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17 year old male, i’m ugly, never kissed a girl.

I have really big issues with my life I will point some of them out. Firstly i’m a virgin, secondly i’m over-weight (166 CM in height) weight 10 1/2 stone, Thirdly I have black circles under my eyes due to the lack of sleep, Fourhtly I barely ever go out, I’m extremely shy and never had any girls show any interest in me throughout school and during my 8 months in College. I really can’t bear being seen in the streets due to how ugly I feel and all I feel like doing is killing myself because life is pointless and definitely not worth the hassle when you feel so down and worthless. At school I saw friend after friend meeting attractive girls I where the odd one out everytime, The one thing I didn’t get during school were bullied but I can’t stand not being wanted by anybody.

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cornpuff30 offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 5 months ago (12 minutes after post)

chill. there’s someone out there for everyone. I’m not in much of a better boat myself. You’re seventeen. There are people that are 25 that have never really been with anyone. don’t give up hope. there’s always the chance of finding someone in places that you’d never expect. the girl you might be destined to be with might be some chick that runs the counter at night as some hotel. :| You never know.

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THE INTERNET offline Verified User (1 year, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 9 #
An Undisclosed Location | 5 months ago (13 minutes after post)

17 and in college? What country is that?
I am 17 and ugly too, only thing I don’t have in common with you is my weight
I say go out and exersize, get more sleep, and talk to people more. That is what I am doing.

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sum offline Verified User (7 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months ago (16 minutes after post)

Dont put off your looks for your reasons, you never kissed a girl because you never tried to and havnt been in that situation am i right? Im 22 and havent either

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carpe_noctem offline Verified User (8 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 12 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months ago (17 minutes after post)

chiil hun, my bf will be 18 soon and we just got together. i’m hist first gf and vis. so relax.

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Ravi offline Verified User (5 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months ago (20 minutes after post)

SITNALTA wrote:
17 and in college? What country is that?
I am 17 and ugly too, only thing I don’t have in common with you is my weight
I say go out and exersize, get more sleep, and talk to people more. That is what I am doing.

Wat sitnalta told is correct, dont lose your confidence, and try to speak(funny) someone.

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lexihope offline Verified User (9 months, 4 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months ago (28 minutes after post)

aww dont put urself down like that. look looks are a small part of you. its about personality. if ur shy and quiett and arent really out there, people are just going to judge u based on ur looks thats true but if u are out there and show people how awesome of a guy u are, trust me ur gonna have girls all around u. and also, there is always someone out there for u. someone is going to fall for u. no matter wat a person looks like, they always have someone in their future for them. dont worry about it. im 15 and i dont think im a “hot”, “popular”, “chearleading body” of a girl but people always see things in u that capture their interest. :]] and yes dont worry ur 17. your still young and u have plenty of time to wow girls. about being a virgin…im still one too and who cares. save it for someone who is really gonna treasure it. someone ur gonna truly love and care about. even if ur a guy it doesnt matter if ur a virgin. look just work out some more, get out there, show people ur personality, and ur all set :]]

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ptsampson offline Verified User (5 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months ago (4 hours, 24 minutes after post)

I feel you. i was kind of like that when i was younger. my advice is start small. exercise “not to lose weight” but to lose depression. it works. go for a jog and push yourself alittle. you will feel better, more energetic and your personality will improve. right now your in a downward spiral. your personality is probably depressed because of your low self esteem. so the worst you get, the worst youll feel. you need to get active. even if its not with others. get outside take a run or join a gym. youll feel better. its tough to meet ppl when your depressed, almost impossible. get a friend to hang with and try to meet ppl together. at least youll have each other to fall back on. you need to change something in your life to have a change in yourself. and dude, if your 17 and in college, your doin alright. concentrate on that and beleive me, youll have a good life. success is the most important way to find happiness. stay in school and get that job. being cool and gettin all the girls isnt everything (even though at your age it feels like that). all you need is one to make you happy. be yourself. stay true to what you want and dont change for anyone.

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forrest.zealot offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 1 week ago (3 weeks, 1 day after post)

アンドリュー wrote:
17 and in college? What country is that?
I am 17 and ugly too, only thing I don’t have in common with you is my weight
I say go out and exersize, get more sleep, and talk to people more. That is what I am doing.

Possibly England because “collage” is referred to as the second half of secondary (or high) school.

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THE INTERNET offline Verified User (1 year, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 9 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 months, 1 week ago (3 weeks, 1 day after post)

forrest.zealot wrote:

アンドリュー wrote:
17 and in college? What country is that?
I am 17 and ugly too, only thing I don’t have in common with you is my weight
I say go out and exersize, get more sleep, and talk to people more. That is what I am doing.

Possibly England because “collage” is referred to as the second half of secondary (or high) school.

ah, thank you for clearing that up
in america you are about 18 or 19 during college

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carpe_noctem offline Verified User (8 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 12 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 1 week ago (3 weeks, 1 day after post)

you need a higher self esteem. guys with confidence are way more apealing, despite any weight or looks problems. stop moping and tink about aspects of yourself you like.

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stratanpete offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 4 months ago (4 weeks, 1 day after post)

Look i faced the same problems as you i was extremely overweight 2 years ago imagin a 15 y.o with over 95 kilos… still i didn’t loose confidence and i tried my best to change myself,but still even back then people noticed that i wanted to changed and they apreciated it.I mean you have to show everyone that you are willing to do your best.

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