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5 months, 1 week ago (2 minutes after post)
[quote dx_harsh]IMO I am not grateful about my life because I am not doing what I should be (though I am really good at what I do)..]
What do you think you should be doing then?
probably because you want someone to lova and hold in your arms!!! its a need everyone wants to have
I don’t know.. that’s the problem.. This is all I have ever done and now I am questioning it because I just believe there has to be more to life that what I am doing..
I need to do something else to discover what else I am good at.. may be nothing.. but I need to fail and figure it out..
try dating someone else that you like alot. see what happens, give it a year to see where your life goes. and while doing that try other things
Anonymous wrote:
dx_harsh wrote:
IMO I am not grateful about my life because I am not doing what I should be (though I am really good at what I do)..]
What do you think you should be doing then?
You needed to end that quote with
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Lol ahhh that’s annoying
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The problem is my work consumes enough time that I don’t get time to meet too many people. Being away from home in a different country also creates a certain hurdles.
And then again, I am not a player either. Anyone I have been with has always been a good friend becoming a gf. Not pick up a chick off the bar.
I found true love in only a week. lol.
I am happy for you Tannen. But a lot of us aren’t that lucky. And though I may be being delusional but there may be more to this than missing a partner (may be there isn’t)
there you go, maybe its your job, i know its a good job but im guessing you dont enjoy it too much with the life it brings you. im not saying quite im just saying thats prob it. dont quite btw because of the economy. also why did you and your ex break up?
When I moved to US, I couldn’t give her enough time and acted like an ******* at times. Long distance requires a lot of work and I wasn’t ready for that. She was hurt because of that and is hurt. We still speak but know that there is no future because of the past.
As I said the problem is I have never learned to do anything else (should have gone to school here). Now at 24 I have no idea what the purpose of my life is (I recently saw a broadway play Avenue Q that said that a lot of people don’t find it and it’s ok, but I want to)
where did you come from? and why did your job ake you move here? if i was you i would just go out when ever you can and see the area! the US is known for entertainment enjoy it, get into sports, meet friends ang go to games. live your life to your fullest all i can really say and you never know, you might find a girl and new friends. to live life happy you need to see whats out in the world. get out whenever you can. what state do u live in and do you live by any big cities?
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5 months, 1 week ago (27 minutes after post)
dx_harsh wrote:
I recently saw a broadway play Avenue Q that said that a lot of people don’t find it and it’s ok, but I want to
NIIIIICE!!!!!!!! I’m super jealous. My boyfriend went to see that and he didn’t take me :(
Your only 24, thats plenty of time to discover something new, get a hobby do some charity work, I done some charity work and realised how much I loved planning events now I am an event planner and in my spare time I am building up my small party planning business, met my new bf and we are going travelling, shake life up a bit, give yourself a challange do something that scares you
Sigh…
I am sooo in the same sinking boat. Purpose of life… I heard that meditation helps with that. I’ve been there and done that though… and it surely helps for a while but then you end up needing more. More of what I don’t know. But advice wise - try meditating and or reading self help / motivational documents.
I have always been the type to advise others, help others.. Hence am not sure if reading anything will help.. I know what’s in those books, because I preach that to my friends in the dump.. I have always been the go to person for all my friends..
I am starting to do some charity work.. Hope that helps.. Need to get out more I guess.. Any suggestions regarding something to do when you’re out..
Hmmm, What do u like to do? Take that and spice it up abit… For instance I like swimming & I’m stressed so I just called a buddy and we are going out for an evening at the spa. I am almost sure that that not a guy thing - but it is quite fun & relaxing and its an idea…
Find a concert, Oh ride in an air balloon, go out to a club, taste a new drink, bake… Go see the new Transformers movie!!!
Be a tourist for the day even in your home town you will probably discover things you never knew about it, eat somewhere you havn’t eaten before and smile and be friendly to all the staff and remembere (cliche coming up) a strangers just a friend you havn’t met, think of a new hobby, photography or art maybe, I started doing day courses in balloon art and arches, and now I can turn my hobby into a job
I feel the same. I should be grateful because I have it all. And yet I cry every day. My job is really bumming me out. I’m good at it, I get paid, I’m appreciated. But I hate the work it constantly aggravates me, and I don’t know how to just not let it bother me. It’s built up for a while now where I am at the end of my wits, but of course it is impossible to find another job. Just gotta keep trying I guess, one day at a time. You may never be happy, but that doesn’t mean you can’t pursue happiness.
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Sometimes you have to take some time out in order to learn enough about yourself to find what you really want. While quitting your job may not be a viable option, maybe you could set aside some time each day, or even each week to do something new? It might sound cliceed, but maybe you could try doing something artistic? Even if you don’t consider yourself a creative person, the act of creating can reveal things about the direction you really wish to take. I’ve been through this sort of thing myself. I know it’s hard, but I’m sure you’ll figure it out. :-)
So the spa thing was fun. I feel much better about myself. Ready to start a new day.
Glad to hear you had fun mem.. You needed the break I guess :)..
It’s a weekend now, got to head to work for some time tomorrow, but will make sure I do something different.. Hopefully I can make a difference and break this rut.. I really want to stop making “Everyday is the same day - Nine inch nails” the theme song of my life..
Keriann, my logic tells me it’s about making a change.. If not a big one a small one may help.. See if it works for you..
dx,
You are not alone in this “missing something”. It happens to me.
I am not in USA, in my country people are more easygoing, they love meet each other, even in bad times, you always can find someone on the street or on the beach smiling, playing jokes, etc.
I have a very nice job, a wonderful family (wife and kid) a dog, house, car, etc.. I work for the best company to work in my type of job, but something is missing. It is not money, not love, and I really do not know what is. Sometimes I wake-up happy to go to work, but usually I think the time is running so fast and I could be on other place, maybe just taking some sun, feeling the wind, or something like that.
Could be stress?.. maybe!, but I feel like an “unfree” man, working so hard without live. My impression is that one day, the clock with stop for me and I did nothing to live, to be happy, surviving stead of live. I do not know what to do.
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Less logic and more belief in something that is greater than you. I think you’re thinking too much here and that is the problem. Quiet the mind…you might discover something about yourself.
I do believe there is a power greater than me watching over. But then again I also believe that you dictate where your life heads (I know these things are contradictory, but the second thought gives me hope. I makes me feel I can fix things). I don’t know how to not over analyze. Been doing my whole life. Initially for friends to help them, guide them out of ruts. Now being buried in that thought process
Quiet the mind…you might discover something about yourself.
well i just thing you’re bored with your life , what you need is new people, new places to hang out, maybe new hobbies, or just take the time to get a few moments of peace.
I believe every now and then people get the feeling of emptiness, as if they lack something in life. In your case, I believe it’s love. You have the other aspects covered. Probably a partner is what you need right now.
:)
Love is not always needed, but it may be what you lack. Rationally peopel are not ment to stay together there whole life they are ment to have different partners. Sadly that is the truth of this world, so love may just come back and bite you. Think hard before deciding what is right and what is wrong to do.
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you guys are probably right generally speaking, but in my case love is the last thing on my mind right now i’m only thinking how to get past the next day, just trying to survive in this jungle.
For find either new company or a new partner, I need to change something. Do some new activities, just have a hard time figuring out what. Need to work towards going back to school as well (may be for an MBA) because I don’t want to do what I am doing now forever.
Good Luck with ur decision…
If uu do make it to this side - Let me know! :)
Will do :).. Hope you can sort out your stuff as well.. Would like to stay in touch with you mem (VardhanHarsh profile on Facebook (Madison WI))
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