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I am getting married tomorrow, less than 24 hours.

It was supposed to be siblings, pastor, and three friends each. But one of my fiance’s brothers back out because he is always a douche bag. Now with out even asking me if we have room, or if it is ok, he invites a random friend of his sisters, and his aunt and uncle, whom i never met, and their two kids, which he doesn’t even know their name. We are both shy and feel uncomfortable around people that we don’t know. And then he goes and invites these people today. We don’t have room, my dining room is medium sized (i have 9 siblings). I cooked everything and didn’t plan for those people. and he messed up our compromise on who we were invited to fill some emotional gap (for the brother he never liked)… am i being a stressed/ heartless *****, or has he violated my trust for the last time?

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Anonymous #
5 months, 1 week ago (2 minutes after post)

If you break up with him for inviting family and friends then that IS heartless and they probably don’t deserve someone as terrible as you.

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violin8rocks offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 5 months, 1 week ago (3 minutes after post)

Its your wedding, not his brothers party…

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Anonymous #
5 months, 1 week ago (4 minutes after post)

Tho you probably should talk to them about it.

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violin8rocks offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 5 months, 1 week ago (5 minutes after post)

How does your fiance feel @ this?

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Sir Tannen offline Verified User (1 year, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 76 #
Emeryville, CA, US | 5 months, 1 week ago (5 minutes after post)

Anonymous wrote:
or has he violated my trust for the last time?

I’m guessing he violated your trust before? What kind of person are they exactly?

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ĐaNi HaŦeS ŸoŪ offline Verified User (2 years, 4 months) Help.com Volunteer Moderator Long Term User Shouts: 195 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months, 1 week ago (6 minutes after post)

wait, violated the brother’s trust your your fiance?

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Anonymous #
5 months, 1 week ago (8 minutes after post)

Oh snap they are their own fiance? :O

I think Bani is confused.

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☞T☜ offline Verified User (5 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 5 months, 1 week ago (25 minutes after post)

You are being stressed. It’s not fun or fair that it turned out this way, but I am certain of one thing. In 20 years, you will not care who was at your wedding.

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SayItsSo offline Verified User (1 year, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 13 #
An Undisclosed Location | 5 months, 1 week ago (50 minutes after post)

Just let him have who he wants…it’s his day too.

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gr8bsmil offline Verified User (5 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 8 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months, 1 week ago (55 minutes after post)

ĐAnI wrote:
wait, violated the brother’s trust your your fiance?

yeah, I’m a little confused about some things too. But I’m kinda think’n that your just having last minute cold feet too. and that’s OK and normal. but really, like T alludes to. It doesn’t matter how your wedding turns out. it’s how your marriage will. Good luck to the both of you!

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Domenica offline Unverified User #
An Undisclosed Location | 5 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 13 minutes after post)

well listen, its not fair ..this is your day..the problem is its tomorrow and you dont have time or the emotional energy to be spent trying to change the day..what you need to do is find soultions fast to make your day yours to ENJOY.. firstly congratulations you have found the love of your life and today you will make that official, remember what the day is about your LOVE and stay focused therefore… you need solutions that will not cause up roars in the family, get your maid of honor or closes sibling to add to the menu cause now you have 5 extra and you know what set them up in the kitchen cause the dinning room is full and don’t forget to serve with a smile — kill with kindness it always works best !

congrats again your married!

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An Unknown Location | 5 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 21 minutes after post)

well i just found out he called his mom to un-invite his aunt! ahhh wedding from hell… now i do look like a heartless *****… but i never told him to do that… even i am not that ghetto to un-invite guests…

but

thanks for your support. i never thought strangers could help me feel better.

thanks : )

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Domenica offline Unverified User #
An Undisclosed Location | 5 months, 1 week ago (2 hours, 12 minutes after post)

no problem, & don’t stress it is his family that you do not even know, it’s not like these poeople have been planing for months to come to your wedding- meanwhile this day you have been perparing for your whole life.. so gain some perspective and no worries you must look amazing tomorrow I suggest you do a shot of liquor and go to bed and wake up FResh!

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gr8bsmil offline Verified User (5 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 8 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months, 1 week ago (2 hours, 31 minutes after post)

Oh yeah! a shot of liquor before bed. every girls beauty secret. get that next day refreshed look from Snops! lol

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Jplett_181 offline Verified User (2 years, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months, 1 week ago (3 hours, 56 minutes after post)

don’t cook tonight call chicken delight!!!! LOL

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