that out there.

I dont disagree with you said Joy. But the anonymously said that he/she was talking to he/shes friend about how sad he/she is. This persons feelings…wouldnt that not be a joking matter. If your sad and trying to talk to someone about it..most of the time its serious.

It doesnt matter to me weather or not you disagree. Its my view of the issue, you dont have to agree with it.

Thats not what i said…but okay.

omg I am SOOOOOO sorry. I took my glasses off and read your comment, I feel like an ***.

Im sorry my bad!

Dont worry about it, you said nothing wrong. Its a good point truly.

:)

my friend texted me again and asked me what my decision was.i said on what?she said on your life.she asked me if i was gonna kill myself.

Anonymous wrote:
my friend texted me again and asked me what my decision was.i said on what?she said on your life.she asked me if i was gonna kill myself.

I think that shows concern.

Anonymous wrote:
my friend texted me again and asked me what my decision was.i said on what?she said on your life.she asked me if i was gonna kill myself.

may i ask you what you told her. Whatever she says..just remember that its your life not hers.

yea.its like it took her awhile to realize what she said.but the way she tries to calm me down just makes me feel worse.

To answer your question meg,i said maybe i will ive planned it enough.i wasnt saying it to be smart.thats how i honestly feel.

Anonymous wrote:
yea.its like it took her awhile to realize what she said.but the way she tries to calm me down just makes me feel worse.

thats the thing, i dont think she nows how to act, she is scared.

Anonymous wrote:
To answer your question meg,i said maybe i will ive planned it enough.i wasnt saying it to be smart.thats how i honestly feel.

Do you feel like you still wnat to. I didnt think you were…thats not a joking matter.

i pretty much always want to if im being honest.

Thanks for being honest. Well is this time stronger then the others…is the will to bigger?

Tell her she is behaving badly. I don’t know of any friends of mine that would say what she said. You are attracting the wrong sort of people into your life. Seek guidance from a professional therapist to stabilize your life and then you might try truthisgold.com as a resource.

ive felt the desire stronger before but im feeling it more often and its starting to wear me down.

Anonymous wrote:
ive felt the desire stronger before but im feeling it more often and its starting to wear me down.

You need to get help, i know those are the words that no one wants to hear. But they are the words that must be said. If the urge is stronger then you may be in danger of yourself. You need to find help so that your walls can be built back up.

My friend is a bit rough with me like that. Most of the time its just bad communication wise you know. People can act careless, but care at the same time. It could be like reverse psycology. Get where i’m going don’t do it though. Not worth it plus don’t take it to the heart. Don’t let the world put you down, you gotta take good care of yourself that is the key to happiness. Trust me everytime it rains theres always a rainbow bound to be somewhere after it rains.

… Okay, I hate saying this, but in a way I sort of attempted to kill myself. One day someone said something to me that set me off, I had a major panic attack, and though I can’t remember a lot of what happened I remember just hitting my head into a wall repeatedly, really, really hard. My parents couldn’t stop me because I am so much bigger than either of them. I didn’t do any serious damage, but the blunt trauma somehow managed to tear some skin next to my ear. I know I didn’t do much damage, but it is still something I would never willingly do. I hated myself for what I did and I remember throwing up for hours afterwards.

Seriously, don’t do it. As much as its one of the few things I constantly think about, I could never, and I hope no one ever gets to that point, even though I know they do.

And I am aware that I am very, very young to do this, but it happened. I am not proud, in fact I am disgusted with myself, I just want to help you. Very, very sorry about the more disgusting elements of the event, but I figure if i can get across the disgust and the sickness of it I can stop you