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she thinks she has no control over herslef?
you mean emotionally or what?

Be there 4 her.
But understand this is too big for the both of u to deal with.
Is she depressed?
cutting?
panic attacks?
How bad?

Where is she living? Is it her enviroment or experiences that has made her like this?

you should sit with only her and have a talk with her..talk about (with her) what makes her feel better and what makes her feel bad. once she points these things out..then you should help her avoid the things that she feels she cant control or is controlling her..help HER find her problem..that way she can deal with them.just ask her at what points she feels good and as if she can control herself..and then ask her at what point she feels out of control..and then help her find a way to deal with it

:)

She needs to see the light. Stand well clear, dont get caught in the middle.
Be brutally honest with her.
Say u care for her
fear for her
and are there 4 her no matter what.
But dont think this relationship is good for her soul
and because of that u have to stand to the side for a bit

Mayefsk wrote:
Her family is nice, so it isn’t home, but her experiences are a yes. She’s got so much drama in her life and she’s always getting blamed and trying to be the peacemaker and i think all of the build up is what made her break

it sounds like she needs to know that someone will always be there for her. no matter what. most people expect that from their families because families are, in a way, obligated to feel “unconditional love.” the best thing that you can do for her is just to always be there. if she needs someone to talk to when everyone else, despite her good intentions, is turned against her. and she needs to know that there is at least this one constant in her life. don’t try to tell her what she needs though. just always be there if she does need you.

Aw I’m sorry. Your in a tough position. I hope things get better as time goes on. Take Care =(