fear help: I am about as shy as guys come when it comes to girls.

alan

I am about as shy as guys come when it comes to girls.

It’s not normally my nature. I’ve been in plays where i can make a complete fool out of myself, and make the audience laugh like there’s no tomorrow, and not be nervous the whole time, thinking nothing of it. However, when it comes to girls (other than relatives) i can hardly utter a “hi”. It’s… well, i don’t really know what it is. It’s not that i’m a bad lookin’ guy either. Even my sister, who i don’t always really get along with, has even pointed that out. I’ve tried a few times to talk to girls, but i’ll find myself near her, and i’ll try to say something, but i’ll find myself not saying anything, as if there’s a giant air bubble in my throat preventing me from talking no matter how hard i try, and no, it’s not a medical condition. to sum this all up, i just have to ask, “what’s the deal?” am i the only one with this problem? how can i fix this?

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Grim_Hardcastle 21 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months, 1 week ago (20 minutes after post)

Many people got this problem. I do too.
You need to override your fear and just dive in. Don`t care about the outcome. Ask them a little bout their day and crack a joke. You`ll see there`s really nothing to it.

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Anonymous #
5 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 13 minutes after post)

Just remember, she is a person just like you. You should not be too intimidated, especially if you have the looks going for you. You seem like a really nice guy. If only there were more like you out there! She will probably think so too.

Zal99 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months, 1 week ago (21 hours, 10 minutes after post)

ouch. i’m not good with these types of situations bud. sorry.

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spiratec9 11 #
Burnaby, BC, CA | 5 months ago (2 days, 10 hours after post)

your not the only one.
You need to be in a natural setting where you feel confident.
Say at one of your plays.
When you have your confidence up go over and ask a girl did you like the performance.

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maddyarche #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (2 weeks after post)

I agree with spira. From a girl’s point of view, if you’re cute, then just say something to a girl you know is single. She’ll talk to you.

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Avery #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 3 weeks ago (2 months, 2 weeks after post)

The first one’s always the hardest, pal. You just have to not think about it too much while you’re doing it. That’s the key. Worst case synario: she says no. It may hurt, but at least you don’t have to have that “what if?” feeling on your back and can move on. Pain is only temporary.

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