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I got a job and it fell through a month later.

I thought it was the perfect job for me and I’ve been out of work awhile.

It hit me so much harder than I expected. I guess even though I kept reminding myself it might not work out, that I started building a fantasy on it.

I feel my anxiety has come rolling back. I found another opportunity and I can’t bring myself to check my email about it.

This is so silly. I just want to talk but I feel so silly.

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Victoria Sponge offline Verified User (2 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 12 #
Fritwell, K2, GB | 4 months, 2 weeks ago (8 minutes after post)

Thats ok, your confidence has had a knock, you have to keep trying and know that you are not the onlyn person that this has happened to a friend of mine has lost 2 jobs in as many months, and it happened to me 2 years ago, you have to believe it wasn’t right for you and happend for a reason as something more perfect will come up for you

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4 months, 2 weeks ago (24 minutes after post)

Thanks. I think it was more that my confidence got raised by this after so long trying.

The thing is this other opportunity is a place I worked many years ago. And now I wonder what their reaction will be. I feel like jelly.

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An Undisclosed Location | 4 months, 2 weeks ago (37 minutes after post)

So you just wished for that job to go away? That’s what you did thinking like that.

You should have pictured yourself getting your first raise and being at that job for a long time and keeping it.

Most of the time when we wish for something and think that something might not work out, it shall be.

That’s what you did.

Next time, think positive all the way through!!!

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4 months, 2 weeks ago (1 hour, 6 minutes after post)

I have no clue what littlenick is saying. It doesn’t really apply to the job I was accepted for as I never got to start it.

Anyhow, I checked email and it turns out I still have 4 other options still in play with personal recommendations on my side for two of them.

Time to get out of the house.

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An Unknown Location | 4 months, 2 weeks ago (1 hour, 7 minutes after post)

I did that too.

This last fall I got the “perfect” job. I was a web developer. I got paid well, I got to work my own hours, I had a good boss, etc. It was perfect. Great.

Then I realized that he needed someone who’s ability was higher than mine. Also, I found self- motivation VERY difficult. I was happy when I finally quit.

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Fritwell, K2, GB | 4 months, 2 weeks ago (13 hours, 57 minutes after post)

Honey you are very lucky to have all these opportunities, there are people out there that have no opportunities, no job at all, there is a reason why this opportunity fell through there will be a better one out there,

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4 months, 2 weeks ago (21 hours, 50 minutes after post)

I’m grateful for everyone’s kind words.

I got out with a friend for some distraction, helped him with a project. That seems the only way to avoid getting self-centred and pessimistic!

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Fritwell, K2, GB | 4 months, 2 weeks ago (1 day, 13 hours after post)

Glad you are feeling a little better,

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