This Father’s Day, I’m mainly confused. - Help.com

well, if the guy was a big enough jerk to do this, think about what he could have done to the child if he stuck around.
be grateful he is gone and raise the child as best as you can, I’m sure it will do fine knowing how nice you are around here.
I say try to find a new husband/ step father for the both of you, but that is entirely your decision.

yea, it is sad that dreams sometimes do that. I feel it is all the more better of a reason to not give up hope and keep making dreams
She will definitely do better without a man like him in her life.
it really aggravates me how men sometimes just leave after doing this.

Devil_on_Earth wrote:
My dreams will just be shattered again.
Men can be lame-*** losers. So why should I even waste my time on them anymore?

because we aren’t all like that.
If I gave up after every bad friend I had, I would have never met the truly great ones I have now.

Devil_on_Earth wrote:
If I gave up after every bad relationship I was in, I wouldn’t be in this mess.

but this is just another of those bad relationships.
do you think that my friends who turned out bad didn’t each cause their own mess that I was left to clean up?
I count my blessings with the ones who aren’t like that and I clean it all up and move on.
**** happens, be prepared, bring toilet paper and bags

Devil_on_Earth wrote:
I don’t want anybody to have to clean up after me.

then clean up after yourself, and don’t be like those bad people you have dealt with, who left you with the mess

SITNALTA wrote:

Devil_on_Earth wrote:
I don’t want anybody to have to clean up after me.

then clean up after yourself, and don’t be like those bad people you have dealt with, who left you with the mess

be it this time a very precious and beautiful mess, but a mess none the less

SITNALTA wrote:
well, if the guy was a big enough jerk to do this, think about what he could have done to the child if he stuck around.
be grateful he is gone and raise the child as best as you can, I’m sure it will do fine knowing how nice you are around here.
I say try to find a new husband/ step father for the both of you, but that is entirely your decision.

I have to agree.

Devil this guy is who he is.You cant change that what he did is horrible but it does not have to effect the child, and it dosent mean you cant find anyone bettter, your child is lucky now they wont have to endure him and they truley are better off without him around, and Im sure you can find someone who will love you and your baby.

I wish I could say it will all work get better. But the truth is its up to you how things will turn out remember your life is in your hands and you can make what you want out of it, even if you go through hard times in the process. You’ll do just fine as long as you keep your head up and shake off all worry and negativity. It wont be easy but dont worry about that now, your about to have a baby and that child is a whole new start and I trust that you’ll do alright. You have to belive it too.

Devil_on_Earth wrote:
Do you know how hard it is being a recovering alcoholic? Rhetorical question of course.. But I can’t even soften this up with a drink because it could hurt the baby. What if someone never loves me? What if I just..blew it?

we love you, regardless, but I’m sure there are other nice men out there willing to love you too

Can you honestly tell me there are not recovering alchoholics that have made it through? You dont need a drink you just need time. This is something that you can beat and you can get through this. What if someone will love you? is nt that somethingf to look into?

And you did not blow it you could have been alot worse, dont you see that?

Devil_on_Earth wrote:
Well, they are **** good at hiding.
Father’s Day is over in half an hour. I’ll have a pity party with a guest list of myself and a tub of ice cream. And tomorrow I’ll wake up. And pretend this hasn’t happened…again. ‘Nite. And thanks for the support.

Hes right you knopw you have support here know that, and there are good guys out there but good night for now.