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I can’t shake these awful feelings that I have.

Over the weekend, I get depressed, go for walks, spend time with true friends, get rejuvenated…then march into the office on Monday, only to be stripped of myself again. By the end of the week I hate myself…again. No matter how hard i work, no matter what I say or do, people treat me like crap. I am a nerd (true), but I am a good worker and a nice person, but still they treat me like we’re all still in high school. I can’t afford to leave because my skills don’t translate very well, and my nights are infused with helplessness and depression, and I just can’t motivate myself to learn anything new, because I’ve had no success coming up with better plans. I still don’t know what I want to do with myself. I was undecided in college, and I still feel like I’m meandering. My work bores me, and the discussions people have make my eyes hazy and my brain wander off. I’ve considered taking medication to help me focus, but I KNOW there is nothing wrong with me. I wish I could win 100,000, pay off my debts, move to a nicer place and live out my days writing books in my loft or something. i know I could make more money, if I just had a feasible plan. Please help me.

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chev.jame offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months, 2 weeks ago (3 minutes after post)

Fayth14, listen to me: attitude is everything! You have to work on your attitude! You have to find something you are passionate about, and pursue that! If you cannot find a job that you are passionate about, then be passionate about having a roof over your head and food in your stomach! In the end, we all have to motivate OURSELVES. We can get all the external motivation in the world, but if we don’t try to motivate ourselves, then it’s all in vain. So, get motivated!

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An Unknown Location | 5 months, 2 weeks ago (12 minutes after post)

hey, you really need to meet my friend Jesus! He will help you through the hard times. He is always beside you! He will never leave you, nor forsake you! He has really helped me. and i believe he can do the same for you!

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fayth14 offline Verified User (5 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months, 2 weeks ago (57 minutes after post)

You are right chev.jame, it IS all about attitude. And mine needs some serious adjusting. I try to motivate myself, but I run out of steam after 4 hours of chasing what I think I might want to do, only to realize I’m not sure anymore by the end of it. I’ve meandered into dozens of careers and none of them have worked for me. Motivation itself is the problem within me. How can i motivate myself, if it only comes in spurts that work out to nothing? Maybe I have a disease, like alcoholism. Is there a 12-step process for motivation?

Aaalikespi, i appreciate your input…but I’m agnostic. Some variation of “God” and I talk all the time though. Thanks.

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chev.jame offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months, 2 weeks ago (9 hours, 6 minutes after post)

Well, Fayth, patience is part of motivation. You won’t always have an instant success–you won’t always get instant results. Every work of genius involves many dead-ends and tons of frustration. You just have to keep plugging along. Thomas Edison said, “Genius is one percent inspiration and 99 percent perspiration.” You have to gear your mind for the long haul. In our society, we are conditioned toward instant gratification, but the best things in life don’t come “instantly”: not love, not knowledge, not success. You have to be willing to work toward a goal for days, weeks, months and even years without seeing results. You need to be goal oriented rather than task oriented. You need to think strategically–i.e., what do you need to do that will pay off months or years from now?

Motivation? Try fasting. Fast for two days, while drinking liquids to keep hydrated. Think about how it would be to starve because you weren’t working. That will give you some motivation, believe me!

The first priority, Fayth, is survival. Then it’s something that you can be passionate about. Eighty percent of the workforce hate their jobs . . . most find fulfillment in hobbies, with friends, in volunteer or church work, etc. But set goals for yourself . . . and work toward attaining them. Survive . . . but have a plan to rise above mere survival. This is your “roadmap”!

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An Unknown Location | 5 months, 2 weeks ago (19 hours, 53 minutes after post)

Wow, what you said brought tears to my eyes. Seriously, this really touched me. The concept is so simple, and yet NO ONE I’ve ever talked to has said any of this to me. It really puts things in perspective. That is exactly my problem…I do expect instant. You are right. Many of my endeavors are cut short because I don’t get instant results. Such as trying to learn an instrument, or another language. I have to start telling myself that things don’t happen overnight. Its tough for me…but now that I’ve isolated the problem, I can work towards combatting it. Thank you chev.jame. I can make a list of things that I’m passionate about learning, and slowly work through them. Really…thank you!

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